Beautiful Harmony Zhang Baotong 2016.12.25

The love of parents is the most important guarantee for family harmony, love for children and the formation of good temperament and living habits of children. Pen | fun | pavilion www. ｂｉｑｕｇｅ。 InfoParents love each other, and give their children much more than a mansion, a luxury car, and a lot of money. Luxury houses, luxury cars and thousands of family wealth do not necessarily make their children live happily, but what parents love and give their children is incomparably precious beauty and harmony.

The love story can be said to be the most touching and touching to the heart, it is the most beautiful and dazzling color and feeling of human feelings. Especially when we see two wrinkled, gray-haired couples walking hand in hand?

Today, I saw the news on the Internet that Mr. and Mrs. Winsteadt from Tennessee, USA, held each other's hands in their hospital beds and passed away together. At this time, their 64th wedding anniversary was only five weeks away. Dolaris Winsted, 83, and her husband, Trent Winsted, 88, have been married for nearly 64 years. At the end of their lives, they were in the same ward in the same hospital. The two men on the hospital bed held each other's hands. On December 7, Dolaris suddenly felt a headache. Upon examination, Dolaris had a brain aneurysm and needed a ventilator to help him breathe. Like her husband, her physical condition began to deteriorate dramatically. The hospital helped to place them in the same room for treatment. Dolaris died before her husband, and when Trent was told that his wife had died, he gave her a flying kiss and died a few hours later. The two met and fell in love in Dixon, Tennessee, in the '50s, and Trent fought in the Korean War, and their correspondence continued uninterrupted. The two were married when Trent returned home. January 17 next year will be the 64th anniversary of their marriage. The couple will be buried together, and the funeral will take place this week, with the song "True Love Lives On" played during the ceremony.

Seeing this kind of scene may not only make us feel a lot, but even teach us a lot. Looking at our marriage and love, how many people can stay in love for so long and love each other so deeply? Before marriage, almost everyone's love is love and love, vigorous, but how long can love after marriage be maintained? For marriage, people most often mention that "marriage is the grave of love" and "siege effect", and it is "the seven-year itch" or even "the two-year itch". It seems that after marriage, it is no longer the continuation and effort of the couple to deepen their love, but the beginning of the differentiation of love. Women's feelings are derailed, red apricots are out of the wall, men empathize with other loves, see different thoughts, extramarital affairs and extramarital affairs, supporting lovers or non-marital cohabitation have abounded, and it is not strange. And husband and wife have different dreams in the same bed, quarrel endlessly, have marriage without love, and have been separated for many years are also sparse and common. And the phenomenon of divorce and remarriage is also increasing year by year, and there are more and more of them. It seems that feelings and love have become a major worry and trouble in people's lives now.

According to statistics, in 2015, the divorce rate in Sichuan Province was four couples going through divorce procedures every two minutes. In 2014, a total of 774,200 couples registered their marriages and 229,600 couples divorced. The number of divorces is six times higher than there were 14 years ago, and two couples break up every minute. From 2000 to 2014, the divorce rate in Chengdu rose from 11.12% to 38.6%. Experts analyze that half of the reasons for divorce are extramarital affairs.

Divorce is the liberation of a dead marriage. However, how many marriages and love in those families and couples that have not divorced are still alive? In fact, in the marriages of middle-aged and elderly couples, there are really not many who can still maintain the residual warmth of love. It is roughly estimated that at least 80% of couples no longer love each other, and they do not want to divorce because of various reasons and concerns. The reason why there are so many extramarital affairs, extramarital affairs, or fostering, cheating and ***** in society is because many couples no longer love each other and no longer rely on each other, so they can only go out to seek emotional comfort and support.

A couple who no longer love each other is a family tragedy. This atmosphere of tragedy can envelop the entire family, affecting themselves as well as their children and families. Because family is a place of love, love is a wonderful and warm feeling and feeling, which allows people who love each other to communicate intimately, selflessly dedicate, and tolerate each other. And these are the fundamentals of conjugal harmony and family harmony. On the contrary, without love, intimacy, selfless dedication and tolerance, it is easy for husbands and wives to quarrel with each other and within the family, and to break out between hot and cold wars, so that they turn against each other and do not give in to each other.

Whether it is a divorce or arguing all day long, it will have a very serious impact on other family members, and will make children feel restless, irritable and indifferent. This is also very detrimental to the formation of the child's temperament and character. I have spent a lot of time in high school, junior high school, and elementary school, and I am deeply aware of the serious consequences that families with poor parents or divorce can have on children's development. Especially in junior high school and elementary school, almost all children who are mischievous or have serious problems come from families where their parents are divorced or have a discordant relationship. Although there are some children in normal families who have problems, children in such normal families can easily recognize the problems and correct them. Children who already have family problems are hard to correct.

A bad relationship or divorce can also cause children to have low self-esteem and frustration, and lack a sense of security in the family. And these shadows sometimes stay with children for the rest of their lives. Let them feel the unwarmth and disharmony of the family. We often say that parents are their children's first teachers and role models. If parents can't set an example for their children, then when their children grow up, it will be easy to follow in their parents' footsteps and follow the old path of their parents. For example, parents quarrel or even divorce all day long, which will make children feel that this is the marital status of husband and wife, so they do not know how husband and wife should be tolerant and love each other. When their marriage is in trouble, they will also follow the example of their parents to solve the problem. Moreover, because husband and wife no longer love each other, they will quarrel and fight all day long, or fight each other coldly, so that children develop bad habits of being short-tempered and lacking patience, which is extremely destructive to their future marriage and love.

When we move our gaze from the cold and dim sky to the beautiful sunshine, and see two elderly couples walking hand in hand, holding each other's arms, we can't help but be moved by this scenery of true love. It is like a beautiful and gentle blessing that is deeply imprinted in our hearts. I can't describe how beautiful this love story is, I can't even write about their real experiences. Whoever witnesses this classic love story and scenario will feel extremely envious. After life and feelings have gone through ups and downs and difficult tests, there is still this embodiment of true and unconditional love, which cannot but be said to be a miracle of feelings and love, so this kind of love is even more romantic and beautiful legendary. When we look up and see true love blooming in a spark of tranquility, even eternally, we feel heartbeat and moved. When we see their wrinkled faces, gray hair, and hands tightly held together, it seems to indicate that their enduring love and devotion are burning for each other as bright as ever in each other's hearts, showing that they have that kind of safe and comfortable, full of love and happiness. They are the envy of any couple, as well as parents and children.

We wish the loving couple mutual respect and love, and envy their love for each other and their love for their children. They may not be able to give their children a mansion, but they give them a beautiful and warm living environment, so that they have a home that everyone desires, and they have the most important wealth in life that money cannot buy. That's the beautiful and warm life that everyone yearns for. (To be continued.) )