After the Spring Festival in 2013, my mother wanted to go back to her hometown because she really missed her father, who had been gone for more than half a year. Mother's uncle's house, sister's house to relax, in this regard I never ask my mother to do anything, as long as she is happy is everything, my mother in the hometown to play for three months after wanting to go back to Kunshan, that day is still a working day, I went to the direct station to pick her up, when I took her from the bus station to the townhouse, it was noon meal time, I helped her to carry the big bags of luggage from the car to the house, after my mother got off the car into the house to change shoes, one by one the luggage packages were taken inside, my wife she stood at the door of the place indifferentAfter lunch, my mother helped wash the dishes in the kitchen, so I walked to her side and chatted with her, asking her about her joy after going home this time, who knew that the first thing my mother said to me was: "Son, I went home, my daughter-in-law stood at the door and didn't call my mother, is I not welcome to come back?!".

"No, Mom, she called you, her voice has always been quite soft, your ears are relatively back, maybe you didn't hear it at all!", after a while muttering in my heart, I helped her cover up, but this daughter-in-law doesn't call people, and my father also told me when he was alive: The daughter-in-law never called him Dad!

"Wife, I want to ask you something: When my mother came home at noon, you stood at the door and didn't call her mother?", on the way back to work after dinner in the afternoon, I asked her sitting in the passenger seat while driving the car.

"Yes, yes!", she replied to me without thinking.

"Then why don't you call someone? This is the most basic etiquette and politeness! Besides, I've never seen your parents not call people! No wonder my father told me when he was alive that you never called him daddy!", I was a little angry, but I still patiently reasoned with her.

"I'm not happy to shout, what's the matter?", she seemed even more impatient than I was.

"You have no family education and basic performance of quality, and one day in the future our daughter-in-law will not call your mother when she enters the door, how do you feel?!", I looked ahead and asked her.

"I'm not fucking happy to call your parents, how about it?", she didn't seem to realize the seriousness and seriousness of the problem, but kept provoking my bottom line.

"How?", she completely ignited the anger that I had been trying to suppress in my heart, when I finished saying these three words, I was driving the car with my right hand towards her in the passenger seat is a fist, at this time the car has driven to the door of the Kuncheng New Town Community on Louyuan Road.

"How dare you hit me?", she asked me with surprise on her face, covering her left cheek, and waving her fist at me.

"I'll teach you how to be a person today, what are the rules of tutoring!", then I parked the car at the door of the Kuncheng community and beat her fatly, and when she no longer dared to fight back, I stopped and continued to drive, "Next time, you dare to see the old lady don't shout, I will hit you once!", I shouted at her at the top of my voice, this is the first time we have been married for so many years, but somehow, after the beating, I feel much more comfortable in my heart.

Because the hand is not light, her jaw is a little dislocated, and she can't eat hard things for almost a week, she insists on divorcing me, divorce and divorce, I haven't done anything wrong, who is afraid of whom?! Seeing that the matter was deadlocked, my mother-in-law and my mother were also persuading the two of us on the side, and my mother-in-law did not dare to tell the grumpy father-in-law about this matter, but she and I seemed to not leave the frame of not stopping, and my mother-in-law had to call her uncle who was 12 years older than me to come to my house to mediate and persuade peace, and my uncle was much more reasonable than my violent father-in-law.

After my uncle came, I told my uncle the ins and outs of the matter in front of my mother-in-law and my mother, and he was silent for a long time, and then offered the words of fifty boards each: "It's really rude and wrong for her not to call her mom and dad, but it's also wrong for you to beat her, it's reasonable, how can you be rude, you all have to correct your mistakes......."

I also have a belly of fire in my heart, and I can't swallow this breath: "Yes, I don't want to beat people, I want to communicate with her well, but there is no way to communicate, she has to deliberately provoke you to get angry, when you are so angry that you can't bear it, what will you do, uncle?

"Okay, okay, you all have to correct this matter today in the future, especially not calling the elders, it is indeed rude!", the uncle seemed to understand the reason why I started to beat her.

Three years later, her eighty-nine-year-old grandmother passed away, and at her funeral, because her uncles and uncles also came to pay for the funeral, I accompanied my mother-in-law's brothers and sisters (elders) at dinner in the evening. My uncle in Suzhou, who once helped me start my business, said to me at the dinner table: "Chairman Ping has repeatedly emphasized the important exposition of family style and tutoring, what do you think?!" I replied: "I think *** said very correctly, this is also the tradition of the Chinese, good family style and tutoring are also the cornerstone of consolidating the Chinese dream, the foundation of social stability and harmony; three years ago my wife was beaten by me for this matter!".

"Why did you hit her?" asked the father-in-law, who was sitting diagonally opposite, dissatisfied, and looked at the thin mother-in-law with fierce eyes, probably blaming her for not telling him.

"Dad, since we got married, has there ever been a time when I have seen you and my mother-in-law not calling you?

"Not really, never!", he said, matter-of-factly, holding a wine glass.

"But, do you know that your daughter never calls me mom and dad?", I told him the reason and the truth in front of all the elders, "I reasoned with her well, she was still fierce-mouthed, and she had no tutor at all, so I taught her a lesson!", the father-in-law pinched his nose after hearing this, and said nothing, and left the table for some reason, and all the people present looked at me with dumbfounded eyes, and I knew the meaning of their eyes for fear of causing a "third world war".

Later, at the beginning of my speech at the parent-teacher meeting of my daughter's class, I wrote: **Ping*** In my discussion on family, tutoring and family style, it was clearly pointed out that family is the first classroom of life, and parents are the first teachers of children. Family style is the spiritual core of the family and an important part of the social atmosphere. As an integral part of the social cell, a good family style and family education can promote children to form a good and healthy outlook on life, values and world view in the process of growing up, and every child with good moral character is also the foundation and source of power to ensure the healthier development of our nation. Therefore, in my opinion, children's moral character education and the learning of cultural knowledge are equally important and indispensable! In the process of family education, we have always adhered to the principle that words are better than examples, and we parents take the lead in doing what children are required to do......