() Xu Jiannan heard that Liu Yu's topic finally turned to the topic, so he began to explain to her: "Of course it's not like that. Depression in the eyes of most people is biased. For example, you have to have trouble sleeping, you have to go through a lot of setbacks, you have to think about not wanting to eat, you have to lose weight enough to get their attention. This is not the case. Anorexia is a disease, and bulimia is also an expression of emotion. Sometimes, it is precisely because there is nowhere to vent depression that food is used as an outlet. Liu Yu, on this issue, you have to believe me, don't feel inferior because of the prejudices of others. ”

Liu Yu calmed down a little and said: "Inferiority, I am indeed inferior." I used to think that I was the best, the best, if not the best, enough to live the life I wanted to live. But time passed little by little, and I got older day by day, and when I was about 20 years old, I began to get a little nervous. So I started to speed up the pace of finding a man. ”

"Would you like to talk to me about your marriage? Xu Jiannan tried to make the atmosphere of the topic as relaxed as possible.

I saw Liu Yu say indifferently: "I didn't introduce Li Xin to you at that time, because I really didn't think there was any need to introduce him." I met him through someone else's introduction, and you saw him, not the type I see. However, at that time, the introducer said that Li Xin's father was a district leader and his family conditions were very good. So I agreed to contact him. But then I slowly realized that he was not a big leader at all, just a civil servant, a car of 200,000 yuan, and a house in the suburbs. But you also know, Jia Nan, buying a house has become a luxury in today's society. How can ordinary people afford a place like the one we are sitting here now, which costs more than 100,000 square meters? Some of the men I dated before didn't even have a dilapidated room in the suburbs. I have a house, and I don't really plan to marry me at all. As she spoke, Liu Yu took out a cigarette, she knew that smoking must not be allowed here, so she took it in her hand and played with it, and continued: "I don't know if it's because the footsteps of age are too tight, I have done plastic surgery several times, and I haven't succeeded in catching a golden beetle." If it drags on any longer, I'm afraid that plastic surgery won't be able to save me, and when the time comes, I won't even be able to mix up with a broken house in the suburbs, isn't it even more sad? ”

Xu Jianan does not agree with her views, nor does he agree with her outlook on life and values. She has been working hard to "fish" a golden beetle son-in-law for half her life, and Xu Jiannan doesn't understand the meaning of this. Instead of this, why don't she cultivate herself well? But now, she wants to jump out of her friend's perspective and listen to Liu Yu's words from the perspective of a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist has to deal with her psychological problems, not the three views. So Xu Jianan nodded and motioned for her to continue.

Liu Yu smiled bitterly and said, "It's good to think about it, and the sky doesn't fulfill people's wishes." I had already lowered the conditions to such a low level, but I didn't expect that ten days before I got married, I found that the door of the new house had been smashed and the glass had been broken. After calling the police, I learned that his family had bought this house at an incredibly low price and was cheated

, one room for two sales. So, another family came to make trouble. That's why on the day of the wedding, I didn't let anyone go to the new house, because the house couldn't be entered at all. ”

Xu Jiannan couldn't help frowning, because she could understand the cause of Liu Yu now, it turned out that she ...... From the day she got married, she fell into depression. She thought she had lowered her criteria for choosing a mate, and finally lowered it to a larger house. Unexpectedly, there was something wrong with the house, which must be difficult for her self-esteem and vanity.

Fortunately, Li Xin's parents later came forward to solve the problem, although we could live there, but until now we have not completely figured out the problem of that house. Liu Yu was indifferent, as if he was talking about other people's things.

"Since it can be solved, there is still good hope. I remember you said at the time that he was very good to you and honest, but his life after marriage was not as good as you wanted?" asked Xu Jianan.

Speaking of this, Liu Yu suddenly smiled: "Hahaha, yes, yes, he is an honest man, and he is good to me, so when I got married for twenty-three, I was slapped twice in the hotel outside in front of my friends." ”

Xu Jianan's eyes widened in surprise again. If it was another patient confiding in her, no matter what was said, she would have been listening carefully and would never have an emotional expression. Because the counselor's expression can affect the person who is talking, such as if she is angry, if the listener's expression shows that she is unfair or upset, then it is obvious that the person who is talking will be more angry. Therefore, as a good listener, the most basic requirement is not to shake the emotions of the person who hints at the confidant.

