In order to let the child enjoy better educational resources, I still spent a lot of money to find a friend to let him go to the peak experimental primary school on the horseback mountain road, in order to let him develop a hard-working character and perseverance, but also to get rid of the unrestrained doting of his parents-in-law, indeed I did not have time to take better care of him, at the beginning I chose to let him live in the first grade, learn to learn to be independent, the result is ...... The child has been pampered and cared for by his grandparents since he was a child, and he has no self-adaptability in life, and he can't even eat by himself, let alone basic life skills such as dressing, and he cries and makes a fuss in school every day to go home and not go to school...... Within a week of the start of school, I was summoned by the homeroom teacher, telling me that this child was not good and dragged down the ......whole class! There are no students who can't teach well! I think so in my heart, I can only nod and admit my mistakes with others, and ask the three main teachers to use all kinds of public relations methods, after all, my son has dragged you back and affected your assessment and bonus, and we still have a bit of a ratio.

Of course, this first summons request was to let him not live in school, and the dormitory manager couldn't bear his endless crying every day and night, affecting other children, and of course, the criticism and accusation of his father-in-law and mother-in-law behind his back: send such a young child to live in school! As a last resort, we can only change to pick up and drop off the children every day, and we always have to be reprimanded by the homeroom teacher for this bad and that bad, so that every day before school, we and our husband and wife have to sit in the car and guess the boxing: whoever loses will pick up the son and be reprimanded by the teacher...... This scene reminds me of when I was a child, when my parents were also "you push me, I push you", everyone was afraid to go to school to meet the teacher, history often repeats itself, what a strikingly similar scene.

A semester is coming to an end soon, as the saying goes, the son inherits the father's business, the dragon raises the dragon, the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix, and the son of the mouse will make holes...... The son naturally inherited the same skills as his father in elementary school: the worst in the class and even the whole grade. Before the end of the first semester, the homeroom teacher from Anhui was "kind" to give us an idea: "The child's father, since the child's situation is like this, I think he is not suitable for the first grade, you might as well go and get a medical certificate, let him repeat the first grade for a year, and wait until next year to continue to the first grade, so that his mind is more mature in all aspects, and it is also better...... This seemingly reasonable and logical suggestion was accepted by our husband and wife, but in fact, the purpose of the family is to kick you out of her class, don't drag her back, and don't affect her performance appraisal.

After I successfully completed the relevant medical certificates, my son took a leave of absence from school in the second semester of the first grade, until a year later, when we went to re-enroll, we were actually asked by the principal of the primary school not to repeat the grade, and directly promoted to the second grade The homeroom teacher also sent me the names and classes of the other students who successfully repeated the grade, and said that she agreed to repeat the grade, and kindly told me, you can stab the education bureau or even the superior leaders! I didn't do this, I'm not a fool, why should I be used as a gun by others, why are I a parent, I don't want to embarrass and affect other people's children because of my own children's affairs! I chose to argue with this principal Chen for a theoretical discussion, and I really couldn't accept that the female principal of the primary school could say it so without blushing and heartbeat, and with a heartbeat: "Our primary school has never had this kind of repeater, and it will not and will not set a precedent for you! You occupy public education resources!", I really want to snort at her: in the name of the people, serve the renminbi!

After a fierce quarrel with the headmistress of the Shanfeng Primary School, I spent 50,000 or 60,000 yuan to study in this school, but after only one semester in this school, I was fooled into hitting the street by others, which was really annoying! Considering the child's self-esteem in the class and the different treatment of him by the teacher and principal, my wife and I discussed that I could not let my son continue to study in this school. I had no choice but to transfer my son to the elementary school where the school district is located to study directly in the second grade, because the second semester of the first grade did not go to class for the whole time, missed a whole second semester, and the child still did not adjust from the stubborn and immature state of guidance, and the grades in the second grade naturally deteriorated, I was busy with my career and all kinds of entertainment, and I did neglect the education of my son, although sometimes I would sit down to teach him, I was tired of my career, and my patience was indeed not enough, and sometimes I even treated him casually. Yelling at the indifferent tutoring performance only made him even more overwhelmed......

In this way, when he was in the second grade of elementary school, he couldn't even memorize the multiplication table, and he still had to rely on his mother-in-law to feed him...... I failed every course, and occasionally I was able to pass the passing line.

My father has always been a person who attaches great importance to education, knowing that "knowledge can change fate", and he also felt a little guilty for not being able to take care of his grandson's learning, so he volunteered to say: From today on, my grandfather and I will be fully responsible for the child's education and learning. In order to be able to let his son's grades catch up slowly, during the summer vacation, we signed up for a "one-to-one" training class for the child on the edge of Zhengyang Bridge to make up for him, hoping that he could work hard, and his grandfather rode an electric car every day to pick up and drop off every day, and when he came back, he took a reading glasses to stare at him and sit on the side to watch him do his homework and correct his homework. Maybe the son has been spoiled by his grandmother and grandfather since he was a child, and he can't stand and accept the strict requirements of his grandfather who just lived together in his studies, and even learned to lie, which seriously violated our family's family style and family rules, and he was beaten by his grandfather for the first time!

