Chapter 35: Childless after marriage complains about Xiao Wall
Shi Tao can be described as a double happiness. Soon after marriage, Shi Tao was promoted to deputy director of the office under the strong recommendation of Director Zhang.
Shi Tao was promoted, so he naturally had more responsibilities and more work tasks, which meant that he had less spare time.
He didn't have much time to help with the shampoo that cooperated with Chen Xi, so he proposed to Chen Xi to quit and took the initiative to withdraw from the cooperation project.
Chen Xi is also doing a good job now, the market situation has been opened, and he is busy doing it himself, and occasionally he can hire some people to deliver goods, and he can still be busy.
The wedding day always makes people feel so happy and happy.
Shang Mei and Shi Tao go to work together, get off work together, and cook together every day, although the days are very ordinary, Shang Mei feels very happy.
However, as the novelty of newlywed life fades away, everything returns to flattening.
In addition to work, what the two of them face is nothing more than firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, eating, drinking, lazing, sleeping, these trivial things in life. Shi Tao is not proficient in these at all, so he is not very good.
And Shang Mei is a delicate girl at home, she is the youngest of their four sisters, and she can be said to be pampered at home.
Yilai stretched out his hand to eat to open his mouth, and rarely did housework, so for life, there were not many things to do, and because of the favor of her parents, Shangmei had developed a habit of laziness.
It can be said that the two of them have not done a good job of living at home, and the home looks messy.
I don't have a lot of enthusiasm for cooking, and sometimes I have to go to work in the morning without having breakfast.
Or even if you wake up, no one wants to cook, these seemingly trivial things slowly estranged the two people.
Sometimes even for the sweet and salty cooking will quarrel, sometimes in order to get up and fold the quilt, maybe because the two people live too dullly, I want to find some excitement.
In this way, there is no big deal after stumbling for two years, but there is one issue that must be put on the agenda, and that is the issue of having children.
In the past two years, the two have lived a normal life as a couple, and they don't have any children, which has caused the two to worry.
Naomi's mother was also anxious and urged them to go for a check-up.
After Shi Tao and Shangmei discussed, they went to the city hospital. First of all, he was examined, and the initial opinion given by the doctor was that there was no problem. The doctor said to let Shi Tao check it out.
Shi Tao cooperated very well and did the examination, and the result was that he had no problems. This result made the two people very puzzled, and asked the doctor that neither of us had any problems, so why couldn't we get pregnant all the time?
The doctor gave a professional opinion, "This situation is also there, but it is rare, it should be that the two of you are not very compatible in some aspects, do you have an anxiety about wanting children now?"
The two looked at each other, "Yes, it's a little anxious." ”
"This shows that the two of you are under a lot of psychological pressure, and you try to relax and go with the flow, and you may get pregnant. ”
In this way, the two returned from the hospital. Naomi reported their situation to her mother, and her mother meant that then let them go with the flow, and they couldn't be in a hurry first.
Naomi's mother suggested that the two of them eat some nutritious food, both of which are nourishing and nourishing.
In the two years since Shi Tao got married, Yang Qiong is still alone.
In the past two years, no one has found out that she is still single, which may be related to the fact that she lives her closed life and refuses to contact the outside world.
Niu Yi still goes home once a month, and when Niu Yi wants to go to see his parents, Yang Qiong accompanies Niu Yi.
To catch up with the festival, Niu Yi will also accompany Yang Qiong back to her parents' home.
In this way, the parents of both parties never suspected that they were divorced, but they thought that they went back a little less. What's more concerned is why they haven't had children after they have been married for more than three years?
The reason given by the two people was not to have children first, saying that they were separated from each other, and it was inconvenient to have children. However, this far-fetched reason failed to convince the parents of both sides, but it could not convince them, so they had to let them go first.
The situation of the company's development has changed, and the company has reached its heyday in the year when the Shidong Company was completed and put into operation.
However, in the following two years, the market encountered a crisis, with product sales declining and prices continuing to fall, resulting in a serious impact on the company's efficiency.
The inorganic company is a large state-owned unit, and now it has gradually declined from a profit-making enterprise to a low-profit enterprise.
A change is brewing at the top of the company.
Another year has passed, and Shi Tao and Shangmei still have no children. The two men went through several more tests, but the results were different each time.
Some doctors said that Shang Mei had a problem, and some doctors said that it was Shi Tao's problem, which made both of them at a loss, and they didn't know which doctor to listen to.
Even Shi Tao once thought that there might be no children in this life. Shi Tao actually had a plan to be a Dink family, so he simply didn't want children.
But Naomi listened to it but did not give up, it was her dream to have a child, she thought that if there were no children in the family, it could not be called home, and that kind of family was not perfect.
