The Profound Impact of Family EducationZhang Baotong 2018.10.5

The family is not only an educational environment, it also benefits from many inheritances of the parents. This genetic factor includes physical appearance and height, among many other things that you can't see but are aware of. If you are born into a good family, first of all, your parents have already taken the lead in the choice of marriage. Your father will choose a healthy and beautiful woman as his wife, while your mother will choose a smart and capable man as her husband. In this way, their children will have a clear advantage in appearance, height, and intelligence. In other words, you are born to be a good piece of material. In a poor and bad family, the marriage of the parents may be a helpless union, and the basic life may not be guaranteed, so the parents will have some problems in terms of physique and culture, so the child may have some congenital deficiencies as soon as he is born.

Of course, the most important thing is the family environment. This environment is an education in itself. Otherwise, people will say that the environment makes people. No matter what kind of inheritance your parents gave you, as long as you are healthy and have normal intelligence, you can become a talented person through a good acquired education. Just as a small tree can grow into a towering tree if it is well nurtured, if a small tree is crooked from an early age, then it will not grow into a good timber when it grows up.

I have analyzed the families of some of my classmates in elementary and middle school in the past, and found that those who are more promising are either from cadre families or from families with learning. Of course, there are some who come from ordinary workers or peasant families, but these are a minority.

I remember the class leaders in our primary school, and their fathers were almost all cadres of our Agency. They were taken care of by their school teachers since they were young, and they were taken care of by their fathers after work, so they all did well later, and some of them became CEOs and executives of companies and units. From this example, it can be seen that the parents of these students were born in wealthy or literate families in the past, and the combination of parents not only inherited good genes for them, but also created a good environment for them to grow up. When they become adults, their father can not only arrange them with good jobs, but also facilitate their promotion. Therefore, their lives can be described as bright and smooth sailing.

Compared with an ordinary worker or a child from a peasant family, not to mention that the future is bright and smooth, it will be very difficult and difficult to find a decent job. Even if they find a job, every step they take up will be very difficult and difficult. Therefore, among our young classmates, there are many very smart and capable people who have struggled all their lives because they have no special care from their parents, and they are still ordinary people. The cadres and the ordinary workers or peasants seem to be very close, but in fact they are very far away. In the near future, they usually work and live together, but far away, there will be a big gap between their cultural level, economic foundation, behavioral norms and way of thinking. These differences in personality have created a chasm between them. The so-called noble son from a poor family is very rare.

There is an unwritten habit prevailing in the family compound of the Sixth Engineering Agency of our Fourth Railway Bureau, that is, in terms of finding a partner, the children of the cadre family will generally look for the children of the cadre family, and in the workers' family, only those beautiful girls can climb the cadre family and become a member of the cadre family. This will not only make their status much higher, but also their jobs can be quickly replaced.

The inheritance of parents is not only their appearance and height, but also their living habits and temperament will also be imperceptibly and profoundly affected by their parents. Scientists have found that husbands and wives will gradually tend to look alike when they live together for a long time. Therefore, children and parents live together all year round, and there will be many similarities. For example, eating habits, views on life, and ways of dealing with people. I remember my mom used to bite her nails with her teeth and pick out her teeth with needles. Later, our children also had this habit. It wasn't until I grew up that I slowly changed it. But there are some habits that haven't changed. For example, they don't pay much attention to what they wear, and they don't give gifts.

Whether it is a child of a rich family or not, you can often tell at a glance. The children of wealthy families are not only neatly dressed, but also have a more elegant temperament. This can be seen very clearly in our time. Wearing cleanliness and elegance is a noble demeanor. This is also a major reason why they are more likely to become cadres and leaders.

More important than dress and temperament is the child's talent and aura. This is the key to measuring whether a child can achieve great things. Most of the parents of ordinary families are workers and peasants with low or no education at all, and they have worked construction sites or fields for many years, and it is impossible for them to inherit any talent and aura from their children in terms of cultural temperament. Therefore, the children of ordinary workers and peasant families did not have an advantage in terms of aptitude and aura for cultural learning. Don't underestimate a person's talent and aura, it is a prerequisite for a person's achievements and success. Teresa Teng's rise to become Asia's most famous singer is naturally related to her mother's beautiful voice and her father's love of music. We know that Lang Lang can become a world-famous singer and Ding Junhui can become a world-famous billiards player, both of which were forced and forced by his father. However, if they don't have the talent for this, they will definitely not be able to achieve great things.

I remember when I was a child, I never studied hard, I spent my days fishing, catching frogs, picking snails, digging wild vegetables, or playing marbles and throwing corners, and then when I came to junior high school, I was busy playing table tennis from morning to night. However, my academic performance has always been very good. Later, I was assigned to teach English in a secondary school, and one day, a colleague showed me an article that he published in the newspaper. I thought that such a small me could write, so I wrote a thousand-word article called "Naming" and sent it to the monthly magazine "Chang'an" at that time. Ascended in the second month. Soon, I saw a prose poem, which was very beautifully written, so I imitated and wrote "The Scenery is Picturesque Here", which was featured in the "Xi'an Evening News" and selected as the first article by the "Reader". Later, I was transferred to the Education Center of Xi'an Railway Branch to be in charge of news reporting. But I didn't know anything about news reporting, so I read a few newspapers and started writing news and people newsletters, and as a result, the manuscript was published quickly. Although my father died before I was four years old, I have no impression of him, and my mother was from a poor family and could not read a single word. But my grandfather used to be a literati, and before liberation, he was the tax director of Pingliang City, Gansu Province, and he could write a good handwriting and first-hand articles. I guess I may have been genetically influenced by this. On the contrary, when it comes to dancing and singing, I am very clumsy, I can't sing all the five notes, and I haven't learned to dance many times. This example shows how important a person's talent and aura are in a certain area. Or, I later understood why some children work so hard to learn but can't learn at all because they don't have the talent to learn.

In addition, parents with good family conditions pay more attention to culture. They will have a deeper understanding and experience of "everything is inferior, only reading is high". In order to hope that their sons will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes, they will do everything possible to guide and urge their children to gain fame and glory to their ancestors. Dou Yanshan taught words and teachings by example, and carefully cultivated them, so that the five sons became the masters; Sima Guangzheng taught the virtues and made the children eventually become great weapons. In addition, Mencius's mother took great pains to ensure that her children had a good educational environment, and moved to three places; Ouyang Xiu's mother, because her family was poor and had no books, borrowed other people's books for her children to read, and copied some books in their entirety. This would never happen in the homes of ordinary people. Especially in ordinary families like Meng Mu and Ou Mu, where mothers and children depend on each other, they think about livelihood first, rather than studying and future fame. Because they wouldn't have that kind of economy, and they wouldn't have that kind of vision. Therefore, whether it is from history or modern society, most of those who have become famous and have families are from rich and noble families and learned people. Even in modern times, education has become quite universal, but children from economically sound and educated families still have more opportunities to go on to higher education and become talents. For example, for many children who fail to be admitted to university, rich families can spend 120,000 yuan to send their children to college, but those with poor economic conditions can only look forward to the school and sigh. If you don't get a good education, your child will suffer a lot in terms of employment and promotion in the future.