Heaven is beside usZhang Baotong2016.5.27

When to enjoy it? This is a major life proposition that the Chinese have been paying attention to and practicing for thousands of years. Pen ~ Fun ~ Pavilion www.biquge.info a lifetime of life, hardships and hardships, many disasters and difficulties, in order to be happy and happy.

When I was in school, I often heard my mother say: Now you have to study hard, and when you are admitted to the university, become a cadre, and sit in the office all day to work, you will have fun. And we ourselves are looking forward to it, as long as we go to college, have a job, find a lover, and get married, we can enjoy ourselves. However, when I really graduated from college and joined the work, I found that the work of the unit was always facing competition, and if I didn't lay down a piece of the world, my life would be uncomfortable. Therefore, we have to work hard. Although I have a job, it is difficult to find a partner due to poor family conditions. It's like a poor man who doesn't have much money in his hand and still wants to eat some good food, so he has to look for it and shop around. Of course, this is not the same as buying groceries, because people are also picking on you. After three and five years of searching, I finally chose a partner, and then I got married with great effort. It seems that the major and difficult events of life have come to an end, and you can enjoy yourself with peace of mind. However, soon after marriage, they had children. And the unit allows you to buy a house. At this time, raising children and buying a house to pay off debts make you face two major hardships in life. Therefore, there seems to be no end in sight to when we will be truly happy and enjoyable.

Like our parents, we like to take the hardships and efforts we have made now a foundation for happiness and pleasure in the future. It's like planting a tree and digging a well, and as soon as the tree grows and the well is dug, you can enjoy it. In fact, our lives are not at all comparable to planting trees and digging wells. Because we not only have to take responsibility for life, but we also have to do our best for our children and even grandchildren. As long as you look at your parents' life experiences and current situation, you will know that we will be like a cow, and we will not let go until we are sick and old. However, once you get sick and old, human calamity is not far off. Life isn't going to be as good as we want it to be, buy a new car today and travel the world tomorrow. Nor is it like the traditional belief of most of us, if we suffer now, we will surely enjoy happiness in the future.

But that's not to say we don't have a time for happiness and pleasure. Rather, happiness should not be the ultimate goal of our lives, but the bits and pieces of our life. The trajectories of our lives are complex and changeable, some of which we can see at a glance, and some of which we cannot predict. Every stage of life has its joys and worries, its tasks and goals. We will go to school when we are six, we will get married in our twenties, and we will retire in our fifties and sixties. There will be one thing after another in life to be completed, and one problem after another to be solved. And doing these things well and solving these problems is the goal and happiness of our lives. Just like finding a partner and raising children can make us feel troublesome, but it can also bring us a lot of joy. The happiness and joy of life are hidden in our daily trivialities, and there is no such thing as a way to find happiness just to find it. The process of your life itself is a search for happiness, and the journey of seeking happiness never ends.

Don't believe that happiness will await you at some point in time. So, whatever you're going to do, don't wait. Don't say wait until I have time to study, don't say wait until I have children to quit smoking, don't say wait until I retire to enjoy myself, don't say wait until my parents are old and then be filial. Because when you reach that moment of anticipation, many things may become unexpected and regretful.

As for when to enjoy pleasure, some people agree with bitter before sweet, and some advocate timely pleasure. This is a collision of traditional Chinese concepts and Western values. Middle-aged and older people will stick to the principle of first bitter and then sweet, while the younger generation is more willing to have fun in time. Someone has made such an analogy about which is good and which is not. They take the example of buying a house and taking out a mortgage. It is said that Chinese save money all their lives, and only when they are old do they save enough money and buy a new house. And Americans take out loans to buy houses, and when they are old, they pay off the loans. The conclusion is that Chinese do not live in new houses until they are old, while Americans live in new houses from the beginning. And eating apples, the Chinese eat the rotten first, and the Americans eat the good first. If you eat rotten, the good ones are also bad, so the Chinese can't always eat the good ones. And the Americans have eaten well, and the rotten ones are thrown away. It seems that the Chinese are stupid and have problems with their brains. In fact, have we ever thought about it? The Chinese are the smartest race in the world, with a history of 5,000 years of civilization. Could it be that the Chinese have not understood such a very simple question? I think these people probably did not take into account China's national conditions. The Chinese are still poor, and most of them have no social welfare guarantees. They can't afford not to take into account the risks of the loan, and besides, the bank won't give them a loan casually. Even if they live in a new house, what should they do for their retirement? I remember eating apples, I remember when I was a child, my mother bought two red jade apples from Changsha, and this kind of apple was eliminated many years ago. The apples are a little rotten. My mother used a knife to peel off the rotten parts of the apples, cut them into small slices and gave them to us to eat, and we all thought the apples were so delicious. If such apples were in the hands of the Americans, they would have thrown them away long ago. We can't compare ourselves to the Americans. U.S. President Barack Obama has said that if Chinese live the same as Americans, it will be a disaster for the world. Americans can be happy in time, Chinese must first bitter and then sweet. Because most Chinese need to raise children to prevent old age. If we don't do more things for our children now, and fulfill more responsibilities and obligations in our lifetimes, who will take care of us when we are old and decrepit?

Americans have American ideas, and Chinese have Chinese ways of living. People don't have to live in a new house to enjoy themselves. Happiness and joy are varied and all the time. Therefore, we should not pin happiness and pleasure on the concept of time such as "waiting for us to move to a new house, waiting for us to pay off the loan, waiting for the children to get married, waiting for us to retire". It's about having a positive and optimistic mindset and enjoying life at any time and at any time.

The poor have the happiness of the poor, and the rich have the worries of the rich. Because happiness is not something that can be bought with money. Happiness is very simple and easy to obtain. As long as you feel happy, you are happy, you are happy. For us ordinary people, as long as we have a stable job and a peaceful life, it is relatively easy to enjoy ourselves.

Some people will be happier, others will be more melancholy. And for people who are depressed, it is as if someone has stolen their happiness and joy. In fact, if we think about it carefully, we will find that our happiness and joy are not stolen by others, but we have accidentally lost them. Maybe we let the fog in front of us obscure our vision and see the world as a gloom, or maybe we focus on earning money and busyness, putting happiness and pleasure in the future time, forgetting the love and pleasure in front of us, and forming a habit and character. To this end, we must clear the clouds and see the sun, see the essence through the phenomenon, do not go too hurriedly in the scenery of life, pay more attention to and pay more attention to those things that move and feel good to us, and watch hand in hand with our beloved, sharing happiness and joy. That way, wherever we go, we will feel like heaven is right next to us. (To be continued.) )