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Tolerance is a kind of demeanorZhang Baotong 2019.4.30

To tolerate others is to tolerate and understand others, which is a kind of demeanor and cultivation with self-grievances and taking the overall situation into account. Just as helping others leads to happiness, so being tolerant of others leads to the same happiness. It's just that tolerating others is a higher realm and attitude than helping others.

Whether consciously or unconsciously, everyone likes to be arrogant and willful. Moreover, the higher the position, the more prosperous the wealth, the greater the temper, and the easier it is to breed arrogance and willfulness. However, it can easily hurt others, make them feel humiliated and annoyed. This requires others to be tolerant, otherwise, your arrogance and willfulness will cost you many friends and partners. In the same way, others can sometimes be arrogant and willful towards you, consciously or unconsciously, which can make you feel angry and annoyed. If you are not tolerant and understanding, then it will be difficult for you to maintain mutual friendship with him.

I once had a very profound lesson. At that time, I worked as an assistant to the Party Committee at the Railway Education Center, responsible for propaganda and reporting. The head of the department is a few years older than me, and he has a very close relationship with me, often goes out to eat with me, and also likes to play chess with me, so he starts playing chess with me after eating at noon. Sometimes after work in the afternoon, he would pull me to play chess with him. At that time, we often went to the schools along the railway line to check on them, and he always asked me to accompany him on business trips so that we could play chess on the train together.

Once, our unit organized everyone to travel by train, and he asked me to bring chess with me so that I could play chess on the train. However, before leaving, he got things wrong and started a fire on me. So, the two of us had an argument. He felt that he was the director, and I had to listen to what he said, and he was acting in front of me in front of many other department members. I was immediately annoyed and refused to listen to him. So, I didn't bring chess.

However, he brought the chess with him, and when he got into the car, he gave me orders in front of many colleagues that I must take the chess. I said I just wouldn't take it. Probably he also felt that he couldn't lose face in front of his colleagues, so he forcibly put the chess in my backpack. I was angry, so I resolutely refused to take it, took the chess from my backpack, and threw it on the platform. As a result, we were both choked with air, and no one took it, and the chess piece was thrown on the platform.

After that, the two of us never played chess again, and he felt that he was the director, so he always tried to suppress me and make things difficult for me. The more he pressed me, the more I was dissatisfied. So, the two of us became enemies. Later, I happened to encounter the transfer place of the railway school, and I took the opportunity to apply for resignation. At the meeting to study my whereabouts, the secretary and director of the unit asked me to be the branch secretary of the school, but he disagreed, gave me a lot of suggestions, and nominated someone else to be the secretary. Fortunately, the secretary did not agree.

After that, I reflected that although he was a little too much for me, I was too forgiving. He had already put the chess in my backpack at that time, and if I didn't say anything, I would have tore his face like an enemy, and even almost affected my future. Therefore, I am deeply touched by the saying "If you can't bear it, you will make a big plan".

This is also the case in many of our marriages, and it's not that the two of us really can't get along. It's that neither of them is willing to tolerate and forgive the other. If both of them are angry, one is impulsive, and the other keeps his head down and keeps silent. When the impulsive party has had enough quarrels and is tired of scolding, it is natural to stop. It's just that someone wants to fight you. As a result, he punched you twice, but you didn't fight back, and you didn't say anything, so he gave up when he was angry. If you fight him, he may use a knife with you. The consequences would be unimaginable.

When anger swells up in the heart, take a step back to open the sea and the sky, and when the blood pours directly over the head, a short cut is calm. However, this is easier said than done. This requires a high level and a high demeanor. In ancient and modern times, at home and abroad, most of those who are angry and rush to the crown are reckless, and most of those who swallow their anger are wise people. Wu Sangui was furious at the crown, and as a result, Chinese history was set back hundreds of years. Othello listened to the slander, became angry, strangled his beloved wife, and in remorse, drew his sword and killed himself. These are painful lessons. On the contrary, Lian Po once openly threatened to humiliate Lin Xiangru, but Lin Xiangru did not compete with Lian Po, and when he saw Lian Po coming head-on, he simply led the car to dodge. When Lian Po learned that Lin Xiangru was avoiding him for the sake of national interests, he was deeply moved, so he carried a thorn on his back and asked Lin Xiangru to punish him. Since then, the two have become friends and share life and death.

I'm afraid that people who enter marriage know that love especially needs tolerance. Because one person and another live for a lifetime. In such a long period of time, the shortcomings and faults of the two have been seen very clearly and for a long time. Without the necessary tolerance and understanding, it will certainly be difficult to sustain itself.

Accommodating a lover is about accommodating both the strengths and weaknesses of the other person. Because you can't change the other person, and the other person can't change you. Since we cannot change each other, we must tolerate each other. And the beauty and longevity of love lies in tolerance. But how many people can be truly inclusive? Probably very few, otherwise, nearly a million couples would not go their separate ways every year. Not only do both parties in love need to be tolerant, but also between relatives, friends, and siblings. Without tolerance and understanding, two people cannot get along together.

Victor Hugo said, "The widest in the world is the ocean, wider than the ocean is the sky, and the heart of man is wider than the sky." "The Great Wall is still there, take a step back and the world is wide. If you tolerate others with a tolerant mind, you will win the trust of others and achieve yourself. Therefore, this kind of person is a person with wisdom, measure, heart, and grace. We must strive to learn this kind of cultivation and demeanor to create a happy and beautiful environment for our lives and lives.

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