Proofreading the coordinates of love (1) Zhang Baotong

Affection is the bond of marriage, and it connects the happiness of everyone in the family. The secret to a happy marriage is: find a good person and be a good person.

1. The collapse of the emotional bridge

Sovasilev, a famous Bulgarian marriage scholar, said in the "**** Treatise", "The interaction between men and women must require them to abide by certain moral obligations to each other, and without this voluntary moral obligation, the feelings of mutual love cannot exist." "Anyone may be able to say something about the moral obligations of marriage and family, but not everyone can do it. As a result, there have been tragedies of the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife and the dissolution of marriage.

Xiao Wang, an assistant engineer at a research institute in the southern suburbs of Xi'an, and Xiao Lin, a female teacher at a middle school in Xi'an, fell in love at first sight. Xiao Wang Siwen is free and easy, shrewd and capable. And Kobayashi is naturally beautiful and has a beautiful temperament. The two can be said to be talented and beautiful, a match made in heaven. After half a year of lingering and tenderness under the moon before the flower, the lovers finally became married. However, in the frenzy of love on the wedding night, they swore to the stars and the moon that the years are fleeting, but the love remains the same. However, on the third night of their affection, the bride, out of her devotion to her lover, confessed to the groom that she had fallen in love with a boy and lived together in college, begging him for forgiveness. Unexpectedly, the groom immediately turned his back, contrary to the normal state of Sven and elegant, and scolded the bride for deceiving him. The bride was frightened by the unsuspecting storm and hurried to explain to him. But the bridegroom did not listen at all, and threw the door away. The bride knew that she had made a mistake, and with tears of shame and sadness, she took off her bride's dress and returned to her original home. A few days later, they went to the sub-district office together and went through the divorce procedures. An enviable newlywed died like this.

Due to the acceleration of social processes and the pace of life, the phenomenon of unmarried cohabitation or pregnancies out of wedlock has increased significantly, and has even formed a trend in some universities. This cannot but be worrying. Because this is really a risky act of taking one's chastity and body as a child's play, and it will even sow the bitter fruit of an unhappy marriage in the future. However, among the growing ranks of divorces, the increase in divorce caused by extramarital affairs or extramarital sex is the most significant, and the pain and consequences are even more severe.

Zhou, a female worker whose family works in a service industry in the western suburbs, often goes out because of her busy work, so she takes care of the family's life and children almost alone. At that time, she was in her forties, her health was not good, and her children were young, so she was too tired to move after work. But I still have to be busy with housework and take care of the children, which is very unbearable. There is a middle-aged male worker in the unit whose family is out of town, and often visits her house or helps to do some work, and sometimes buys some food and supplies for her and her children. After a long time, I don't know whether it was out of gratitude or affection, the two got along and had sex. Later, the husband found out. The husband didn't say a word, packed up his things, and returned to his parents' house with the child. She knew that she had made a big mistake and came to her in-law's house several times with shame and remorse, but her husband's attitude did not change with the passage of time and years. She was so sad and disappointed that she had to go home and weep alone. In the constant pleas and rejections, she finally entered the saddest moment of her life, and she retired. She approached her husband several times in a row, trying to make a last-ditch effort. But the husband was always reluctant to speak out. Zhou was completely desperate, recalling that all she had received in the past ten years of distress and pleading was insults and rejections, as well as the rumors and cold eyebrows in front of and behind people, she felt that all her thoughts were discouraged, and she resolutely abandoned her home and ran away to become a nun on Nanwutai Mountain.

However, in addition to the strong "earthquake", the silent weight can sometimes lead to the collapse of the nest of love.

On closer inspection, many of our marriages appear to be strong, but they collapse in an instant when a storm strikes, leaving no precautions or protections in place. Moreover, the unforgettable vows of our love for each other and the intoxication and love when we shared our family are so pale and helpless at this moment. It can be seen that the foundation and structure of many of our marriages have fallen into disrepair and are weak. What is more important, however, is that we have not established a strong concept of marriage, that we have not fulfilled our due responsibility for maintaining our happy and happy marriage, and that we have not properly exercised our right to be solemnly responsible to both parties to the family and to the individual.