Xu Jiannan said to Liu Yu very professionally: "Liu Yu, you don't need to be embarrassed by your 'addiction', first of all, this can be cured through psychotherapy." Secondly, it is just a mental illness, no different from smoking addiction, alcohol addiction, overeating, procrastination, etc. In psychology, anything that becomes an 'addiction' must make you feel happy. Because we are not happy, we seek happiness. Once we experience a certain pleasure, when we are unhappy again, we instinctively want to do the same pleasure as before. You see, there are a lot of women who choose to eat big or go on a shopping spree when they are angry or unhappy. Miraculously, it really changes their mood. Why? Anger at that time was really angry, sadness was really sad, why did this kind of behavior heal them? Because of happiness. Because of the pleasure. So, when they are no longer happy, they instinctively go to eat and drink or go on a shopping spree. Until addiction. When you become addicted, you will develop the idea that you want to be happy, even if there is nothing unpleasant. Gradually, binge-eating disorder, debt-riding, uncontrollable impulses, formed. It's called 'addiction'. But you're obviously not there yet, are you? If you're at that point, you can't stand your current married life. ”

Liu Yu smiled helplessly and said to Xu Jianan: "Jianan, I can't bear it, but I have no choice, you know? My legs are as thick as your waist!I just don't want to take it anymore, what can I do? Do you think I can still be a sexy stunner on the dance floor in a bar like I did now??"

"......" Xu Jiannan looked at Liu Yu who had completely lost her original self-confidence, and even her current inferiority complex began to be a manifestation of her illness. She can't face the changes in herself normally, and she can't face the changes in her life. She doesn't think her failed marriage stems from her twisted pursuits.

Thinking of this, Xu Jianan gradually began to treat her as a patient correctly, and first asked her if she had any physical or habitual abnormalities recently. Liu Yu thought for a while and said, "Abnormal...... It's quite a lot, right? I used to love cosmetics, skin care products, luxury goods, beautiful clothes and jewelry...... Now, I don't like it anymore. Nothing piques my interest anymore, nothing excites me anymore. I eat a lot now...... I'm hungry after eating, I can't do it, and I don't want to control it at all. So I got fatter and fatter, and the fatter I was, the more ugly I became, and if I was ugly, I didn't look good in anything, and then I didn't have that little preference. ”

Xu Jiannan nodded understandingly and explained to her: "Liu Yu, behind all your unhappiness, it is actually related to your own state of mind. Do you know why it is so difficult for people to be happy as we get older, because our needs grow as we grow older until we grow to the point where our abilities cannot meet them. That's when unhappiness comes. For example, when we were young, after school, we finished our homework and played games with a few children. Later, when I grew up, my love first opened, and when I met a boy I liked after school, I was happy to be able to walk home together. Later, we graduated and went to work, and having a job is happy. But is it enough to have a job? Obviously, no, we want better wages and benefits to be happy. When you're twenty years old, a luxury bag can make you happy. But today, what you want in your heart must be more than just a bag. As a result, even the things you once liked can't make you happy. Liu Yu, your happiness has never disappeared, but our standards are higher. ”

Liu Yu looked at Xu Jianan blankly, shook his head slowly, and said, "My standards are high, aren't they...... I felt like my standards had dropped again and again, to the point where I couldn't accept them. ”

"The reason why you feel like it's going down again and again is because the bar was so high that it was never met. Xu Jianan said the truth frankly.

Liu Yu sighed a little helplessly: "Maybe what you said is right, I just feel that I wasted all my youth and gained nothing in the end." I knew that this would be the case in the end, and I would rather go out and sell it at the beginning, would I have been able to exchange it for some money?"

Xu Jianan looked at her sympathetically, frowned slightly, and said, "Don't be like this, why bother to be so self-indulgent and spoil yourself." The fact that you can come to me proves that you still want to live well, doesn't it?"

