The marriage of his parents Zhang Bao is the same as 20181026

I am often puzzled by how much divorce is so rash and casual today, and what good is it that divorce rate is so high? Not to mention that young people nowadays, even those of us who are close to retirement, no longer seem to regard marriage as sacred and serious. A few days ago, my wife attended a class reunion, and there were less than 20 classmates together, but there were seven or eight divorced people. Someone even asked my wife, "Why don't you get divorced yet?" as if divorce is like playing WeChat. Divorce among young people is even more severe. Many people who have just been married for three or two months or a year or two say that they will leave all of a sudden, and they really have some resolute and courageous courage. I really don't know if their love is really over, or if I feel like I'm really looking for the wrong person.

It reminds me of my parents' marriage.

My biological father's marriage to my mother's marriage was entirely an arranged marriage. I heard from my mother that my grandmother's family had four children, and the eldest was a boy, who was my uncle. Here are the three girls, my aunt, my mom and my aunt. Grandma's family is very poor, but the three girls are like flowers, which makes the locals very envious. At that time, my grandfather was the tax director of Pingliang City, Gansu Province, and he was very rich. I heard from my mother that most of his gold bracelets and gold chains were packed in large bowls. Therefore, he has a wife in his hometown in Su County, Anhui Province, but he has found several little wives outside. Therefore, my father's family is a very famous family in the local area. I went back to my hometown once during the Cultural Revolution, and our family's land was confiscated, but my cousin ran the pear tree orchard, which alone was the size of a football field. There were several houses and yards, which became warehouses and cattle sheds for the production team.

The person I chose for my dad was personally selected by my grandmother in the neighboring villages. She chose my mom right away. At that time, my mother was only sixteen years old, and her figure and temperament were not bad, and the only thing that dissatisfied my grandmother was my mother's feet. Those feet were big and long, which did not conform to the aesthetics of the people of the time at all. So, she forced my mom to start binding her feet.

Foot binding is a very painful and even cruel thing, and the spacious front foot board is wrapped in a long cloth into a small, pointed shape. If in today's society, no matter how rich and powerful you are, no one will have to wrap their feet in order to enter your home. However, my mom likes my dad because my dad is the second son in the family, only two years older than my mom. He was handsome, handsome, and well-read. As a girl from a poor family, she always longs to marry into a rich family, but the most important thing is that my mother can't read a single word, so she has a sense of respect and admiration for cultured people.

At that time, my father was not actually in his hometown, but went to school in Pingliang, Gansu. My mom spent the whole day at my grandmother's house wholeheartedly wrapping her feet. She hopes to follow her future mother-in-law's instructions to wrap her feet well, and she will be able to marry into a rich family smoothly. Soon after my parents got married, the country was liberated. My grandfather was imprisoned by the government, and my father happened to be building a railroad at the foot of Wusheling Mountain in Wuwei, Gansu Province. My grandmother was originally from a large family, and she liked to find fault and play prestige, so she was very strict with my mother, and often coerced and made things difficult for my mother. My mother couldn't bear it anymore, so she carried a pair of small feet and dozens of oceans, and traveled thousands of miles from her hometown in Anhui to the foot of the Wusheling Mountains to find my father.

The conditions of the railway site were very poor, and the workers lived in shacks made of wooden planks, so there was no place for their families to live. My dad got some friends to help him, dug a cave at the edge of the construction site, and lived in it with my mom. Later, the railway site was moved to the Baolan Line and the Baocheng Line, and my mother has been living in a cave on the construction site with her children. I was born in the cave of the saffron shop on the Posei Line. The situation in our family at that time was much more difficult than the situation in Du Pengcheng's "Walking in Lingguan Gorge at Night". Although my mother and we have been living in the cave of the construction site, life is very hard, and there are often wolves into the hole at night, which scares my mother so much that she does not dare to sleep, but it is the happiest and most beautiful period of my mother's life. Because she was able to be with my dad every day. My dad was a cheerful and sociable person, and he would often invite his friends to the cave for a drink. My mom was cooking for them outside the cave. Life is hard, but life is happy.

After repairing the Baocheng Railway, my father's engineering office went to the Luohe River between Pucheng and Dali in Shaanxi Province to build a railway bridge. However, when the bridge was about to be completed, my father was transferred to work at Xi'an Station. Our family is still living in a cave at the Luohe Bridge construction site, waiting for my dad to take our family to live in Xi'an after he settles it in Xi'an.

However, what our family was looking forward to was not good news, but a bolt from the blue. My dad was wiping the turnout on a foggy morning when he didn't notice a train was coming towards him. My dad just left us. When my mother took my three-year-old me and my one-year-old sister to Xi'an for funeral, the Wei River launched a big flood again, and the yellow mud water was boundless, because we couldn't find a boat and couldn't cross the river, so the three of us stayed by the river for three days and three nights. My poor sister died by the river because she had a high fever during the night and had nowhere to cure.

After my father died, our family was in a crisis of life. Originally, we lived in a cave at the railway construction site because we had to wait for our father to pick us up and take us to Xi'an. However, now my father is gone, and the railway bridge will soon be repaired, and as soon as it is repaired, it will be moved somewhere else. Therefore, now there is only one way for our family, and that is to go back to our hometown to live. But my mother hated my grandmother to death, so she didn't want to go back to her hometown.

Just when my mother was sad and desperate all day and washed her face with tears, the leader of the railway construction site came to our family and asked to introduce my mother to someone. The person who introduced me was my stepfather. He used to be in the same class as my biological father, my father was the class leader, and he was the deputy class leader. He is eight years older than my mother, withdrawn, stubborn, taciturn, not good at socializing, he is the old eight roads of the past, a crippled soldier, he is thirty-seven or eighteen years old, and he has not yet been married.

He happened to come back from his hometown in Hebei. Originally, the old family found him a woman, twenty-seven or eighteen years old, with two boys. He also met the woman, and felt good, and the woman was very willing to leave the countryside with him and live abroad. Just as he was about to leave his hometown with the woman and the two children and return to the construction site, the woman's father-in-law said a word when he saw them off, and when the children grew up, he still wanted them to come back. Because of this sentence, my stepfather was unwilling, originally he thought that it didn't matter if a woman had two children, just as his own son. However, as soon as he heard the old man say this, he thought that he had raised these two children for nothing, because they would have to come back. Therefore, he immediately changed his mind, left the woman and the child, and returned to the construction site alone. As soon as I got back to the construction site, I heard that my father had suffered a work injury and was gone. At this time, the leader of the unit asked him to marry my mother, so that he could not only have a home, but also let our family get out of the current predicament. He said he was willing, but he was afraid that my mother would not agree.

Because my mother loved my father deeply, she really didn't take my stepfather seriously, because in her mind, she felt that my stepfather was too far behind my biological father in terms of physical appearance, personality, demeanor and culture. So, when the leader introduced my stepfather to my mom, my mom firmly disagreed. However, the leader didn't care whether my mother agreed or not, and made a decision in the name of the organization, and asked a few people to move our family's things from the cave to my stepfather's cave, and my mother's quilt to my stepfather's bed. Because my mother has no culture, and now there is no my father, the six gods have no master, and I don't know what to do, so I have to obey the decision of the unit leader.