The second aunt wanted to study abroad for Xiaohui, which Zhou Fangyuan had never thought of before.

Since the second aunt's family opened a small supermarket, the family income has increased, and the second uncle has worked well in recent years, so the family has some savings.

The second aunt wants to send Xiaohui out, but the burden of studying abroad on the family is still quite large, if you just support the expenditure of money, the problem that the second aunt is facing now is that it is not easy for Xiaohui to study abroad.

"Hoping that their son will become a dragon and their daughter will become a phoenix" is the long-cherished wish of many parents, so when their children graduate from college, should they continue to spend "a lot of money" to send their children to study abroad? This question has stumped many parents.

Zhou Fangyuan had read a story before, a boy who was about to graduate from his undergraduate degree took his IELTS score 7 report card home, happily shared it with his parents, and then secretly crumpled the report card and threw it into the trash. The boy was very sensible, and he said to his parents, "I'm just taking exams for fun, I don't want to study abroad." ”

Parents see their children's minds and are very embarrassed. In the evening, the boy's mother discussed with his father, whether we should borrow money for the child to study abroad, but who to borrow and what to repay? That night, the boy's father and mother tried many ways, but they couldn't work. The next day, they could only helplessly and calmly tell the child: "Son, your parents can only help you get here, and you need to walk the road in the future." ”

Then, the parents stand still and watch the child's back go farther and farther away.

In fact, this is not a portrayal of the life of many families.

Standing on the strong shoulders of parents, there is no doubt that children can go higher and farther, but for thousands of parents in ordinary families, it has taken all their parents' strength to provide for their children to graduate from college.

Most of my country's parents have suffered from "no education", so they attach great importance to education, and when it comes to the places where their children's learning needs to be spent, they are willing to "smash the pot and sell iron". In many people's minds, as long as the child studies hard, it means that there will definitely be a future in the future, so parents pin the hope of the whole family on the child and on the child's "learning".

So, when the child graduates from college, will the family's money be given to the child to study abroad, or will it be left for himself to plan for retirement?

When the child graduates from college, should he spend a lot of money to let him study abroad?

Zhou Fangyuan's mother has a friend, and in a certain year in his previous life, this friend's son graduated from bachelor's degree. Originally, a friend set aside a budget of two million to encourage his son to study abroad, but his son had a different opinion. He said, "I spent two million dollars, and I may not be able to find a job in the future that will pay more, so why bother? When will I be able to earn back these two million?" The son rejected his father's plan, found a job on his own, and went to work steadily.

Zhou's mother friend was very happy, but she didn't expect her son to know how to analyze and calculate costs at such a young age, which is very important for a person's life.

So, when the child graduates, should he spend a lot of money to send him to study abroad?

This issue is not controversial for wealthy families. But for the average family, a few million is an important part of the family's finances, or even all of their savings. If you spend this money rashly, then the child will be able to excel in the future, but if the child's ability is average, the situation will be very embarrassing. The family is already destitute, how much pressure does the child have on his shoulders?

Rational parents will not pour out their bags for their children, it is not a question of love or not, but the optimal solution for two generations in the long run.

If a child is self-motivated and wants to continue his studies in school, he or she can take the postgraduate examination in China on his own without spending much money. It's not that you have to show off your country and show off your vanity, so you can be promising, and the real success is not to see how much money you spend on your parents, but to see how much value you can realize in the future and what kind of life you can bring to your family.

Schools should not be a safe haven for children, nor should parents give everything for their children regardless of the cost.

After graduating from college, most of the parents are also in their fifties. At this time, the likelihood of our income increasing decreases, while the expenses for medical care and pension gradually increase, and the older we get, the faster they increase. If you don't have any savings in your hands at this time, and you have to rely on your children everywhere, then you may be unbearable, and everyone is very sad.

Therefore, in the long run, a more conservative way of financial management for ordinary families is to let the child go his own way of life after graduating from undergraduate, do not agree to the child's excessive requirements, and prepare for his own retirement. The best way to love your child is not how much money you are willing to spend for him, but to take care of your body, plan your family financial management within your ability, keep enough pension money for yourself, and reduce your children's worries. This is the most rational, labor-saving and safest way for both yourself and your children.

The older you are, the more you need money to "bottom" your life, and plan your family's financial management to retire as soon as possible, so that even if it is not good in the future, the two generations can still have a house to live in, have savings, and continue to live in stability.

And that's just the family side of things, in fact, it's not just that you have to face problems when studying abroad.

In fact, the group of international students is a group that many countries attach importance to. Because the quantity and quality of international students will affect the influence of domestic universities and countries in the world. Even the economic development of some countries will be affected by international students, so many countries will attach importance to the group of international students.

For example, the United States and the United Kingdom, although their higher education level is already very high, they will still absorb a lot of foreign students. Because of the arrival of foreign students, it not only brings them a high international influence, but also brings them a lot of international potential talents. This point, especially in the United States, because there are many high-end talents in the United States, and they are not authentic American people, many of them come from other countries, and they have reached the United States through studying abroad, and then take root in the United States. 、

Among them are many of the best graduates from Qingbei and other high-level universities in China.

The United Kingdom, which is also a country with highly developed higher education, has also attracted many foreign students, many of whom are from China.

However, the UK does not retain many potential talents in large quantities like the United States, but sees international students as a pillar of economic development. Therefore, in the first half of this year, the UK lost a lot of financial revenue because of international students. According to statistics, British universities have lost 460 million pounds due to the loss of many East Asian students.

Both the United States and the United Kingdom have requirements for international students, so is it difficult to apply to study in the United States and the United Kingdom?

