Zhao Shiyin is a Chinese teacher and class teacher, and she often communicates with students.

Because she is more friendly, there are many students in the class who are willing to talk to her about their troubles.

It's good if she can help students, but often she doesn't know how to solve a lot of troubles.

For example, the last time Liu Yuan's incident happened, Zhao Shiyin has always been worried about it.

Psychological counselors are more often like a trash can for negative emotions, and if Zhao Shiyin is asked to be a psychological counselor, she feels that she will soon have psychological problems.

"The biggest feeling, ......"

Yuan Jia thought for a while and said, "Psychological counseling is not a panacea. ”

Zhao Shiyin nodded and asked, "Then you come into contact with those visitors every day, will you feel unbearable?"

Li Ying also added: "Yes, yes, if a friend usually tells me something bad, I feel bad after listening to it, and I heard that many psychological counselors end up having to see a psychiatrist by themselves......

Yuan Jia looked at the two girls in the rearview mirror and smiled: "It's true, I was like this at the beginning, but after changing my thinking, I was able to adapt." ”

"The key is to improve yourself, the clients who come to psychological counseling, their own aura is very low, carrying all kinds of negative emotions and energy, if my aura is also insufficient, the interaction will be finished together. ”

Seeing that Yuan Jia said it easily, Zhao Shiyin and Li Ying also laughed.

"And what kind of people are they?"

"They've just been through a little bit more than the average person, and they've just gotten into some kind of dilemma. ”

Yuan Jia drove steadily, looked ahead, and continued: "They know that the current situation is not good, but they don't know why it has become the way it is, and they don't know which step is wrong, just like a lost person who lacks a guide. ”

"Do you know what the visitor said to me the most?"

"He said, 'I really want to get better.'"

"His depression is very serious, but it does not hinder his kindness, I taught him a lot of methods, but he really can't do it, when I talk to him, three out of ten sentences are sorry. ”

"Whenever this happens, I feel very powerless, counseling is not a panacea, even if I give him the right method, it may not be able to relieve his pain. ”

Probably because Yuanjia's words touched the emotions of the two girls, and they both quieted down.

Behind the sunshine, such a group of people, they need courage to even live.

"Then Yuanjia, will you sympathize with them?"

"They don't need sympathy from others, and I never sympathize with visitors, but I will try to understand them and do my best to understand them. ”

Zhao Shiyin nodded and said, "The most beautiful words in the world are probably that I understand you." ”

Yuan Jia smiled and said, "The biggest lie in the world also makes me understand you." ”

"A teenager who has been neglected by his family since he was a child told me that every Mother's Day, there are always a lot of words of gratitude in the circle of friends, and he doesn't understand what it feels like to be grateful. ”

"There is also a girl who has been beaten all over her body by her parents since she was a child, she said that she always does not do anything well, she makes mistakes in everything, she does not dare to look up in the eyes of others, and occasionally once or twice when she does well, she tells herself that she is just lucky. ”

"There are a lot of examples like this, and in the face of their problems, I can't even say the words 'I understand you', like a thousand pounds, I can't understand what he has gone through, and then I have to persuade him to look away?"

"That's probably the torture that every counselor has. ”

As he spoke, Yuanjia thought back to his former visitors, and at that time he couldn't empathize with them, and he couldn't help them at all.

Zhao Shiyin can also feel Yuan Jia's helplessness, just like she listened to the students' troubles, she wanted to help the other party, but she didn't know where to start.

"Yuanjia...... Is there any way we can help them?"

"Yes, and I'm working in that direction right now. ”

Yuan Jia continued: "Many people actually want to treat others well, especially their relatives, friends, and lovers, but because they have never been treated well, they really don't know what to do. ”

"Ordinary people can't imagine or feel things they have never experienced, and all I can do is understand them as best I can. ”

"Understand their experience, understand their pain, and then give him a real experience of being 'treated well'. ”

This is the method that Yuan Jia researched after learning the relevant knowledge of hypnosis and heart anchor last night.

Under the premise of empathy, he can hypnotize the client, and then implant a beautiful heart anchor in their heart.

