My wife is always someone else's good (below) Zhang Baotong 2016.9.23

Whether it is liking the new and hating the old, or the distance produces beauty, it all explains and illustrates the fatigue that human beings have a feeling. www.biquge.info For example, we always dream of getting things that we can't get, but when we actually get them, we feel like that's just that. For us human beings, what we can't get is always the best, and once we get it, we don't know how to cherish it. It's fitting to explain this phenomenon in terms of our failed marriages. Nowadays, the divorce rate in every city is very high, and people used to like to use the seven-year itch to describe the crisis of marriage, but the divorce rate shows that there are many people who divorce after half a year of marriage. A few days ago, I even saw two young couples divorce after only three days of marriage. It is said that there is a daughter who likes iPhones very much. I want my husband to buy her a new iphone 6 mobile phone. But my husband said that you didn't buy a mobile phone last month. My daughter said that my phone was an iphone5, which was outdated. But it costs at least 5,000 yuan to buy a mobile phone, so my husband asked if you can use it for another half a year. As soon as the daughter heard this, she immediately lost her temper and threw the phone on the ground, saying that she refused to buy me a mobile phone, and she couldn't get by. When my husband heard this, he was also irritable, and he couldn't say it. So, the two really divorced.

In fact, this phenomenon of liking the new and hating the old is not only prominent in us humans, but also in other animals. Someone did an experiment in which a bull and a cow were kept together, and for many days the two cows refused to mate. Later, someone brought a cow from another place to him. The bull immediately became excited, rushing to mate with the new cow. There are also male lions on the African savannah who don't seem to have any feelings when they see the female lion they often meet, but once they meet a female lion they have never seen before, they will rush over and pay their respects.

When we were still in the maternal society, women lived alone or with children in caves. Men are almost like wanderers who have no fixed place to live. Therefore, when men want women, they will bring some prey to the woman's cave, and give the prey to the woman, so that they can sleep with the woman. This was the case with some of the indigenous people of Peru's wild primeval forests hundreds of years ago. They do not have a fixed marriage and partner, and are completely in a state of wildness. However, it can at least reveal some of the habits and lifestyles of our early human beings. At the same time, it also reveals that we humans have lived like this in the long process of evolution. If this is the case, then we have reason to interpret the phenomenon of liking the new and hating the old and seeing the difference as primitive genes inherited from our ancestors.

It is very common for men to like other people's wives. Not to mention that ordinary people are like this, even emperors and kings with three palaces and six courts will be like this. Wei Xuangong was promiscuous when he was young, and had an affair with his father's little wife Yi Jiang, and later welcomed his son's daughter-in-law Xuan Jiang to the palace and accepted him as a concubine. Emperor Li Yuanhao of Western Xia robbed his daughter-in-law and did not hide the clan as his concubine. King Chuping turned his daughter-in-law Meng Ying, who married from Qin, into his own princess, and married Meng Ying's maid ring to the crown prince Jian. After the death of his queen, Zhu Wen, the founding emperor of the Later Liang Dynasty, could not bear the loneliness and emptiness of the harem, and summoned all his daughters-in-law into the palace to take turns to sleep. There is also Wu Zetian who is the talented daughter of Tang Taizong, and Yang Yuhuan is the wife of King Shou. Edward VIII's Mrs. Simpson was also someone else's wife.

If you want to say that you like other people's wives the most, Cao Cao. Yuan Shao's daughter-in-law, Zhen Mi, is known for her reputation. After Yuan Shao was broken, Cao Cao went straight to her residence. It's a pity that his son Cao Pi is one step ahead of him. For this reason, Cao Cao almost staged a father-son cannibalism there at that time. There is also Zhang Xiu's surrender, Cao Cao occupied Zhang Xiu's sister-in-law, thinking that he was strong and carried away. Zhang Xiu was greatly insulted, causing Zhang Xiu to attack Cao Ying's camp at night, Cao Cao's personal general Dian Wei was killed in battle, and Cao Cao was defeated. Cao Cao robbed all beautiful young women, because he was lustful and bold, and he was not afraid of the ridicule of the world.

However, stealing and robbing other people's wives is often a great risk. The most typical example is Pan Jinlian and Ximen Qing cheating on each other, both of whom were killed by Wu Song. There is also the beauty Helen who is fascinated by the lovely face of Paris. The two fell in love and cheated, and then eloped together by boat to the city of Troy. In order to recapture Helen, the Greek army crossed the strait, tightly surrounded the city of Troy, and slaughtered the city of Troy. In ancient and modern times, at home and abroad, whether it is emperors, generals, or ordinary people, the tragedies deduced by cheating and bullying men and women are endless, countless.

Falling in love with someone else's wife and treating someone else's wife as a lover will not sometimes bring you death, but it will cause great harm to your marriage and reputation. For example, Wang Baoqiang's divorce case a while ago was hyped by the media, because his wife Ma Rong had an improper relationship with his agent. I have a friend I know very well, he once rented a house with a married woman, and the two of them lived together as husband and wife for more than two years. However, he really fell in love with him behind his yard, insisted on marrying him, and called his wife to ask them to divorce. My friend saw that things were going to get bigger, so he hurriedly broke up with his yards. Fortunately, his wife was a laid-off worker, and if she was a woman with a bit of grace and ability, she would have divorced him a long time ago. There is also a school principal who has an abnormal relationship with a logistics director of the school, and the whole school knows about it. Even the students called them the rogue principal, the pheasant director.

The reason why there is a phenomenon that the wife is always someone else's good is rooted in extramarital affairs and extramarital affairs. I don't know if it's because the house flowers don't have the fragrance of wild flowers, or because of the primitive impulses of human beings, extramarital affairs and extramarital affairs are always tempting humans frequently. We cannot dare to marry because marriage is the grave of love, because without marriage, love will even die without a place to be buried. Because whether there is marriage or not, this kind of human disposition and virtue is always difficult to change. In order to satisfy human nature's love of the new and dislike the old, but also maintain the stability of the marriage. Someone invented the **** way, and in some countries even set up ********** clubs. Let two strange couples make friends in the hotel, live together for one night, and then go back to their respective homes. And the couples who have done so seem to be overjoyed and excited. This approach may exist in sexually open countries, but it will never work in countries like ours. Moreover, the negative effects and consequences of this approach are incalculable. In fact, a man's possessiveness towards a woman is endless. An emperor can have three palaces, six courtyards, and three thousand concubines. This morning, it was also reported on the Internet that a British fitness trainer began sleeping with women at the age of 17 and has slept with more than 2,500 women in ten years since he was 27 years old. It can be seen from this that if the restraint on men and women is not tightened, what will be the result once the tiger is released and the primitive impulses of men and women are unrestrained?

Maybe because marriage is the grave of love. For thousands of years, the idea that a wife is always someone else's good has never disappeared from a man's mind. There are reasons for men and women, but more often than not, they are common to both men and women. In order to avoid the negligence or deviance of a man or woman in this regard, it is necessary to start at the source. To make yourself and the other party should have confidence in love and marriage, firmly regard yourself and each other as the object of love and love, take care of each other, work hard, look at each other's advantages, and think more about each other. If the fortress of one's own house is strong, the red apricot will not go out of the wall, the man will not deviate, and the marriage will not crack.

There is nothing wrong with marriage, but what is wrong is that you don't have the mentality and eyes to appreciate marriage. And the way to keep love forever is actually very simple, that is, to cherish each other. A hundred years of love, things are man-made.