That day, his grandfather asked him to memorize the multiplication table in the living room, and he just memorized it to three, so he told his grandfather to go to the toilet, but he didn't come out of the toilet for a whole hour, until his grandfather went to look for him, and found him sitting on the toilet with the iPad that his grandmother gave him and playing games, and grandpa couldn't help but drag him out of the toilet and beat him fat and explained the reason: "You dare to lie!" Our children are not allowed to lie, otherwise you want to look good, learn to lie at a young age, and be able to become an honest and trustworthy person when you grow up in the future? This time grandpa is beating you with the sole of your shoe, and next time you dare to lie and directly slap your mouth with the sole of your shoe!", grandma also said on the side that she would be beaten hard if she lied, at this time the mother-in-law standing at the door of the kitchen room was still defending him and saying that it was the IPAD she gave him. Come back and tell Mom and Dad, Grandpa, you hit someone. Grandpa unceremoniously gave five soles of the buttocks, telling him that the reason was: "Death is unrepentant!". When he got home, he really complained, and I warned him to his face: "If you dare to lie next time, I'll give you two mouths when I come back, where did Grandpa hit you wrong? If you want me to say something, it's too light! Think about it carefully, when did Dad fail to do what he promised you? Since Dad can't lie, why do you lie? Do you think your task is to play games? Grandpa is not in good health and is still helping you to learn and progress, do you know that you are wrong? If you know that you are wrong, go and apologize to Grandpa immediately!" ...... When my son saw me come up and criticize me, he was so frightened that he didn't dare to squeak anymore and ran to his grandfather to apologize! I want to try to correct the arrogant and unreasonable bad habits that he has cultivated since childhood, and at least let him know that it is impossible to be forgiven for what he has done, and he has developed such a bad habit since he was a child, which is also the most troublesome thing for me!

Maybe it's because I learned that my grandfather "plays" with him are genuine things, unlike my grandparents who can let him spoil him unscrupulously, grandparents don't seem to have room for bargaining. Scolding and retreating into the kitchen room, there is no one to support, he can only sit there honestly and study, that day grandpa asked him to memorize the multiplication mouth that has not passed for several months, and there is only one possibility of the IPAD and password he is playing with: it was given to him secretly by his mother-in-law, although I don't know how many times I have told my father-in-law and mother-in-law about the restriction in this regard, but it is deaf and play the piano to the cow! Later, the father also explained the importance of the child's education to the uneducated mother-in-law, and hoped to get her understanding and understanding. Through the high-intensity staring of his grandparents, in the second test after the start of school, his son's grades who had never passed were all able to score about 80 points, and even the mathematics scores were more than 80 points, even the homeroom teacher felt incredible......!

After his grandfather's cancer recurred, no one stared at his studies, his grades began to plummet, as long as we were not there to return to the state of the IPAD without leaving his hand, the foundation that was finally laid down was buried again, and even after junior high school, his mother-in-law secretly gave him money to buy a mobile phone to play, I really hate iron and steel! The second semester of the third grade begins almost every day and is the last to go home from school, and the teacher requires that the homework be corrected before you can go home! Even when we got home from work, he was still in school to correct his homework. I have to deal with my own work and my father's illness on the other, and I don't have the energy to take care of him, if I could turn back time, I will send my son to my own parents without hesitation. Once, on the way to run errands, I suddenly received a call from her and said, "My son has a parent-teacher meeting today, so you should stop by and attend it nearby."

At first, I just looked down and listened to his speech carefully, until he spoke, and when I looked up, I saw that he was looking at me with obvious complaint, and I found that other parents were also looking at the corner where I was sitting, and the teacher was talking enthusiastically in front of the podium"There are some students in our class, they don't talk to other students in class, they don't desert and play things, and their eyes are always staring at the teacher, but his mind is not in the class, he is definitely wandering out, because if you want to ask him a question, he will immediately have a black eye, and he is at a loss. However, some students with good academic performance are not willing to help others, and even classmates are unwilling to borrow an eraser, although our individual classmates are not very good, but they are very helpful, seeing that their classmates lack an eraser and pencil or something, they can take the initiative to send forward, which is still very commendable!", I sat in the first row of the podium with my head down, and when I heard this paragraph, I immediately "chuckled" in my heart: This should be my son! I couldn't help but look up at the math teacher slightly, who would have thought: this Si is staring at me tightly, while the parents of other students are smiling at me with his eyes......

