In 2015, it was my daughter's turn to graduate from kindergarten in the blink of an eye, considering that I had suffered a lot of losses and taken a lot of detours in my son's reading and education, I felt the same "mistake" I can't make a mistake a second time, so after signing the purchase agreement, I am thinking about whether it is better to enroll my daughter in an international school, firstly, we are busy with work and have no time to supervise and tutor the children's homework, and secondly, the house is about to be renovated and there is no time and energy to take care of our daughter's education, we can no longer let our daughter's education have any problems, and the international school is still okay in the cultivation of children's independence, I consider letting her live in the school from the first grade. In fact, his son also lived in the first grade to study in Shanfeng Experimental Primary School, but due to the disagreement of his parents-in-law, he was reluctant to feel at ease, and his son was pampered and doted on since he was a child, and he developed his arrogant and lascivious "vice...... From time to time, my father-in-law and mother-in-law stung in the back like mosquitoes, and the teacher's eyes were full of disgust, and even every time I went to pick him up from school, we both had to hide in the car and guess the boxing: the loser went to pick up, because he had to be beaten by the teacher;

Now it's my daughter's turn to be in the first grade, fortunately, there is a fellow teacher Chen in the international school to help make up for a place, otherwise even the opportunity to interview for the entrance exam will be missed, this time she was successfully admitted to the international school, of course, I still hope that she can live in the school full care study, let her cultivate and exercise her independent living ability and collective life team support ability from an early age, so that she can develop good judgment, analysis, The ability to discern and communicate with others, because I know that when children have these four abilities, no matter where they stand in this corner of the earth, I will not worry or worry about her.

When I put forward this idea to communicate with her, I was met with her categorical rejection: "My daughter is too young, I don't worry about living in the school in the first grade, and if I have to live in the school, I will only consider it after the fourth grade!";

"When she was in the first grade, you were reluctant to be at ease; after she was in junior high school, she fell in love early and your grades dropped and you were also reluctant to be at ease; when she fell in love with college and started a family and will be a mother in the future, you are still reluctant to be at ease, just like our mother will also have a time when we are not at ease, but we will always have a day when we can't handle this heart, and sooner or later there will always be a day when we have to leave them early. As for the ability to judge and communicate with people, the ancients said: It is better to give them fish than to give them fish. From ancient times to the present, how many of those arrogant and lascivious and arrogant children have grown up?", I have the truth from ancient times to the present, but she still resolutely disagrees with her daughter's living in school, that is not angry, she is so paranoid and unreasonable,

I was furious and asked, "Don't you really think that we have not done enough in educating our sons, and how much we owe it? Do you still want to ruin your daughter's future again? Since the road we have traveled in front of us is a dead end, why should we make the same mistake again and again, and be wrong again?!"

No matter what kind of eighteen kinds of "martial arts" I have, she is "knowing that there are tigers in the mountains, and preferring to go to the tiger mountains", arbitrary and stubborn, of course, then again, it was not because of her arbitrariness and stubbornness, I am afraid that I am still a single now, or at least I want to be a single for many years! There is really no way, I can only invite my respected eldest brother to persuade her, and Teacher Chen, who helped to sign up, invited her to persuade her, and my fellow teacher Chen from the international school invited her to persuade her, and my fellow teacher Chen was stacked on the spot:" You can see how stubbornly she resists to the end ideologically, and I once admired her courage and courage to "see death as home...... But now it's not what it used to be, I want to get a noodle and hang it on the door frame!

In the face of such a "loyal and brave warrior", we must not attack, we can only outwit ah, the king of heaven and the tiger pagoda town river demon, after seeing many consecutive defeats, I thought of another plan: "Since you and I can't convince each other, let's do it, let's adopt the principle of democratic centralism, each person has 2 minutes to persuade their daughters, and the daughters decide whether to live in school or go to school, so it's always okay?!".

Well...... , don't say that this trick really works, she was fooled, when her daughter stood in front of us, she actually held back her ...... I didn't hold back a word in front of my daughter for a long time, but I just glanced at it: "I firmly oppose my daughter living in school at such a young age!"

