Divorce is now quite common, but in movies and literature, the people who talk about divorce are almost all young or middle-aged, and it is rare to see an elderly person divorce, and even if there is such content, it is often portrayed as a strange phenomenon that is not tolerated and understood. In fact, in the real society, it is indeed difficult for the elderly to divorce, and it is really easy to be misunderstood.

Two days ago, I received a phone call from the wife of a former acquaintance, Yang Moumou. I didn't know his wife, but she called to meet me and said she had something to say to me. Although I was reluctant, I agreed to her request and met with her. As soon as she saw me, the first thing she said asked me if I had seen Yang Moumou recently. As soon as I heard this, I thought that Yang Moumou was missing. I said I hadn't been in contact with him for over three years and hadn't seen him again. So the old woman began to angrily accuse him, saying that he was in love with a younger woman, who was in business, and the man had killed him by running over the car. In order to live with that woman, Yang Moumou has been retired for more than three years, but he took the initiative to propose to the unit to go to Linxian County to work on poverty alleviation, and he has not returned home for more than half a year, and has filed for divorce from her twice. The old woman insisted on refusing to divorce, and kept inquiring and searching for Yang's whereabouts. She knew that Yang was already living with the woman, and she also found out that the woman lived in the garden community opposite our railway community, but she didn't know which building and which household they lived in.

Since the man has cheated and lived with other women, the woman should take the initiative to divorce him, but the old woman insisted on refusing to divorce. She said that Yang was fascinated by the vixen, and successively transferred more than 200,000 yuan of the family's savings and bought a car for the vixen's daughter. Moreover, the court also checked his provident fund savings and said that his more than 90,000 yuan of provident fund had already been withdrawn. She is looking for him now to persuade him to change his mind and return to his family. Because she and her daughter and son-in-law don't want their family to disintegrate. The wife also said that in order to prevent him from divorcing, his daughter knelt down and begged him, but he was desperate and insisted on leaving. If it weren't for her insistence, the family would have broken up a long time ago.

A man betrays his family and not only lives with another woman, but also uses all his family's savings to buy a car for someone else's daughter. Anyone who listens to this kind of thing will feel angry and unbearable, and will inevitably condemn and condemn Yang Moumou, and even see him as an extremely selfish and incorruptible man. But in fact, Yang is a well-known good person, he was a battalion-level cadre in the army, and after demobilization, he was transferred to the neighborhood office, honest and loyal, sincere to others, and decent style, and served as the deputy secretary of the neighborhood office for many years, and never had any scandals and bad reactions. He officially retired two years ago and was rehired by the unit. Therefore, when I heard that Yang had such a thing, even I was very surprised and incredible.

I knew that the old woman wanted to inquire about Yang's whereabouts from me, and at the same time wanted me to do work for Yang so that he could change his mind. However, I don't think I can intervene in this kind of thing, because I don't know anything about their relationship and problems. If I had taken the liberty of calling Yang and persuading him not to divorce, then I would have offended him. Because his daughter begged him on her knees to no avail. I was just a general acquaintance with him, how could he listen to what I said, and besides, I would definitely make him feel embarrassed and uncomfortable when I called him. So, I told the old woman that if he really wanted to be with others, there was nothing anyone could do. She said that if she did, she would have to ask him for the deposits, which were the joint property of the family. I said that according to the law, the party at fault should make appropriate compensation to the other party, and even if you are divorced, the court will definitely make a division of property in her favor. But she said that the court asked her to produce evidence to prove that he was at fault, but her daughter had found information about his cheating in his mobile phone text messages in the past, but he deleted all those messages. In this case, I can only tell her that I am also retired and have not been in contact with him for three years.