Liu Yu smiled bitterly and said, "Yes, I want to." But the idea is always good and smooth, and what about the reality? Do you know why I decided to come to you? Because I gradually began to lose my memory, like I had to cook, and I had all the ingredients bought, and I was in the kitchen, and I was just standing there looking at the ingredients, and my mind was blank, and I just couldn't cook. Such a situation, in the eyes of others, is deliberate. My mother-in-law would sneer at me several times when she saw me distracted, and would sneer and say something like 'if you don't want to work, just say it, don't play dead'. When this comes to my ears, I will be in worse shape than before. Then I couldn't sleep night after night. ”

"Your depression is obvious, you're great to be able to come to me. But I hope you can stick to it. In my eyes, you will always be that beautiful and confident woman. There may be a lot of disappointments in real life, so please give life a little time, it will give you all you deserve. ”

Liu Yu's expression relaxed slightly, and he looked at Xu Jiannan and asked, "Do you usually treat other patients like this?" Fill them with chicken soup for the soul, give them confidence and encouragement, so that they can find a reason to live." ”

Xu Jianan smiled faintly: "Everyone's life has something that makes them crazy. Life itself is not easy. We should all find a reason for ourselves to live, and we must live well. ”

"Are you going to ...... How to treat me?" Liu Yu looked at Xu Jiannan seriously.

Xu Jiannan also said frankly: "The familiarity between us makes this work a little complicated. Because it is difficult for me to guide your state of mind, you will have an acquaintance's 'prejudice' against me. So I suggest that in addition to talking, we can also hypnosis to make you have a good dream physically and mentally. And, of course, with some medications. ”

"Does taking medicine really work? Can there really be a medicine that can make you feel better?" Liu Yu questioned.

Xu Jianan smiled: "It's not as exaggerated as you say, medicine can't make you feel better, but at least it can ensure that you won't go to extremes because you're in a bad mood." The only one who can control your mood is yourself. And, depression isn't about being in a bad mood. A bad mood can be relieved at any time, but depression is a prolonged, persistent slump and negativity. The main difference is that depression can have physical reactions, such as insomnia or drowsiness, binge eating or anorexia, memory loss, difficulty concentrating, inability to control one's behavior, and so on. ”

"I tried to tell Li Xin that I had depression, but guess...... What did he say?" Liu Yu looked at Xu Jiannan sadly. Then he laughed self-deprecatingly and said, "He said I was hypocritical." He made me compare myself with the people in the mountainous areas who have no food, no electricity, and no roads, and I know how hypocritical I am. He said that I was just too uncomfortable to be idle, like a sanitation worker, who got up early every day and swept the streets of the city in the dark, so I was not depressed...... He said that I was just full of food, and if I couldn't even eat, then all I could think about was eating, and I didn't feel good or bad. I'm starving to death, and giving a steamed bun is happiness......"

Xu Jiannan looked at Liu Yu's eyes slightly red, and thoughtfully handed her a tissue.

Liu Yu took it, wiped his eyes and said: "Sometimes I hear too many such words, and I even think that what he said may be reasonable!!Is it true that I am really self-inflicted and hypocritical? Is it really that I am not good enough, that I am too bad, that my husband will be so cold to me? my marriage will fail like this? my life will be ......?" The grievances that have accumulated on weekdays are finally vented in front of Xu Jiannan today. She can finally stop caring about her image in the eyes of outsiders, no longer have to pretend to be a broad wife to save face, starting from a breakthrough, from small things to big things, talking too much, and she really has no scruples at all.

Xu Jiannan looked at Liu Yu, who was crying bitterly on the other side, and felt very uncomfortable. When it comes to love and marriage, no counselor can tell her what is right. Even in the face of extreme issues of principle, some people have the right to choose to part ways and become a butterfly and be reborn, and some people have the right to choose to forgive each other and save their marriage as much as possible. Others will never be able to solve the problems in the world of two. What Xu Jiannan can do for her is to make her cry, give her thoughtful psychological counseling, so that she can have a place to talk to, have a personal understanding, and then through drugs, her depression level can gradually improve. But if you jump out of the identity of a doctor, Liu Yu's married life determines her mood and state. The likelihood of wanting to go back to the way things were is very low, and I just hope that the vicious circle will not continue. I can't help but sigh that the person who wants the most has nothing in the end. The biggest person who dreams to do, the last one is empty.