My daughter stood in front of us with a blank face, and I said to my daughter: "Girl, Dad wants to ask you a question, you can tell me what you really think in your heart, do you hope that when you grow up and encounter difficulties, setbacks or troubles, do you hope that others will help you, save you, and pull you out, or do you hope that you can find the key to solving the problem?"

The girl replied without hesitation: "The latter one, solve it yourself!", and I encouraged her with a resolute and affirmative look: "Very good! Although Dad is not willing to let you live in the school at such a young age, but the growth process of each of us always needs more experience and precipitation, international schools are from a young age to cultivate our ability in this area, about the question of whether to live in the school, Dad and Mom have different opinions, so we want to know your choice and answer! Mom and Dad will respect your choice!".

She was smart and clever and immediately understood something, and then turned her head categorically to her mother standing opposite and said: "Mom, I choose to live in school to study, what's the big deal! Isn't it four nights a week to sleep in school, and three nights to sleep at home!", I gave her a thumbs up on the side, secretly happy in my heart, I decided to use more guided education methods in the future, and gradually cultivate the four abilities of their brothers and sisters, I know that they may not be able to get ahead in the future. Outstanding, but must be a person with good conduct, healthy mind, and gratitude.

But a few days after going to school, she came back to teach me: "Dad, how did you get mixed up before, standing on the podium all day long and being punished by the teacher so badly, do you know that good study habits are developed before the third grade?!This is what Teacher Yang said!", feeling like she hadn't read a book, "I really don't know, why don't you go and ask your grandma!", I was at a loss, it turned out that her grandmother told her all the troubles when her father was a child.

When my father lived in a townhouse before his death, he said that this child should have achievements when he grows up, and there is an old saying in our hometown that "a child looks at it from a young age, and it is half old". Yes, in the summer of 2011 after moving into the townhouse, she was only three years old and had nothing to say about her grandfather's training: her grandfather's cancer recurred, and during the recovery at home, her grandfather especially liked to sit in front of the TV in the living room to watch NBA basketball games, the weather was hot, and her grandfather only wore beach pants and sat on a low stool in front of the sofa with his bare shoulders and watched the TV game intently, she walked to the coffee table with a milk bottle in her mouth and bombarded her grandfather: "Grandpa, are you obscene?" I'm sitting here watching TV without wearing any clothes!", after saying that, he had to suck two mouthfuls of milk, and grandpa was dumbfounded by what she said, and then ran upstairs to get dressed and then came down to watch TV......

Compared with her grandfather, her father is miserable, speechless, stunned and eats like a common meal, and her grandmother said happily on the side: Your good life is over, your wife never cares about you, and your daughter will take care of you to death. One weekend night, when I just urged her to wash her teeth and wash her face and go to bed early, I used her small comb to stack the short hair on her head in her bathroom, only to hear her stand on the side and choke: "What a comb, small eyes and big nostrils plus a big cake face, that's it, I can't stand it......", you had to run out of her room in a hurry.

After her grandfather left, I went home to sweep the grave on the Qingming Festival, passing by the town where I used to work, I told the two children: "This is where your father used to work......", I didn't finish my words, "Oh...... This is where you say you're a talent?", her mother and brother sat on top of them and laughed so hard that you choked on them.

After picking her up one weekend, I was sitting on the sofa flipping through my phone, and the "little padded jacket" ran over: "Dad, do you want to eat apples?", I said casually, and after a while, she shaved two apples and washed them, one of which was handed to me, and I suddenly felt how warm and happy the world was, and I felt that the weather would cool down next week......

N minutes later, she and her brother went to buy a ruler for studying, "Dad, give me some money and I'll buy a ruler!"

"Oh, Daddy doesn't have any cash change in his pocket right now, so go get your mom to get it!",

"Then spit out the apple you just ate and give it back to me", I almost choked to death by her.

"......" In an instant, it began to snow in my world......

I thought my eloquence was already very good, but I was often speechless in front of my daughter, and on weekends in the study, her mother drank up the glass of water she had poured, and she complained on the side that she said this and that, I just said to her: "Mom is done drinking, you just pour a little more, why are you so stingy?!Do you know what your grandfather's greatest advantage is?"

"What?!"