Everyone knows the answer, but it's very difficult. For example, when you go to study in the United States, people first look at whether your school is good, whether your grades are good, and whether your TOEFL GRE score is high. I was lucky enough to get a land offer, and it was a bunch of complicated materials. When I finally arrived at school, I had to rent my own house and cook my own meals, and I got up early and studied greedily at night, for fear that I would lose my hard work if I failed my grades. Therefore, international students in the United States and the United Kingdom will attach great importance to their usual studies and will focus on their studies.

And that's not all.

Studying abroad, in a completely unfamiliar environment, how to adapt to or even integrate into the study abroad life as soon as possible is the first problem faced by every international student. When solving this problem, I can't help but seek help from other international students from China. However, in the process, the inherent circle is already slowly forming.

Language is the reason why many domestic students close themselves to foreign cultures.

Studying abroad and learning a foreign language is a challenge that every international student must face. Even if you have a good score in the foreign language entrance and language test, it only means that your foreign language level is at the entry level for studying abroad. From the moment you get off the plane abroad, you truly step into a foreign language environment. What you see, hear, and teach and study materials is overwhelmingly English, and even if you are a science student, those tons of difficult technical vocabulary will make your head flutter.

The teacher does not care whether the international student can understand the lecture, and if you can't keep up with the rhythm in class, you will have to spend a lot of time tutoring after class. Especially in reading comprehension, you will not only encounter new words, but also look up historical and humanities background knowledge involved in the content. You may spend a week or two looking up words and analyzing the meaning of sentences over and over again for homework that may seem like a local student can be completed in a day or two, and your patience with learning may be exhausted in the process.

You have to stick to it, there is no other way. If you don't solve it early, there will be more troubles in your study life later. There is no upper limit to the learning of a foreign language. Therefore, students who plan to study abroad, don't stop at the test results, the sooner you grasp the better, and don't let foreign languages become the biggest obstacle to your study abroad life.

Then there's the question of relaxing.

In the past, when you were going to school in China, there were always parents who supervised you at home, did not let you go home late, and often supervised your studies and arranged your daily life. But in a foreign country, whether you share a house or live on your own, no one tells you to study, sleep, or do laundry, cook, or clean up the house.

Zhou Fangyuan was like this in his previous life, and when he was in college before, there was a classmate who often stayed up late to play games, and he always seemed to be in a trance during class. There was a big dirty laundry basket under his bed, and when the clothes were dirty, he would stuff them in, and if there were no clean clothes to wear, he would change the dirty clothes basket into the dirty laundry basket and continue to wear them, and then replace them with another one...... If you can't change it, you are willing to take it and wash it together. And every time he video chats with his parents, he talks about his college life in an orderly manner, what time to go to bed, what time to get up, etc., his parents really think his life is very regular. If going to college is to completely let yourself go, you can still save a lot of money in China, isn't it fragrant?

In fact, it is not difficult to avoid your campus life and fall into a state of chaos. Be sure to step out of your comfort zone and act according to certain guidelines, otherwise you can only go further and further on the road of university decadence.

A simple way to do this is to make a simple plan skillfully, the first step is to write down the things that must be done every day on a sticky note, the second step is to mark each thing with priority and category, such as the study class has the highest priority, and the third step is to cross out the tasks that have been done with a pen. Crossing out what has already been done will give you positive feedback as soon as possible, giving you a sense of accomplishment and getting rid of your bad procrastination. Students with obsessive-compulsive disorder will always think about crossing out those things that have not been done as soon as possible, which pushes you to complete the plan faster and harder. Stick to it for about three months, and you will be able to develop a good habit of finishing things today.

The third point is that I am celibate and homesick.

When I first arrived abroad, all I saw in front of me were unfamiliar environments, people and things, and there was a sense of freshness at first, but after a long time, it was emptiness and loneliness. Seeing the news of domestic celebrations during holidays, the blessings sent by relatives and friends, and the students who are alone in their hometowns, they must feel very lonely in their hearts.

Then I will miss the ridicule between classmates at school, the communication with parents at home, and the days when I went out to play with my friends on weekends. In a foreign country, you may not find anyone to listen to you. It is also difficult to find a suitable channel for catharsis from the boredom of life and study. Some people will gradually become depressed, which is also a problem that international students must face seriously.

The customs and customs of foreign countries are different from those in China, and there are many things to adapt to in terms of culture, and the most important thing is to break the circle. Don't keep thinking about making friends with Chinese people, there are not many domestic students in foreign universities, and the probability of making close friends is even lower. Therefore, you should expand your social circle, take the initiative to communicate with locals, get familiar with their lives, and understand their thoughts, which can allow you to look at the life of studying abroad from different perspectives, so that you can have different understandings and perceptions. In today's continuous integration of world cultures, introduce more Chinese culture that they are interested in, and life will teach you more truth, which is deeper than what is in the textbook. Having established your own social circle, homesickness can be greatly alleviated.

Finally, and most importantly, choose the right school.

There is no way to generalize about the choice of foreign universities, and the admission requirements of schools in different countries are different, so it is generally necessary to consider what major to choose first, and then check which of the top schools in these majors are, and finally compare the information of relevant schools to gain an in-depth understanding. If you want to return to China to find a job after graduation, you should try to apply to a top-ranked school, because domestic HR is also very aware of the market. However, it should be noted that many foreign universities have low entry thresholds, but the graduation threshold is not low at all. The requirements for class attendance and test scores are very strict, and if you take your studies seriously, it should not be difficult to graduate. If anyone wants to get a diploma in a mess, they will probably not be able to graduate.

In short, there are really a lot of problems about studying abroad, and the second aunt thought about it simply, but now when she finds that she can't figure it out, she wants to seek Zhou Fangyuan's help.

But she couldn't pull it off, and the second uncle was also a stuffy gourd, so the second aunt's anger involuntarily sent towards him.