My wife is always someone else's good Zhang Baotong 2016.9.23

People long to have a loving marriage and a warm and sweet family. Pen & Fun & Pavilion www.biquge.info So, we stepped on the iron shoes, searched everywhere, and finally found our lifelong wife. We take care of each other and manage it with heart, hoping that two loving hearts can be close together forever. However, "marrying a red rose, over time, the red one becomes a smear of mosquito blood on the wall, and the white one is still the bright moonlight in front of the bed; This is a passage written by Eileen Chang in "White Roses and Red Roses".

We always have many beautiful fantasies and beautiful poems about love. Some of the psalms are even on our lips. For example, "My Fair Lady, a gentleman is good"; such as "tenderness is like water, and the best period is like a dream"; such as "it is difficult to say goodbye when we meet, and the east wind is powerless and a hundred flowers are left"; such as "I wish to be a winged bird in heaven, and I am willing to be a branch in the earth". However, Comrade Zhang Ailing's words have shattered our beautiful emotions and artistic conceptions of love beyond recognition. In fact, permanent love and happy marriages in the world are always rare, and many people have been looking for them all their lives, but in the end they are still empty. And the vast majority of love and marriage are improvised. It's nice to be able to do that. And in loveless families and marriages, extramarital affairs and extramarital affairs can easily occur.

Love is the pillar of our lives, making us feel that the world is wonderful and life is beautiful. But wonderful and beautiful things are always short-lived. This is beyond the control of people's wills and cannot be transferred. We believe in love, faithful love, but true love is difficult to keep and stay in a person forever. Before getting married, a man will say to a woman, "I love you only in eternal life." However, after getting married, men always think in their hearts: their wives are always someone else's good.

Modern civilization requires both parties to a marriage to be faithful to each other, respect and love each other. The marriage vow says: "I will always love, cherish, and be faithful to you, now and forever, in good times and in bad, rich or poor, in health or sickness, happy or sorrowful." ”

This is indeed our vow from the bottom of our lungs, and it is also our firm and beautiful wish for marriage. However, not everyone can keep this vow forever. We know that vows can make us strong-willed at times, but frustrating and disappointed at times. Will vows still work for us when we are frustrated and disappointed?

Speaking of love, it does make us excited and yearning, but thinking of marriage, I am afraid that many people who have been married feel sad and frustrated. To give a few examples, there was a guy who was quite happy when he got married, but after having a child, his wife separated from him for four or five years in a row. I also have a friend who found a daughter-in-law who works in the hospital, because the daughter-in-law does not have a diploma, and if she wants to gain a firm foothold in the hospital, she must maintain a close relationship with the leader. Soon, he learned that his wife was having an affair with a certain leader. As a result, the two often fought and quarreled about it. There is also an acquaintance, and his wife has been the object of competition among several young men in the past. However, his wife chose him in the end. However, once, when he saw his wife with a man he had talked to in the past, and he saw the man touching his wife's face with his hand, he thought that his wife's old love was unforgettable, and beat her violently. In a fit of anger, his wife ran away from home and went to Xi'an to work.

This kind of thing is very common in daily life. But what is one thing that we can tolerate so freely?

When we love someone, we can give everything to her, even our lives. When we love someone, we can be tolerant, even if she has done the saddest thing for us. We often say that "a lover's eye comes out of Shih Tzu", which means that when we love her, she is Shih Tzu. Xi Shi, even King Wu can't resist, who of us can not love? When Xi Shi is at fault, who can not be tolerant and intolerant?

However, after getting married, she is no longer Xi Shi. Even if Shih Tzu irritates us, we lose our temper and we get angry. However, there is another important reason, that is, Xi Shi will never say to King Wu that she no longer loves him. Our wife, on the other hand, will express it in a very clear way, and even take it as a threat or condition. The wife's insistence on separation is a clear example. And for a wife who insists on separating from him, a man may never forgive. So, a woman can make a man angry, but never show him that you don't love him anymore.

Almost all people know that the family is about love, not reason. However, there must be a prerequisite and important condition here, that is, whether there is love in this family. Because of love, a man can tolerate his wife, but once there is no love, the wife becomes a man's enemy. For enemies, no one is willing to tolerate them. Therefore, in a family without love, it can be said that quarrels and fights between husband and wife are commonplace.

People need to love and be loved. In a home without love, men and women are bound to look elsewhere for love. This can easily make men sigh deeply that "their wives are always good for other people's families". When he sees his wife being old-fashioned and ugly, he envies other people's wives who are young and handsome, and who are beautiful and delicious; when he sees his own wives who are sloppy and sloppy, he envies other people's wives who are refreshing and neat; when he sees his wife being lazy and wandering around, he envies other people's wives who are diligent and virtuous and takes care of their families; when they see their wives disrespecting or not loving themselves, regardless of whether they ask, they envy other people's wives who are kind and kind, gentle and lovely.

What is strange is that the wife always likes to boast and slander herself in front of men. But men always compare young, beautiful, gentle and lovely women with their wives. Because he always thinks that his wife is not young and beautiful enough, not virtuous and diligent enough, not gentle and lovely enough. Actually, he doesn't know exactly what other people's wives are like. It is precisely because he is not clear that other people's wives have a sense of mystery in his eyes, so that he only sees the surface and advantages of other people's wives, but cannot see the essence of other people's wives. Once, a colleague in the unit complained about his wife in front of another colleague, praised the other party for being blessed, and found a good daughter-in-law. However, as soon as his words came out, the other party said, you think your wife is not good, you divorce her, and I will marry her. This sentence made my colleague stunned for a long time. It turned out that another colleague was also complaining about his daughter-in-law and wanted a divorce. Otherwise, some wives often say in front of men: I am a grass in front of you, but other men regard me as a treasure.

Perhaps because of the compatibility of the morning and twilight, the mottled spots that were once unseen stand out. Gradually, the wife who was full of advantages became full of shortcomings. And other people's wives, because they are always looking up and looking far, what you see are her advantages. Compared with the two, his own wife is getting worse and worse, and other people's wives are getting better and better. This may be the kind of distance beauty of "seeing flowers in the fog and looking at the moon in the water" and "not knowing the true face of Lushan, only because of being in this mountain". In fact, there are many two lovers who love each other to death, and after they get married, they still can't get by, and finally they break up by divorce.

The pursuit of novelty and excitement is a common trait of human beings, and novelty is always eye-catching and exciting. Then there is the greedy side of human nature, that is, I have to look at Shu, morning and evening, I picked a flower, but I saw that there were better flowers, that is, I ate the bowl and looked at the pot. Many people interpret this phenomenon as seeing things differently and liking the new and hating the old.

People are always striving for perfection. However, there is hardly anything perfect in the world. And everything we see is almost veiled. We've all been there. Sometimes we will see a very beautiful woman walking across in the evening, and the beautiful posture and beautiful silhouette make our hearts flutter and admire. So, we couldn't help but stop and watch. However, when the woman came to her, she realized that it was only an old lady in her fifties or sixties. It turns out that distance blurs our vision.