"Your grandfather has a lot of energy, and he never cares about people, and you don't seem to have inherited this advantage?!"

"I just think the only thing I've inherited from you is your mouth!", she said in seconds.

"And what about your flatbread-like face?"

"You're just a big pie face, I'm like my mother!"

"You are so fierce to me, return the child support to me when you grow up in the future!"

"Then you have returned it to my grandmother, and she is still cooking for you at such an age, so you are not ashamed?"

It's messy, chest-pounding, and speechless......

As long as it is the weekend, she asks her mother to sleep with her, and the same is true during the winter vacation, she occupies her mother to sleep with her every day, refuses to let her sleep with her every day, and the winter vacation is almost over, I negotiated with her that day: "Hey, you can't always occupy my wife like Huang Shiren, my father sleeps cold at night, and the bed is curled up like a dog kennel!"

"No, I'll have to wait until I graduate from elementary school to pay you back. ”

"Can you borrow it for the night tonight?"

"No, you can't!"

"Dad just has some change on him, okay?"

She stopped, so, I took out a 20 yuan from my pocket, who knew she didn't look at it, I saw that it was useless and added another 20 yuan, she hesitated, I wanted to accept it, but it seemed that it was not yet to her heart, the little hand that stretched out retracted back, I took out the third 20 yuan "ruthlessly", this dead man smiled and said: "Just one night, next time the price is renegotiated!". In this way, she "sold" her mother like an old bustard, and his father was like a prostitute, dizzy!

I never knew which product said, "My daughter is Dabi's intimate little padded jacket!", I just never felt it! Because there was too little exercise, my belly was getting bigger and bigger, and I said to my wife who was in the study on the weekend: "Bad thing, bad thing, this belly is getting bigger and bigger, and it's getting more and more uncontrollable!"

"Yes, it's like a five-month-old woman!", she replied in surprise.

"Hey...... Think about how we used to be Prince Charming!", I couldn't help but feel a lot of emotion.

"Little Cotton Jacket" sat on the side and choked me silently: "There is not only one prince sitting on the white horse, but also Tang Seng, you are the reincarnation of Tang Seng, verbose!"

......

I suddenly remembered Brother Xueyou's song "My heart is like a knife"! I thought my thinking was already leaping thinking, but I realized that I was a toad, she was a frog, she jumped farther than me, and she couldn't "play" her! I really don't know which dead ghost said "My daughter is Dabi's intimate little padded jacket!", you stand up for me, I'm not done with you!

She is a smart and independent child, just turned ten years old she found her future direction, one weekend home in the middle of the dinner suddenly asked me: "Dad, I want to ask you a question, can you?"

"Of course you can, what's the problem?", I was still a little flattered by being so polite for the first time.

"What does it mean to rule the country according to law?", she suddenly threw out a question that shocked me.

"Uh......", I suddenly felt speechless, and after a pause of two or three seconds, "In a simple and narrow sense, it is the judgment, ruling and other effective legal documents of the court judge, and the secretary of the municipal party committee and the mayor must also abide by it!"

"That means the judge is bigger than the secretary and the mayor?!", she asked, in hot pursuit.

"From the perspective of governing the country according to law, it can be understood in such a narrow sense that every ** official must abide by the constraints of laws and regulations and govern according to law within the framework of the law!", I added.

"Then when I grow up, I will be a judge of the court!", she looked at me with determined eyes.

"It's great that you have ideals and ideas, and your parents are very happy! I believe that you will be able to achieve your ideals and goals, and you have excellent eloquence, as long as you continue to work hard to maintain the three good students every year, you will definitely be able to achieve it!", I am very happy that she has her own goals and ideas at a young age, and has found the direction of her own efforts.

Raise a daughter...... Just like planting a pot of rare flowers, careful, all kinds of care, afraid of the sun on sunny days, afraid of rain on rainy days, afraid of the scorching heat in summer and cold in winter, broken heart, look forward to sour eyes, in the future, it is not easy to bloom once, stunning four, but by a deflated calf called son-in-law with a pot to take away, and I only hope that the "deflated calf" who ends the pot is as educated as possible, knows how to be grateful, and understands the meaning of responsibility and responsibility! This is the only requirement I have.