Similar to surgery, removing the diseased thinking and replacing it with a healthy mind can effectively alleviate the patient's mental pain.

Hypnotherapy is a commonly used method in psychological counseling, but there are only a handful of psychologists who can really use it well, and most of the time it only plays a soothing role.

The more I have been a counselor for a long time, the more I feel the lack of verbal power, especially for people who have been traumatized in their hearts since childhood.

Common colds and fevers can be solved by taking medicine, but when a malignant tumor grows on the body, it must be surgically removed to restore health.

Of course, hypnotherapy is not suitable for all patients with mental illness, such as schizophrenia, consciousness disorders, etc., hypnosis cannot be used, otherwise it will make the disease more serious.

Xu Nanyi's social phobia, agoraphobia, and depression are very suitable for treatment with hypnosis.

It's just that she has been ill for nearly 20 years, and both her personality and thinking have been seriously eroded, and now is not the best time to receive hypnotherapy.

At least she has to be able to meet Yuan Jia, so that Yuan Jia can better help her, and now it seems that except for Yuan Jia, Gardenia completely rejects any outsiders, and even sees someone on the balcony from a distance, she will hide in the house in a panic.

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Now it is a small rush hour after work, there is a slight traffic jam on the road, Yuan Jia is not anxious, unlike many people who drive, they are upset and irritable when they encounter traffic jams.

In fact, if there are other girls sitting in the car, the boys must remember not to be irritable because of the traffic jam, they will feel scared, especially when carrying the girl they like.

"Traffic jam, it's annoying......"

"Yuanjia, I'm really sorry to let you send us off, and then there was a traffic jam. ”

The two sisters looked more anxious than Yuan Jia, Yuan Jia just smiled, her aura was calm and peaceful, and she felt very comfortable in the eyes of the two girls.

"Eh, Yuanjia, I remember a discussion question that the teacher asked before, saying that you are driving a train, there are four children playing on the track in front of you, and a child on the track around the corner is shouting hoarsely to leave your companions, there are two choices, if you still move forward, you will bump into four children, but if you change lanes, you will only bump into one child, what will your choice be?"

Li Ying asked curiously.

Yuan Jia didn't think about it, and replied, "Don't change." ”

"Why?"

"Why should one innocent person bear the mistakes made by four people?"

Li Ying and Zhao Shiyin nodded thoughtfully and approvingly.

Yuan Jia put his hand on the steering wheel, started the car, and continued: "Actually, there is a more difficult problem. ”

"What is it?"

"Suppose the captain changed lanes and hit the child, and the child miraculously survived, which caused a huge trauma to his psyche, at this time, as a psychological counselor, what should you do?"

Yuan Jia's question directly asked Zhao Shiyin and Li Ying.

What to do?

Persuade him to look at the open point?

Tell him to understand what the conductor does?

The two girls shook their heads and asked, "What will you do then, Yuanjia?"

"I couldn't do anything, so I chose not to do anything. ”

Yuanjia said: "There is no way to reverse time and fill this wound, for the parties involved, this matter is not said to be in the past, it is really over." ”

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The car stopped in front of a community, Zhao Shiyin and Li Ying arrived, and waved goodbye to Yuanjia.

"Let's play together another day. ”

"Okay, goodbye~"

"Bye-bye~"

Watching the car drive away, Li Ying poked Zhao Shiyin, who was still stunned.

"What do you want?"

"No, I'm thinking about what Yuanjia just said. ”

"Dr. Yuan is really a handsome guy who understands people very well and is very considerate. ”

Li Ying sighed, and poked Zhao Shiyin's weakness with a racket, "Eh, do you really give up?" Although my sister and I hurt you all day long, you are also very good, don't you try to pursue it?"

Zhao Shiyin said speechlessly: "Don't make trouble, Yuanjia already has someone you like." ”

"Then like to like, isn't this still together, you still have a chance, but the opponent is hidden in the shadows, and you are really difficult......"

"What opponent...... I love being single. ”

"Yo yo~~"

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