Don't give up on happiness Zhang Baotong 2018.2.9

Despite all the worries in life, people are still living in pursuit of happiness. Happiness is our rain, dew and sunshine, our warm pleasure, and the essence of our life feeling worthy and meaningful.

Happiness is often around us and in front of us, but happiness and unhappiness are sometimes like two sides of the same coin, and we need to make a choice. The results of the selection indicate which side you will value more. If you choose to be happy, then you will lose something else. If you choose something else, you will lose a lot of happiness.

Many years ago, there was a young and happy tailor in France who worked for his boss to make clothes. When he went to work, he always made clothes and sang songs at the same time, as if he never had sorrow or trouble. The co-workers looked at him and asked him, "Paul, are you really happy?" and he replied, "Yes, I'm happy." One day, a worker looked at the boss with a sad face, and said to the boss, "Boss, why don't you have a smiling face all day long?" Look at Paul, singing all day long, doing work, happy and happy, how enviable. The boss smiled gloomily and said, "I'll make him just like me." But the worker shook his head and said he didn't believe it. The boss said, "Just wait and see." ”

The next day, the boss called Paul into the office and asked, "Do you want to make more money?" The boss smiled and said, "Very good, I'll lend you some money, and you can open a shop yourself, so that you can make more money every day." Paul was so pleased that he opened a shop on the street and became his own boss. After the store opened, business slowly increased. Paul spends his days picking up and doing work, picking up and dropping off customers. Sometimes I'm so busy that I can't even eat. When everyone left work, he still had to settle accounts. By the time he left the shop, it was already dark. Since then, Paul has never sung or smiled.

Speaking at the 20th St. Petersburg International Economic Forum in June 2016, Jack Ma said, "The biggest mistake of my life was to create Alibaba. I didn't expect it to change my life, I just wanted to start a small company, and it turned into such a big business. Jack Ma also said, "If there is an afterlife, I will not do this kind of business again, and I hope to have the opportunity to go to any country in the world and live there peacefully." In this regard, some people say that Ma Yun is too capable of pretending. In fact, this may be what Jack Ma really thinks. After all, people do not live in the world to earn more money, the purpose of earning more money is to live a better life and have more happiness. If he loses a lot of happiness in order to earn more money, this is probably his helplessness.

Choosing to be happy or choosing to earn more money is actually a choice faced by many people. Some of these choices are willing, and some are forced. A few years ago, when I was a secretary at school, I was surrounded by many golfers, including state-owned enterprises, private enterprises, restaurants, companies, and of course, some who have retired. I have to ask some golfers to come to school almost every night to play. On Saturday and Sunday afternoons, a game is organized. The enthusiasm for playing is very high, the competition is fierce, and some people often win rankings in provincial and municipal competitions. It can be said that playing table tennis is the greatest joy of our daily life.

However, because private companies often have to work overtime, and people who open stores and companies are often inseparable from their business, some events and competitions cannot be attended, and they always feel very sorry afterwards. Later, a golfer who was the director of a private company was poached by a foreign company because of the low salary of the private company. There are also a few people who have moved away because they have bought a new house, and they rarely come back to play. So, sometimes when people meet and talk about playing, they feel very nostalgic. For people who are working and in business, they have to work, and work is definitely more important than playing. Because they depend on it to feed their families. So, they only have time to play two or three times a week. But for retirees, the situation is different. They can go out to work, or they can live in peace. We have seven or eight retired workers here with monthly salaries of 3,000, 4,000 and 5,000. The children are all working and married, and there is no burden. However, everyone's perception is different. Some people refused a salary of 4,000 yuan a month to become consultants in order to play, and some people were unwilling to work as coaches in other stadiums for 3,000 yuan. However, some people went to work as janitors for other people's units in order to earn an extra 2,000 yuan, and some people went to northern Shaanxi to work as train drivers in other people's mining areas in order to earn an extra 6,000 yuan. Therefore, some people play every day, while others rarely play anymore, or even don't play anymore.

