Xu Jiannan is a professional psychiatrist enough, she knows too well that at this moment, if she persuades Zhou Chen to "tomorrow will be better", it will only cause his disgust and anger. His mental illness has always been a hidden danger, even after his last recovery. In this case, the symptoms that erupt due to intense stimulation can only be more severe than before. His suicidal tendencies are so evident and have been put into action. Xu Jiannan glanced at the dazzling white gauze on his wrist, knowing that he was a knife under the vertical knife, and Zhou Chen was real.

In modern society, suicide is one of the top 10 causes of death for human beings. Especially in the past 50 years, the suicide rate has directly increased by 60 percent. From 18 to 24 years old, from 15 to 44 years old, it has even been ranked as the third leading cause of death. To study psychology and psychiatry, it is essential to study suicidal behavior. Because as a psychologist, in addition to making the patient's mind and spirit normal, it is of course more important to do our best to save their lives, just like all medical workers. According to statistics, more than one million people die by suicide every year in the world, with an average of 40 seconds and a suicide attempt almost every 3 seconds. What a terrible data, but it is so true that it is not easy for everyone to live. No one's life is smooth sailing, and no one's life can really be quiet forever. From a psychological point of view, suicide not only harms the individual, but also has a huge psychological impact on at least the other six people involved in it, as well as on the community, family, psychological, social and economic aspects. It has to be admitted that suicide has become one of the main problems affecting human lifespan. Zhou Chen is not the first, not the only one, and not the last. Every time he encounters such a patient, Xu Jianan feels that the responsibility on his shoulders is very heavy, and he is not much easier than the doctor on the operating table. A mistake may be a human life, and Xu Jianan, if you say a wrong word, it may also be a human life. In contrast, professional and precise medical technology seems to be much easier than this ethereal struggle of consciousness.

Suicidal behavior generally falls into three forms, the first is suicidal ideation with the intention to die, but no action is taken. Then there are suicide attempts that are intended to destroy the self but do not result in death. In the end, it was a deliberate act of self-destruction, which eventually led to death. Generally speaking, it is indeed a minority that has actually progressed from suicidal ideation to the end of life by suicide. Because in psychological work, it will be very clear that almost everyone in modern people has more or less self-destructive thoughts. But there are more people who have calmed down after all. But Zhou Chen is different, he is calm enough, not because of impulse, not because of thoughts, but because he is absolutely calm and knows that he really doesn't want to live. And it can be seen that the way he chooses is very intense.

In fact, not only Zhou Chen, in terms of psychological factors, mental stress is the key factor in suicide. Major negative life events can be a direct trigger, such as seeing the "beloved" who broke him down in his already dangerous mental state. Studies have shown that in the first three months of suicide, there are more similar negative events than normal people, and these events are generally characterized by "loss", often causing an obvious individual response. When a person is in some kind of chronic pain, it should

The negative part of the excitation often acts as a "trigger", completely triggering suicidal behavior. Zhou Chen's situation this time is a typical one.

In fact, most of the real suicide intervention is to be carried out in daily life. Xu Jianan's short consultation time cannot solve all the problems. Giving him temporary relief is the first priority. As for the rest of the situation, Xu Jiannan is more about talking to his family.

Xu Jiannan thought about all the reactions that might happen to Zhou Chen in his heart, and then he said thoughtfully: "Zhou Chen, I know all your story, and we have talked a lot in the past six months. We all know that your problem is that you never let go. But is it really your ex-girlfriend that you can't let go? I think, if it were, you wouldn't have betrayed her again and again. What you can't let go of is the self who was once in love and desperate. What I can't let go of is that there was once a girl who could love you with nothing else, follow you, and want to marry you. When one day, you find that this girl who you originally thought would love you for the rest of her life can leave you, and even smile brighter after leaving you? But if you really love her, you will be willing to see her happier. So, your breakdown doesn't come from her, it's from yourself. What you can't accept is what you were able to control, not only out of your control, but also into what you didn't expect. I think you must have thought that when you see her again, even if she is not doing well, even if she is tortured like you? Your heart will be calmer and more stable. On the contrary, the woman you see is happier by other people's side than by your side. So, all the negativity exploded. Zhou Chen, your darkness is not your parents, not your family, not your ex-girlfriend, but yourself. The way to get out of the bottomless darkness you spoke of is not to destroy lives, but to change yourself. ”

Zhou Chen listened carefully to Xu Jianan's words, and kept looking at her with both eyes, until she finished speaking, Zhou Chen hesitated and asked, "Doctor Xu, take the liberty of asking, have you ever loved someone?"

