"This is a very obvious reality that I have to face, and I can't make a fool of myself. Hua Banzhi's eyes looked at her calmly, and said calmly, "Sometimes, blood can't represent anything? No matter what feelings, family affection, friendship, and even the love between men and women, can only be produced after mutual contact." The love between mother and child, the love between father and son, the development of this emotion comes from the process of upbringing. ”

"According to you, it's strange that the light shouldn't have such a deep attachment to you. Zoerya said as she looked at her with puzzled eyes.

"On the way to his father, you have to know the relationship we have built up for our lives, and you will know why. Hua Banzhi looked at her with deep eyes and said, "Don't talk about nine deaths!

"Although it has just been liberated, it is not peaceful in the world. Zhuo Erya looked at her with some admiration, she was not the same as herself, she was used to following the organization, and she was not afraid of heaven and earth.

You make a person who has never been far away, go thousands of miles from inside the gate to outside the gate, and from outside the gate to inside the gate, just thinking about it is difficult!

It's no wonder that Guangming obviously found his father, but he followed her to live.

Hua Banzhi looked at her coldly and said, "Not to mention that there is a stepmother and a stepfather, both of them have jobs, and the light will not be properly taken care of with them." With children of their own, it is even more neglectful. Even if the child is sent back to his hometown, will he still be able to get a good education?"

"Uh...... You're really thoughtful. Cheng Yunling had to admit that she was right, she couldn't argue, and said for a long time, "Then what should you do?"

"Me?" Hua Banzhi's smart eyes flashed slightly, and she raised her eyebrows and said, "I can support myself, why should I rely on others." ”

"You deserve to have a life of your own. Zoorya gently shook her hand and said, "Now that you are liberated, they will not come to persecute you again." ”

Hua Banzhi was grabbed by her warm hand, and smiled, "Even if there is no light, then I'm sorry, halfway couples, if you have children, what is regarded as your own, never, because there is no blood relationship, both husband and wife have their own little abacus, in short, they will keep a hand, and they will not give all their feelings to each other, no matter how sincere you are, you can't get all of each other." ”

Hua Banzhi's eyes were deep and long, and he looked at the two of them rationally and said, "It's hard to be a stepmother! People are not looking for a daughter-in-law for any feelings, just to find a woman who will help him take care of the children." So you have to take care of the child, but if you are loose, people say that you don't care, you are tight, the child is unhappy, saying that you are not my mother, why do you care about me, in short, you are not a person inside and outside. After a pause, he added, "It's even harder to be widowed, you're never as good as a dead person." Every year in Qingming, he will take the child to the grave of his ex-wife; on the night of the Chinese New Year's Eve, he will not forget to burn paper for the child's mother; often take the child to see his grandmother and grandfather; the child asks what kind of person his mother is, you will hear him describe his ex-wife to the child in a gentle tone; you dig out your heart and lungs, let the child call you mother, but there must be a photo of the mother in the room. What do you feel like?"

"Don't say it. Zhuo Erya shook her head slightly, "What you said is really heart-wrenching. ”

"Especially if I have a child, can he think of it as his own, and what if I beat and scold the child?" Hua Banzhi looked at her with clear eyes and said, "Marrying someone is a lifelong thing, if you don't think about it clearly, you don't have enough confidence to deal with these existing problems, how dare you marry someone rashly! That is irresponsible." ”

"You think so much. Zoorya's eyes widened and she smacked her tongue.

"The things of a lifetime have to be carefully considered. Don't wait until you get married to find out that marriage alone does not improve a person's happiness. It's not the same as I imagined, and then I regret it, I knew today, why bother at the beginning. Hua Banzhi looked at her calmly and said, "No one will sympathize with you, and some people talk about it, but they don't know how to mumble about you behind your back, say that you are stupid, that you are stupid." Thousands of choices, I chose such a color. ”

"But life plans can't keep up with the changes, and it's impossible to do everything according to your ideas, what will you do then?" said Zhuo Erya, looking at her curiously.

"It's the plan that can't catch up with the changes, for the hidden dangers that already exist, the congenital insufficiency, such as me, which can be imagined, you can't turn a blind eye!" Hua Banzhi looked at her with black and white eyes and said.

"I agree with that. Cheng Yunling nodded heavily and said, aren't she and Fanchun!

"Oh! As long as you get married, no matter if you are born with a lack of foot, you have to adjust your mentality. Marriage has 10,000 purposes, and the most important thing is that you know what you want. Hua Banzhi raised his eyebrows and looked at the two of them when he heard this, and said, "There is always something to do when you enter marriage, to have feelings, to eat and wear, to have status, and to make each other good for yourself...... The future of the relationship may not be unswerving, the food and clothing may not be able to be full, the status of the figure has been degraded, and the other party may not be really served comfortably in the end. Tapping their hearts, he said, "What do you want to do?"

Zhuo Erya looked at her thoughtfully, silently, what did she want? Suddenly shook her head again, what did she think?

Hua Banzhi looked at her cheeks crimson, what is she thinking?

If that's the case, Hua Banzhi doesn't mind saying more, "Erya is right, even if you think carefully about your married life before you get married, and you think that you know each other better, you will definitely encounter a lot of things and problems that you don't expect at all after getting married." Before getting married, either the prediction of married life is too idealistic, or it does not consider what married life is like at all. In both cases, both men and women's ability to understand and navigate marriage will be very vulnerable. In fact, a long marriage is full of unknowns and even crises, so when you decide to enter into marriage, you must have an awareness: what tests your marriage is not your ability to deal with known problems, but your ability to deal with unknown problems. With this mental preparation, you will be able to keep a relatively cool head when your marriage encounters various problems and ensure that you do not make irrational decisions. ”

"How can anyone really be reasonable!" said Zhuo Erya, holding her cheeks with her hands.

"So, marriage is not the whole of life, not everyone needs it, but if you decide to get married, then you must, take good care of it, cherish it well, and treat it well. Hua Banzhi's eyes shone with a wise light and said, "Marriage is an umbrella, and most of the time life is sunny." ”

Zoorya lowered her hands and looked at her and said, "No one has ever taught me this, thank you." ”