Xu Yi is a student in the second class of applied psychology, and like many students who choose this major independently, the purpose of her choice of psychology is to better understand herself and her inner world.

However, individual cognition is limited after all, especially in the profession of psychological counselor, if you want to help others through psychological counseling, you need to go to psychological counseling often and need to have your own supervision.

Yuan Jia's psychological supervisor is Director Chen, and he also learned a lot from him at the beginning, so that he can look at his inner world more objectively.

At four o'clock in the afternoon, Xu Yi came to Yuanjia's psychological counseling room on time, and after ringing the doorbell, he waited quietly.

Then I saw a little sister running out of the house, leaning over and trying to press the switch next to the glass door, but it was not high enough, and she couldn't reach it.

Xu Yi thought it was interesting, so he leaned down, waved his hand to Huihui through the glass door, and said with a smile: "Hi~!"

Yuan Jia came out, he opened the door and invited Xu Yi in.

"Good afternoon, Mr. Yuan. ”

Xu Yi folded his hands in front of him and bent down slightly to say hello to Yuan Jia.

"Xiaoyi, you're okay. ”

Yuan Jia responded with a smile, turned sideways, and invited her into the house with a flat hand.

"Hello sister!"

Huihui said hello crisply, staring at Xu Yi with big eyes without blinking.

This is also a beautiful sister, at least more beautiful than the head teacher, young, with long hair, and the smell of fragrance on her body.

"Ah, hello, what's your name?"

Xu Yi squatted down to talk to Yuan Hui.

"My name is Yuan Waste!"

"The flower of flowers. Yuan Jia reminded, "This is my sister." ”

"So cute......"

Xu Yi took Yuan Hui's little hand, she especially likes children, let alone such a good-looking little Lori.

"Just now I thought it was Teacher Yuan's daughter, but I remembered that the teacher is not married yet, haha. ”

"He's my brother!"

As the three of them spoke, Ika walked out of the equipment room slowly.

Seeing such a big little fat cat, Xu Yi's eyes lit up, so she squatted and beckoned to Ika, and learned to meow while learning to meow, she likes cute children and small animals the most.

I haven't started consulting yet, but just seeing the combination of Yuanhui and Ika, I feel that today's mood is beautiful.

Yuan Hui picked up Ika, and the little fat cat was stretched into long noodles, and the flesh on her face was squeezed together.

Xu Yi took the opportunity to touch its big head, and the plush feel was particularly comfortable.

"It's so cute~!"

"Meow. ”

"Come in and talk. ”

"Uh-huh. ”

Yuan Jia opened the door of the office, picked up the remote control on the desk and turned on the air conditioner, under the sunset, the office was bright, and with the cool wind blowing from the air conditioner, Xu Yi felt very comfortable.

She just came from the school, and she didn't tell any classmates that Sunan was still very hot at three or four o'clock, and Teacher Yuan turned on the air conditioner very carefully.

casually took out a bottle of refrigerated juice from the refrigerator and put it in front of Xu Yi.

He didn't pour tea for Xu Yi, from her psychology and behavior, it can be speculated to a large extent her usual taste, juice is almost a drink that girls will like.

He knew all kinds of details at his fingertips, and he didn't need to say it with his mouth, which invisibly made Xu Yi feel very comfortable.

It was as if he had come to the house of a friend he had known for many years, and he could know all her little hobbies and habits, so that the little nervousness at the beginning disappeared invisibly.

In the process of psychological counseling, what really plays a role is actually the short hour or two of getting along and chatting itself, which is at the emotional level.

Through interviews and relationship combing, the client's inner world is opened, the connection between the two is established, and the client is guided to express and tell a certain part of the inner emotion, and the counselor accommodates and empathizes with this part of the emotion, which is an unprecedented experience for the client.

She can feel that she is understood, cared for, and respected, and her emotions are being listened to, even if it is anger, whining, complaining and other negative emotions, they can be expressed to the other party and accepted by the other party.

The relief and relaxation brought about by this counseling relationship is the most important purpose of psychological counseling.

Suggestion or something, in fact, is just embellishment, to the level of Yuanjia, he can easily empathize with most of the client's emotions, even if he doesn't say a word the whole time, just listen quietly, the visitor will also have a feeling of 'speaking all the things in his heart, so happy'.

People who come to counseling subjectively think that they are here to 'seek advice', but in fact they are not, what they need most is not advice, but 'analysis' and 'understanding'

If these two requirements are not met, then all the 'suggestions' are nonsense, and if these two requirements are met, then the suggestions are actually dispensable, and the visitors have a clear understanding of their inner world, and they know better what they should do in the future.

"Teacher Yuan, will I think I'm weird, obviously I'm studying psychology, and I can't even solve my own problems......

"Of course not, if you can find your own problem, you're already better than a lot of people. ”

"I'm twenty-two years old, and that's ...... I feel like I've never liked or completely trusted someone, I'm not afraid of Mr. Yuan's jokes when I say it, I have no experience in love, everyone says that Xiaoyi is good-looking, and there should be a boyfriend, but in fact, there really isn't, it's not that I haven't liked others, it's not that others are bad, but I can't devote myself to the relationship......"

Xu Yi began to talk about his troubles, and Yuan Jia listened.

"Recently, a senior has been courting me, he is a person with high emotional intelligence, compared to me staying in the dormitory all day, he is better at interacting with people, and he is very good to me, he cares about me, in a meeting last week, he expressed his liking for me and said that he wants to be with me. ”

"He asked me if I liked him, and I didn't know how to answer at the time, so I kept saying I didn't know. ”

"Actually, I know very well that I enjoy the feeling of being loved and cared for, but at the same time I am very uneasy, I feel that I have never loved anyone, and I lack a sense of security and trust in any intimate relationship. ”

"When he confessed to me, it was as if another voice was saying in my heart: "He's lying to you." ”

"He may just see the good side of me, and I'm afraid he'll find out I'm not good enough. ”

"I know it's my problem, I can't trust him, I often imagine the picture of marrying and living with him, and I look forward to it, but I also often think of bad pictures, domestic violence, trivial matters, quarrels, etc. ”

"My father died when I was very young, so I have always felt lacking and often feel inferior, my mother worked alone outside the home, and I grew up in a relative's home, so I have always lived a very adrift life. ”

"I have a very cute dog, and to this day, I feel the most intimate relationship, the relationship that makes me feel safe and trusting, is this dog, I love it very much, hold it, feel its temperature, I feel very happy, this is something I have never felt in relationships. ”

"I can perceive my own problems, but I feel powerless to change them, and the feeling of not being able to trust me is very painful, and I have read a lot of books and have not found the answer. ”

"Teacher...... What should I do......"

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