Xu Jiannan smiled slightly: "Of course." ”

Suddenly a little lucky, if there was no Lu Yan, Xu Jiannan might have taken a little courage to say this, of course. Because she probably doesn't understand Zhou Chen's so-called "love" very well, when patients ask this kind of question, most of them are weighing whether the psychiatrist is "qualified" to talk about their troubles with them.

For example, a mother who has lost a child will ask: Do you have a child? Do you know what it feels like to be a mother? For example, a woman who has lost a marriage will ask: Are you married? Do you understand what marriage is and what love is? For example, if a patient who has lost a loved one, a lover, or is forever separated from yin and yang, they will ask: Have you experienced life and death?

Behind this question, whether you say it or not, it is actually a sentence: since you can't empathize, don't stand and talk without backache and say cool things.

It's the same with Zhou Chen today, he asked, have you ever loved?

Fortunately, Xu Jiannan feels that he is now qualified to answer this question and can reverse Zhou Chen's abnormal view of love.

Xu Jianan smiled and said to Zhou Chen: "There is no need to doubt, there is also a person in my heart." And, like you, it's the first time you love someone so deeply. But Zhou Chen, do you know what the difference is between us?"

Zhou Chen seemed to suddenly be interested, and there was a curious look in his eyes, as if he really wanted to know about the love of Xu Jianan, a psychiatrist who talked eloquently.

Xu Jianan felt that this was a good start, at least he was willing to listen to how her love was different from his.

Xu Jiannan put down the pen and case in his hand, and said to Zhou Chen in a very relaxed way: "I understand your emotions of understanding what it feels like to love someone for the first time. Because in a person's life, there may only be one real struggle. When you meet the next person, even if you can still love, you can't get back the courage and vigor you had at the beginning. But Zhou Chen, if you love someone, you should hope that the other party can be happy. As long as he's good, I feel like I can back down. If, our identities are reversed, then if I see my lover smiling more happily when he is with another person, then I am willing to give in. Love is not necessarily possession and receiving. Sometimes, it's more symbolic of giving and losing. At the same time, you have to learn to love yourself while loving others. If you don't even love yourself, how can you tell me with your head held high that you love her? Maybe one day, you will learn to love yourself first, and then you will learn to love the people around you. The previous experience is regarded as youth. Youth and the past are gone. What do you say?"

Zhou Chen lowered his head thoughtfully and whispered, "Love...... Is it a concession, is it a giveaway, is it a loss...... So why do we still love?"

"Don't you think that at least the process of loving someone is also worth celebrating and comforting? Not to mention, you have been loved. I believe that girl really loved you in her good years. No matter what happens later, isn't it a kind of luck that you have been loved so deeply by a girl?" She looked at Zhou Chen sincerely, until she saw a smile on his face.

The somewhat bleak wry smile gave Xu Jiannan some confidence. She continued to encourage: "Think about it, the good memories you have received will always belong to you. Don't add more sadness to the good. Nothing is more important than being alive, for who you are, for the people you love, and for the people who love you. This is true even for the people who once loved you. Zhou Chen, think about it, you have come through so many sorrows and difficulties in the past, and now you have just begun to learn to let go, learn to live a normal life, and you can't stop when you come here. The road ahead may not be easy, and it will not be easy, but as long as you live, it will eventually pass. ”

Zhou Chen looked at Xu Jiannan gratefully, such a painstaking persuasion seemed to be beyond the scope of a psychiatrist's guidance. He could feel Xu Jianan's intentions, and Xu Jianan's care. At least...... There is also such a psychiatrist who is willing to care about him like a friend or relative. What he needs is sometimes an affirmation. couldn't stand the feeling of being ignored and abandoned, but at this moment he felt a trace of warmth in his heart.