My family lives on the top seven floors in the community, and my wife always thinks that the floor is too high, and it is too difficult to go up and down, and she wants to move to a new building many times. However, I insisted on not moving out in order to make it easier to play, so the new house is still being rented out. Since there was no place to move to the new building, you had to travel a long way to play golf. However, playing golf is the greatest joy of the day for me, and I don't want to give up playing because I am going to live in a new building. If I don't play, I won't be happy even if I live in a nice house.

Of course, everyone will have their own hobbies and joys. Some people love to sing, some people love to dance, some people love to play chess, some people love fishing. People are only happy when they do what they like. There are many people who are looking forward to retirement, not to be idle, but to do what they love to do and get more happiness in life. Everyone wants to earn more money, but having more money is not the same thing as being happy. A friend of mine has millions of dollars, but he has been taking medicine and seeing doctors for many years, and he has been deceived several times because he bought medicine, and he has bought a lot of money. Therefore, when he saw that we were alive and healthy, he was very envious.

People know that money is inexhaustible, and if there are no major disasters in your family, and no one suffers from any incurable diseases, it can be said that your family's money will not be spent. Our generation is used to the hard time and will not go to the kind of days when they spend a lot of money. So, the monthly salary is simply not spent. Not to mention 4,000 per month, even 40,000 per month, our lives will not change in any way. Therefore, everyone uses the excess money to speculate in stocks and buy funds. If you feel that you don't have enough money and want to earn more, you want nothing more than to increase the amount of your stocks and bank deposits. And those stocks and bank deposits may not be used until the day you die.

There are 10,000 or 20,000 people in our community, and in a few days we will see people die. Some people are still working and die in their forties or fifties. It's very sad. I often hear people say that after retirement, you can get 40,000 or 50,000 yuan for an extra year, 450,000 yuan for 10 more years, and almost 1 million for 20 years. Therefore, people should live a relaxed and happy life, get less sick and go to the hospital less, not only can they earn an extra year or two of their wages, but also save money for medical treatment and medicine. But some people just don't understand such a simple and clear thing, in order to earn two or three thousand more, they stand at traffic intersections all day long and serve as assistant policemen for others, not to mention the danger of traffic coming and going, just the exhaust of the car can smoke people down. If something happens to him one day or he has a serious illness, he will definitely regret it.

A few days ago, an acquaintance of mine passed away after only two years of retirement. He likes to smoke and drink, has a bad temper, does not socialize with others, suffers from high blood pressure, and after retirement, he could have followed everyone for a walk or leisure, but his wife forced him to work as a doorman in a factory. When the doorman has to work two shifts, it is not convenient to eat, so sometimes he makes do. As a result, I fell last year and walked with a limp, and at the beginning of this year, I couldn't do it. Therefore, everyone said that he was too unprofitable, and after only two years of retirement, he left, saving his salary for the country.

At every stage of our lives, we cannot ignore the impact of happiness on our entire life and quality of life. Happiness not only makes us feel happy and happy, but also has a great impact on our attitude towards life. After conducting a long-term survey on the longevity of residents of Utah and Nevada in the United States, American psychologist Siliegman pointed out that the emotional experience of happiness is an important factor in people's longevity. To prove the relationship between happiness and longevity, researchers in the United States collected the biographies of 180 nuns of the Convent of Our Lady when they were admitted to the convent in 1932 and found out each nun's attitude towards life, both positive and negative. Based on this, they quantified the nuns' outlook on their lives, and then looked at the life spans of the nuns. They found that 90 percent of the 25 percent of nuns who were most optimistic about life lived to be over 85 years old. In contrast, only 34 per cent of the nuns who are the most pessimistic about life live to this age. By the age of 90, 54% of the most optimistic nuns are still alive. The most pessimistic 1/4 of the nuns are only 11% left. The final conclusion is that "happy nuns are nuns who live a long life".

Now that we know the value and significance of happiness in our lives, and the role of happiness in our longevity, will we give up and sacrifice our happiness in order to earn more meaningless money?