Afterwards, I thought about it for a long time. I thought that the reason why Yang insisted on divorce without hesitation must have his own reasons and reasons. There are many people of our age who have long been tired of marriage, but for various reasons, they are slowly giving up. Some of my friends have been divorced, divorced, divorced, divorced, and remarried. This is because at our age, there is a very ambivalent mentality. First, because when I reached retirement age, my future was bleak, and my life was almost over, so I didn't want to endure the marriage that I had endured for many years. In order not to continue to wronged himself, he wanted to divorce without hesitation and live with his true beloved. But in fact, another contradictory mentality is dominant. That is, at this age, the face is full of wrinkles, and the old face looks old, not to mention how much energy there is in the body and physical strength, how much can there still be in that kind of romantic mood that yearns for and longing? To say that the young age is still full of youthful fantasies and romantic feelings, older people attach more importance to the reality of life and money and possessions. The two old men regrouped together, and after two or three days, they began to think about who suffered and who took advantage. Therefore, although the average elderly are dissatisfied with their marriage, they are too lazy to toss in order not to make trouble for themselves and their families. Moreover, at this age, it is not easy to find a younger and more beautiful woman, if you don't have any capital and expertise, you can only find those old women who are not much different in age, but how many men want to find an old woman for themselves? As for this kind of thought, although there are many old people who have this or that idea, but lack the necessary opportunities and conditions, they slowly die in this regard, think about it, and then shift their thoughts and energy to exercise, do something they like, help their children take care of their children, etc., so as to pass the time day by day.

No man or woman likes to toss, make some gossip and scandals for themselves, if it is not for the impatience of marriage, or really meet their beloved, no one will die and put their whole person into it without hesitation. I think Yang used to be a battalion commander in the army and a deputy secretary in the neighborhood office, and he would definitely not be a person with a brain in water. The reason why he did this must have his real reasons and thoughts. It's just that I don't think he should use the family's bank savings and his own provident fund to buy a car for his daughter, because this is the joint property of the family and cannot be owned by one person.

When I used to teach in a secondary school, a female teacher also encountered this when she retired. Her lover is a famous painter in Shaanxi Province, and she fell in love with a female graduate student she brought, so she was going to divorce the female teacher. Of course, the female teacher refused, so the painter went out of the house and rented a house with the female disciple to live together. After more than two years of tossing, the two finally divorced. From that incident, I found out that divorce is not a problem of one aspect, but a responsibility and problem for both parties. The painter is only busy painting all day long, and his achievements are very high and his fame is great. But our female teacher is also pretentious, and likes to nag in front of others all day long about how beautiful she used to be, and now she is a senior teacher in a secondary school, and she belongs to a senior title, and she is not worse than a painter. It's just a matter of saying this once or twice, but she says it when she meets people, outside, and at home. If you talk too much, the painter will be very disgusted and annoyed, and he will not want to listen to her or see her. Over time, the painter did not go home much, and as a result, he became better with his students.

The reason why Yang insists on divorce, with such great determination and resolute attitude, there must be reasons for this, but we don't know the truth of these reasons. In fact, when we are often faced with divorce, we will listen to women pitifully tell about men's various vices and wrongs, as if their men are just like Chen Shimei, but we don't know that some women are like having neuropathy, which makes men unbearable. There is an elderly couple in our community. Men retire for many years, women do not work and live on men's pensions. Men like to seduce women outside, and they have also bought things for other women. So, the woman followed the man all day long and looked at the man, and when she saw someone else, she would tell the man which woman he had gotten along with and which woman he had bought things for. We all think that this woman is very stupid, since she lives on a man and insists on refusing to divorce, she can't go and belittle a man at will. Since you have ruined his reputation, can he not hate you?

As the divorce rate continues to rise, so does the divorce rate among the elderly. Divorce is not something we want to do, just out of desperation. In particular, the divorce of the elderly is even more compelling. Therefore, both men and women should know how to care for each other and be considerate, respect and understand each other, even if one party has made mistakes, they must know how to tolerate and guide each other to help them get out of the predicament and get on the right track. In fact, many families have cracks and crises because they can't tolerate and understand each other, and can't help and guide each other.