My own son still doesn't know, isn't this my son, his foundation is so weak and it's very hard! Besides, I have to buy a bundle of pencils and a pack of erasers before school every Sunday, I know it, his father was also a scumbag in elementary school, and he didn't give pencils & erasers to his classmates, no one played with you! Although his mother has been complaining that she has to buy so much every week, I still support and appreciate her son's helpful and helpful character, although I know that in fact he wants to buy others to play with him, but at least it can also make him understand that life is to pay first, and then there will be a return!

After the parent-teacher conference that day, I must have been called into the office by the math teacher who was also the dean of students, but this time I did not give the math teacher who was the leader any face, and even made him speechless and incoherent for a while. As soon as I entered this office, the teachers on the other desks were still reviewing the children's grades, and along with our father and son, there were five or six other parents in the same class and their respective children, and my son and I were the first.

"I left you parents here today to tell you that the children are not doing their homework well in school, they can't complete it, their math test scores are a mess, they are unsettled in class, and their souls are out of body, especially **classmates (my son), *** classmates, **classmates ......", the director of teaching was frank and straightforward enough, and preached in front of all these classmates, parents, and other teachers in the office.

"If you can't do your homework well, let him take it back and do it well, and I'll hand it over to you tomorrow! Mathematics, that's it, if the RMB is issued in a denomination of 100 yuan, the addition and subtraction within 100 yuan will be fine, and if the denomination of 1,000 yuan will be issued in the future, the addition and subtraction within 1,000 yuan will be fine!" Thinking of what happened to you back then, and then seeing your children shivering behind their parents, not to mention, how can you, as an educator, criticize children in front of so many children, parents, and teachers? Do you have any scruples about your children's self-esteem and self-confidence?!

"How can you talk like that, a parent?", the dean saw that after I finished speaking, the teacher and other parents next to me were laughing, and then glared at me with a straight face.

"You can criticize children like this in front of so many teachers, parents, and children, what else can I not say? Education expert Li Zhenxi teacher didn't once say: There are no bad students, only teachers who can't teach, besides, what I'm talking about is the truth!", I immediately scolded him back mercilessly, and the son who was hiding behind me suddenly felt that someone had supported him, and he began to be less afraid, maybe this was the most majestic and upright time for his father!

"That's it, you take your homework back and let the children make it up, and hand it in tomorrow morning, it's always okay?!", at this time he seemed to realize that the parent in front of him was different from other parents, and he was by no means idle, and he also realized that I was knocking on his head on the side, and his tone was obviously much weaker.

"Of course, you must cooperate with the teacher to complete this homework!", then turned to his complacent son and said: "No matter what time you arrive at night, complete all the homework owed to the teacher, and hand it in tomorrow morning, not a single question is allowed!"

In this way, a "criticism meeting" that had been brewing for a long time was directly extinguished by me, and it became that the parents of each parent received their homework and went home to make up for the homework, and the war was the end of the war! Out of the door of the math teacher's office, several other parents immediately gave me a thumbs up, in fact, I was also very impatient in my heart!

On the issue of children's education, it is certain that we are parents who are derelict in their responsibilities, and I have had fierce disputes with her more than once over the issue of my son's education:" In any case, at least our parents should have the same opinion when facing their children; at least you can't object to the things I agree with, even if you think it's wrong or inappropriate, you should communicate privately afterwards and unify your opinions, and vice versa; at least we should let our son understand that learning is his first task, and he is not allowed to play anywhere before his homework is done right, not that your aunt's cousin's cousin's family has a wedding banquet and everything must be allowed to attend, if he must be allowed to participate, he must wait for him to do his homework correctly, this is a kind of responsibility education, instead of waiting for him to go home and finish his homework after attending all kinds of gatherings and dinners that he doesn't need to attend, you are telling your child that learning is not important, and playing is important!", I have argued more than ten times about this, of course, my father-in-law and mother-in-law are also helping her for no reason in this regard, plus her family has always thought that this child's surname is from top to bottom, and it has nothing to do with me, a father...... When there was really no way to communicate, I shouted: "Since my son's surname is yours and I am not allowed to have a voice, my daughter's education in the future must be dominated by my thoughts, and I will never agree to educate my daughter in such a wrong way and method!"