But today's patients are special, even if they don't have much contact with each other later, but when they are children, they are neighbors who live in front of their homes. Xu Jiannan knows that at least when she was young, she had to be in a state of being a queen high up in every object that Liu Yu came into contact with. For example, let a man wear shoes for her, let a man pay for her, humiliate her in public, and let a man humbly coax her, all of which can meet her psychological needs. In this way, she has indeed never suffered any loss in face. One can imagine how much of a blow to her self-esteem and high pride in the hotel after being beaten in front of her friends in the twenty-three days of marriage.

Xu Jiannan didn't use a pen to record, but she had silently written down the case for Liu Yu in her heart. All these things that surprised her were the accelerants for Liu Yu's depression.

Liu Yu didn't feel any shame, and naturally said to Xu Jianan: "You know, I'm a temperamental person, and I wanted to go home at that time." When I went back to pack my luggage, Li Xin and his parents didn't stop me. At that time, I knew that I didn't think I had a crush on them, but they didn't even like me. Hahahaha, you say it's ridiculous. At that moment, I suddenly began to think, where am I going to go home, to go back to that thirty-square-meter cage, to continue to watch my parents quarrel? If so, I think I'd rather stay here. As long as they give me a step down. ”

Xu Jianan frowned slightly. It is really difficult to say how much the misfortune of childhood affects a person. Whether it is a good influence or a bad influence, it has the potential to directly affect a person's life. Liu Yu's current situation, if analyzed purely from a psychological point of view, every decision she made independently when she was growing up was related to her family.

For example, she has been dating different men since she was about fifteen years old, and she is very happy to move around with all kinds of men in order to find her sense of being valued, needed, and desired. Behind it is her desire to be loved. After that, she began to blindly seek material pursuits, and was bent on finding a rich golden beetle son-in-law. Xu Jianan remembered that when she was twenty years old, even if it was a pair of shoes that were not too expensive, she had to ask a man to pay for her so that she could be happy. Actually, behind this, it is also because of her family. She has no sense of security, and needs to use material things, vanity, to satisfy her sense of security and self-esteem. She has to show that she is better than others in order to survive those days of chickens and dogs. Secondly, it is because her parents are each for themselves, and no one really cares about her. She needs to use various means to "verify" whether a person is really good to her. And the simplest and most straightforward way to verify is money.

This is how she went astray step by step, and she once complained that she couldn't meet a good man. But on the road she walked, it was just impossible for a good man to appear. So, a vicious circle.

Liu Yu hesitated for a while, and then said very struggling and entangled: "There are still some things I want to say, but I feel that I can't say it." This kind of ** thing ......"

Xu Jianan said to her knowingly: "Don't worry, today you and I are just a doctor-patient relationship." As a psychiatrist, I will definitely be responsible for all your ** secrecy and will never look at you with colored glasses between friends. All you have to do is treat me as a doctor and tell me what you want to talk about. ”

Liu Yu struggled for a while, and finally said the same: "A few years before I got married, there was a time when I even felt like I had a sex addiction. Only then can I experience happiness, and then I will change to a different man every day. Gradually, I felt that something was not right with my body, and I began to control myself. Later, I met Li Xin, and at the beginning, he was quite normal. But after we got married, we didn't have a married life. I thought he was sick, and I knew that one day, I got up in the middle of the night and saw him ...... in the toilet" Liu Yu couldn't go on, she nodded a little angrily and said: "Yes, when he knew me, I was only 100 pounds, and now I weigh this weight, I'm afraid he has no idea." So he'd rather figure it out on his own than look for me. ”

Xu Jianan thought that this was another inducement. Depression is actually like this, except for the physiological lesions, most of them are caused by one by one, and the slightest pressure is full of accumulation. And it is not a single piece of bumpiness that has caused deep damage. Among Liu Yu's personality characteristics, the strongest character performance is to save face, to be perfect, and to be the best. As a result, after getting married, she gradually found that she couldn't get anything, and she couldn't even fulfill the most basic husband and wife obligations. This is another blow to her, who was used to being used to "wind and snow".