The child's home time Zhang Baotong 2019.4.22

No matter how important we think school is, children still spend more time at home than at school. That's why many experts believe that homeschooling is so important for children. The huge influence that parents have on their children cannot be ignored. We can't compromise homeschooling because of teachers.

I have spent time in elementary, middle and high school, and my general impression is that children from better families and with higher educational levels of parents will naturally excel in learning and performance than those from single-parent or poorer families.

Family and parents have a great influence on children's character and habits, and good character and habits are the most important guarantee for children's healthy growth. Because character and habits themselves determine the future fate of the child. If a child lives in a good family, parents will teach him how to study, how to listen, how to follow the rules, how to complete homework independently, and how to socialize with others. When he encounters difficulties and setbacks, his parents will help him overcome them and solve them.

On the contrary, a poor family or a parent who is not very concerned about their child's learning may not pay much attention to their child's learning and performance in school, and they may not pay much attention to their child's difficulties and problems. When your child is not doing well or has serious bad habits, it may be too late to ask.

Children may have roughly the same IQ, but their personalities and habits will be very different. Compared with a student who loves to learn and a person who does not like to study, there will be a big gap in their academic performance in the third and fourth grades. If you move on to junior high school or high school, the gap will be further exacerbated. The gap in life is accumulated over the years.

Parents are the first teachers of their children, and their role as role models and guides is very huge. If parents like to read and learn, then it is very helpful for children to form this good habit. In addition to reading and learning, there are also some interests to cultivate, which require the guidance and help of parents. These will benefit children for life.

According to those who have studied education in China and the United States, the richer the family, the more important it is to the education of their children. They are willing to invest in their children's education and try their best to create conditions for their children to enter prestigious schools. Wealthy families in the United States send their children to private schools. Because private schools have good operating conditions and high quality of teaching. In particular, the Ivy League universities in the United States are almost all privately renowned schools in the country.

The same is true in China, where families and parents with good conditions will require their children to aspire to go to a good school and a prestigious university from an early age, so that they can have a good future in the future. However, if you look at the children of rural families, many of them go out to work to earn money as soon as they graduate from junior high school. So, how can their future compare to those who have gone to college?

I am not saying that if the family conditions are not good or the parents' education level is not high, they cannot educate good children, but because the parents with poor family conditions or low education level do not like to study or do not pay much attention to learning, so they do not pay too much attention to their children's learning and growth. If parents can attach great importance to their children's learning and growth even if the family conditions are not good, they can also cultivate their children's good character and habits. If a parent can help and tutor their children in reading or math on a regular basis, the child will develop a great interest in reading and math. Even if the parents are illiterate, they attach great importance to their children's learning, which can also make them grow and achieve. The famous ancient Chinese "Three Migrations of Meng's Mother" and "Ou (Yangxiu) Mother and Son" are examples of this.

Children are our future and hope, whether children are promising, whether they can make us worry-free, we need to start education from an early age. There is a saying that "sow melons and get melons, plant beans and get beans", which depends on how we as parents should educate and nurture our children.

Of course, the education of children is a shared responsibility of the family and the school. If the child does not study and perform well, the teacher will blame the parents for not managing the child well, and the parents will complain that the teacher has not taught the child well. And a child who learns and performs well will be appreciated by both home and school. Therefore, schools and families need to strengthen their ties and share responsibilities in educating their children. However, teachers have to teach dozens of students, and it is impossible to take care of every student well, so parents need to pay more attention to and help their children grow up healthily.