After thinking about it, Shi Tao proposed it, or find someone to adopt one. After adopting a child, it is possible to conceive one soon, and there are cases where doctors have given them such advice.
Naomi promised to try to adopt one first. So Shi Tao took Shangmei to the welfare home in Haishi to see if there were any suitable children to be adopted by them.
When they came to the welfare home, they consulted with the person in charge and found that the procedures for adopting a child were very troublesome.
It's okay to be troublesome, as long as they meet the conditions, they will see if there is anything they can want to adopt.
The person in charge showed them the dozens of children who were available. Shi Tao found that the children here were either too old or some disabled.
Back home, the two of them discussed the adoption of a child.
Shi Tao believes that it is not easy for older children to develop a relationship, which will affect the intimacy between the two and the child, or it is not good for them to want a second child.
As a younger disabled child, he feels that with their current situation, it is difficult to raise him, and it is not good for the child. After a comprehensive analysis, Shi Tao did not plan to adopt children from the welfare home.
And Shang Mei was even more resolute, and when she saw the children in the orphanage, she said: "I can't have a good impression of them, and I brought them home, I think they are strangers, and I don't have the mood to cultivate, and I don't feel that they are my own children, and I can't love them." "It's also unintentional adoption.
The two of them were unable to adopt the child from the orphanage, and Naomi's mother was a little anxious.
"If you don't adopt a child, what will you do in the future?"
"We haven't been finally judged by the doctor to be unable to have children, so we can't rush it, take our time, let's give birth to ourselves. Shi Tao said.
"You've been thinking about your own life, but it's been several years, and I haven't seen you give birth. I know the doctor said, you have a problem!" Shang Mei's mother blamed Shi Tao a little.
Shi Tao said: "The doctor said that we can't be in a hurry, I hope you respect us, we know what our situation is, we all have hope, and I hope you will have hope for us." ”
"Hope, hope, what? Lamillet will not accept seedlings!" Shangmei's mother spoke very hard, Shi Tao felt that his dignity had been insulted, he was very unhappy, and left silently.
Shang Mei's mother's scolding caused Shi Tao to have a shadow in his heart, and he also had a grudge against Shang Mei, and he didn't pay much attention to her for a long time.
And Shang Mei was not comfortable in her heart, in fact, she also had some complaints about Shi Tao. Although my mother's words were a little ugly, they made sense.
She was unwilling to raise the bar with her mother, so she poured all her resentment on Shi Tao.
So the two people often stumble over the trivial things at home, and even sometimes fight, making the two ignore each other for a long time.
Shi Tao's peaceful days were broken, and he was troubled every day because of some messy chores.
Annoyed with cooking, washing clothes, cleaning and doing housework, what annoyed him the most was that he didn't want to see Shang Mei, let alone her mother.
Shang Mei is even more annoying, now Shi Tao can't speak, and every time he says a word, he will raise the bar with him 100%.
Two people can't work together, as long as two people don't agree, there is not even room for negotiation.
Shang Mei often made a lot of noise, so that the neighbors were not at peace, and their noisy neighbors had come forward to persuade them, but to no avail.
Because the neighbors didn't know why they were making trouble, and no one cared about them later.
In this way, although Shi Tao got married, the family was not harmonious because he had no children.
Shi Tao didn't feel that marriage brought him happiness.
Because of the child's problems, Shi Tao's parents also urged him, after all, they were far away and did not live together, and their parents' words would only be heard when Shi Tao returned to his hometown, so he did not feel so persecuted.
He told his parents to let it be.
His mother is more open-minded, alas, in addition to sighing, she also persuaded Shi Tao that he had no children and no children.
Regarding the current marital status, Shi Tao sometimes began to doubt it. Wonder why this is happening?
If he marries Yang Qiong, won't this be the result, or will he not feel unhappy even if he has no children?
After analyzing and analyzing, Shi Tao found a problem, although Shang Mei looked good, he found that he didn't love her.
I've never said the words "I love you" to her, and Naomi hasn't said it either.
Two people live together as a couple occasionally, and there is not a lot of intimate expression between the two, not even the kind of intimacy that grinds the ears and temples.
Their union is the result of a blind date, skipping the stage of love and running directly to the grave of marriage.
Shi Tao seems to feel that he is wrong, and the fault is that he should not get married for the sake of marriage, and he should not rush to find a girl who he thinks is similar to him because he is old.
Even if Yang Qiong gets married, he can't marry Yang Qiong again, he should look for someone who recognizes and loves each other like he did when he looked for Yang Qiong, and he shouldn't just find someone to marry too worldly.
Shi Tao is already under siege, does he want to rush out of the city?