"I admit that women are much better off now if they are self-reliant than they were before liberation, but here the mind changes in a moment. Hua Banzhi put away the smile on his face, pointed to his head and said, "This world is still harsh on women. ”

Zhuo Erya was stunned when she heard this, remembered what happened to her, and nodded with a smile, "Thank you for reminding me, I won't talk nonsense outside." His eyes trembled at her and he winked curiously, "Huahua, you won't be like this for the rest of your life, right! In fact, there are many lovers in our campus who have passed away, you can find a good man to marry." ”

Cheng Yunling immediately said unhappily when she heard this, "Erya, you are too bad to abuse people, aren't we? Are we Huahua very bad? ”

Hua Banzhi looked at her in astonishment and said, "You asked me to fill someone's house." ”

"Hey, don't be angry! I'm just telling the truth. Zorya shrunk her neck and muttered, "Usually the truth doesn't sound good. ”

"Then there's no need to say it, ...... you say this," Cheng Yunling looked at her dissatisfied, "It's too ugly, how can a woman say such a thing." ”

Hua Banzhi patted Cheng Yunling's hand and said, "Don't be angry, don't be angry." ”

"Aren't you angry?" Cheng Yunling puffed out his cheeks and said angrily.

"The truth of what Erya said, although it is a bit ugly. Hua Banzhi said disapprerovingly.

"Hey! Zhuo Erya looked at Hua Banzhi earnestly and said seriously, "You also said that this world is harsh on women, a woman's life is too difficult, and she can't do it without a man!"

Hua Banzhi knew that Zhuo Erya had no malicious intentions, put the melon seeds in his hand on the kang table, wrapped his arms around him, propped himself on the kang table, looked at her with burning eyes and said, "Let's not say that I am married like this now." Let's talk about what women are getting married for?"

"Why?" said Zhuo Erya as she looked at her with a blink, "I really haven't thought about it carefully, when I get to the age, the male should marry and the female should marry." I got married! It's been like this for generations. ”

"For the sake of happiness! Two people will be happier together. Cheng Yunling immediately said.

Hua Banzhi looked at her and shook her head and chuckled, "When I look at Lingling, she is a little woman immersed in happiness." "Those who are happy when they are single will be happy when they are married, and those who are unhappy when they are single will not be happy when they are married." Hopes of "improving one's happiness" by getting married are most likely to fail. ”

"It's that you're not happy yourself, how can you bring happiness to others. Cheng Yunling nodded in agreement.

"You can't see or touch this happiness, you know your warmth and coldness. Hearing this, Zhuo Erya shook her head and said, "Unreliable." ”

There is an old saying: marry a man, marry a man, dress and eat. "I have a job now, I can support myself, and I don't have to worry about food and clothing, so why should I be wronged to marry someone! Home is a place where you feel comfortable, a place where you can continue to have the motivation to fight after resting when you are tired, and a place where you can talk about your grievances...... If you get married, why should you marry when you are not as happy as a person. ”

"But aren't you alone?" said Zoar, frowning at her, "Others come in pairs, and you come home alone and guarding the empty house, and you don't even have anyone to talk to." Even if the couple quarrels, it's better than not having even one to quarrel with. After a pause, he said, "People can't just meet the most basic needs of food and clothing!"

Hua Banzhi raised her eyebrows lightly when she heard this, and looked at Zhuo Erya with some surprise, in fact, she was very right.

The reason why Hua Banzhi dares to say this is because of her rich spiritual world, even meditating and breathing, there is a way in the mountains for a day, the world has been a thousand years, and she has a way to kill time.

And now people, the population turnover rate is low, basically choose one person to be white, choose a city to grow old, and the possibility of moving the nest in this life is extremely low.

As for spare time, it's even less. People's emotional projection, time and energy, greatly consumed in the family.

Marriage is a normal way for people, and the only stable social relationship that can be actively constructed.

Even if the marriage is not doing well, it is better than not having any social connections. So people nowadays, even those who seem to be noisy all day long, even attack each other and hurt each other. In essence, it is still attractive compared to the loneliness of having nothing.

Although this pattern of mutual consumption is not always comfortable.

Young people can't understand it, so they ask, "The older generation is so noisy, why don't they get divorced." "They don't understand, in this era, the older generation is really divorced, and it is difficult to find someone to talk to.

The older generation is not stupider, and the younger generation is not smarter.

Unlike the Internet in later generations, a mobile phone can quarrel and chat with people from all over the world.

Just the TV movies on the Internet are enough to kill people a lot.

In the past, there was a monolithic lifestyle, no recreational activities, and a lack of direction and purpose.

People are heavily dependent on family relationships, and family is even the only outlet for people's feelings and lives.

The location of the flower half branch is the heart of the motherland, although there is a lights-out control here, but there is still electricity. And in other places, at seven or eight o'clock in the evening, everywhere is like a ghost town. Life alone is very hard.

Hua Banzhi said so 'unashamedly' because she has confidence, has a proper job, and does not have to worry about food and clothing.

If you live in the countryside, in terms of physical strength alone, it will be difficult for a woman to carry water, so if you find a laborer to marry, no one will be harsh. Life is too difficult, everything is earned by your hands.

Therefore, Hua Banzhi will not impose his thoughts on Zhuo Erya, and the old girl who can't marry will be ridiculed, and of course others will try to persuade her.

"You're right!" Hua Banzhi looked at her with clear eyes, "Don't I still have light!"

"Hey, you don't really think of him as your son!" Zorya lowered her head and whispered close to her, "There's a father here! he can't drag you like this! ”

Hua Banzhi smiled bitterly when he heard this, and looked at Zhuo Erya's eyes dark, "My sister and his marriage, you should have heard a little, they didn't have such a deep relationship." Specific to children, father's love is different from mother's love, father's love is cultivated after the child is born, and the bits and pieces of getting along with each other. And the light for him not to mention cultivating, it does not exist at all. If you want them to have feelings between them, it's good not to dislike them. ”