SON IS DRAGGED INTO THE JUNIOR HIGH SCHOOL STAGE OF THE SCHOOL DISTRICT IN THIS WAY, ALTHOUGH WE ALSO SPENT A LOT OF FINANCIAL COSTS TO FIND A LOT OF TRAINING CLASSES FOR HIM, BUT HIS HEART DOESN'T SEEM TO BE ON THE STUDY AT ALL, IT SEEMS THAT HE HAS NOT BEEN ENLIGHTENED, ANY OF MY EFFORTS TO CONTROL HIM TO PLAY WITH MOBILE PHONES AND IPADS WERE ALL "SHOT", I ALMOST LOST CONFIDENCE, I REPEATEDLY PROPOSED TO HER, MY SON IS NOT CULTIVATED TO EDUCATE, IN THE FUTURE WE WILL BE VERY HARD WHEN WE ARE OLD! She seems to think that she can't listen, can't teach, and can't change her tune, and continues to say that as long as there are relatives who have some dinner, let her son participate in it first, and then talk about it, and my mother-in-law secretly gave him money in private, and after he took the money, he secretly bought a mobile phone to hide in the bed to play, and the iPad that has been changed by me to change the boot password, as long as I change it, the mother-in-law will soon transfer to her son on the grounds that she wants to play, it's just exhausting!

It wasn't until mid-April in the last two semesters of his junior high school that I came back from a business trip, and the security guard of the property company took the initiative to tell me: Your son secretly went out of the gate of the community at 12:00 on Friday night, and did not return to the community until half past four in the morning. After careful review and interrogation, I learned that he took advantage of his mother and grandmother to fall asleep, through QQ and a senior who had dyed his hair and tattooed himself at a higher level than him in the society, and took two junior high school girls to the Internet bar, I realized the seriousness of the problem, and then beat him hard, and then asked him to write the guarantee and take a picture of the guarantee like a prisoner, and immediately delineated it for him, this is the red line and red circle high-voltage line, you dare to take a step beyond the thunder pool, you think about what the consequences will be! And asked him to take me to the Internet café, under his leadership, I found the owner of the black Internet café and asked why the minors were allowed to enter the Internet café to no avail, I immediately reported the black Internet café to the competent department, I really don't want more parents of children to worry about this social problem like me! As a result, the report was fruitless, and it wasn't until it was exposed on the BBS forum that the black Internet café was temporarily closed, and the owner of the Internet café didn't know where to find my phone number, and called me to ask for the deletion of the post, I just told him: "It's impossible to delete the post, you have to have a long memory, whether your Internet café has a license or not, it's not my business, you want to make money, I can understand, but you should at least have a bottom line, who let you accept minors into the Internet café?!" It doesn't matter to me whether other Internet cafes are black or not, but my underage child only entered your Internet café!", I went around fighting fires like a fire chief......

It didn't take long for this to happen.,I deciphered my son's QQ password in the IPAD.,It took me several hours to read all the conversation records in him from beginning to end.,Then I said to his mother that your son seems to have a girlfriend in the first grade of junior high school.,Do you know about this?!She blindly protected like a stunned person and said impossible,No,After I showed her the content of the QQ,She still said impossible! I reminded her again and again that the QQ avatars of my son and the girl in the first year of junior high school both use the couple number, and then look at the tone and wording of the dialogue record inside, can't you see it? IQ is sometimes really hard and bruised! When I intervened to question my son in person, he still honestly explained the situation in front of me, and she realized that what I said was the real thing, and then scolded and criticized it without pain...... I really don't know what the result would have been if my son hadn't been discovered and corrected in time, and if they were allowed to be spoiled like this......

And he has gradually entered the period of adolescent rebellion, his mother said something to him or asked him to do something, he talked back more and more fiercely, more and more powerful, she was completely unable to control and deter her spoiled son, one Saturday afternoon, I took a nap in the room for a while, and I heard the fierce quarrel between their mother and son in the next room, and the voice was getting louder and louder, feeling the edge of exploding, she said, her son wanted to talk back at least three, Four sentences, and the daughter was also in that room watching my mother and brother quarrel fiercely, I gently pushed open the hidden door and stood at the door of the room, without saying a word, just stood there quietly watching, he saw me standing at the door of his room, and suddenly did not dare to talk to his mother to argue; Grandpa said before his death that there is no reason to be loud, can we discuss things in a calm and quiet way as a family, I don't want to hear anything like this again!", and then slowly exited the room......

I know that the son does not teach, the father's fault, he is gradually growing up, and the responsibility and burden of me, the fire captain, are getting bigger and heavier! I know that his essence is still very good, but some of the bad roots of my childhood have not been removed, and I will find time to chat with him as much as possible, talk about some hot topics in society, listen to his thoughts and opinions, and be reasonable! In fact, sometimes I really thought in my heart that if my son was brought up by his grandparents since he was a child, it would definitely not be the result he is now, and I fundamentally realized that their family's awareness of the importance of children's education and knowledge is extremely lacking, and it is simply dispensable, and it is impossible to realize that the future competition is the competition of education and knowledge! Fortunately, he has been living with us now, and I can have more words and deeds to influence him, but fortunately, he still has a lot of advantages, and I have been working hard to encourage his advantages as hard as my father did back then, trying to remind him of his shortcomings and shortcomings as carefully as possible!

In life, there are not too many ifs, only expected results and consequences!