Tolerant heart Zhang Baotong2019.2.13In this world, everyone will regard themselves as the center of this world, and all the people and things around them seem to be around them.

In fact, this kind of thing is very easy to understand, for everyone, he is always using his own eyes and feelings to perceive and understand the world.

If you don't exist, the world doesn't exist. In fact, this world is only his personal world, not the world of humanity as a whole.

It is precisely because of this awareness that everyone regards themselves as the protagonists of the stage, and other people and things are his supporting roles.

Because of this personal awareness, people only regard their own things and words as important, and do not take other things and words very seriously.

Therefore, people and things in this world only need to be in harmony

"I" will become very important. For example: my son, my wife, my mother, even my dog and my business, etc.

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The word "I" seems to have little or nothing to do with me. For example, a magnitude 8 earthquake struck Chile, causing tens of thousands of casualties.

Many people will only express a little sympathy for this news, but there will not be much attention, because he thinks that the place is far away

"I" is far away, and

"I" doesn't have much to do with it. We've probably all had the experience that we hate meetings, we hate listening to people babble and talk about them.

However, when we are about to speak on stage, we always want others to listen carefully, so we carefully prepare the scripts of our speeches.

However, when we speak, we see that people don't listen at all, or even chatter all the time, and we get very angry about it, and we feel that people don't respect us.

Sometimes we make mistakes, and we can easily forgive ourselves for the small mistakes. There are many reasons for our mistakes.

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"If you are not a sage, you can't be without fault", everyone will have strengths and weaknesses, and we should accept our own strengths and weaknesses.

However, when the same mistake is made in someone else, we will feel so abominable that we will not forgive it, so that we will make a fuss and not give up.

Moreover, when we criticize, evaluate, and blame others, we tend to be biased, ignore the facts, and even exaggerate the faults of others.

If we lie about something, when we are discovered, we will explain that it is a white lie.

We can lie a hundred times and not allow others to lie once. Once we perceive that someone is lying, we may view him with extreme contempt.

It can be seen that we have adopted a double standard in terms of tolerance, looking at the problem from both sides of the mirror.

This mirror is enlarged on one side and reduced on the other. When we treat our own mistakes, we look at ourselves in a reduced way, and when we treat others, we use the magnified side.

In fact, there is not much difference between people. They are all mixtures of great and small, good and evil, noble and vulgar.

Some people are great, good, and noble in some ways, but small, evil, and vulgar in others.

Therefore, everyone always shows their glamorous side in front of everyone and covers up their vulgar and ugly side.

If you can understand the world and human beings correctly, you should know that there is not much difference between people, and that you are not better or worse than most others.

If this is the case, when you see that others have faults and faults, you will think that you will have the same problems, you will not take some of others' faults and faults too seriously, you will not feel excessive disgust and disgust with others, and you will tolerate others and forgive others as you tolerate yourself and forgive yourself.

Forgiving and forgiving others will make them feel grateful to you and will allow them to be tolerant and forgiving to you when you make mistakes.

No matter how good and respectable a person is, he or she cannot avoid making mistakes, so tolerance and forgiveness are very important and necessary not only for oneself and for others.

To do this, you must not see yourself as the center of the world and the protagonist of the stage. Only by not taking yourself too seriously can you look at yourself and others more objectively.