The Difference Between Father's Love and Mother's Love (Page 1/1)

The difference between father's love and mother's loveZhang Baotong 2019.4.29

Why do people always crave maternal love, but the relationship with their father is different? Because maternal love is the most natural love in the world, and it does not need any conditions and no education. If you are her child, she will love you no matter what you do or whether you are smart and beautiful or not.

We have always been cared for by our mothers since we were children, and every life is inseparable from our mother's care and help. This will make us rely on our mothers a lot, and at the same time, we will have a deep affection. Mother is our home, the sunshine and rain of our growth. A mother's love doesn't need to be desired, it can be obtained naturally.

Fathers, however, do not represent any such natural family. In the first few years of our lives, he didn't seem to have much to do with us, so his importance to the early years of the child was far less important than that of the mother. In some families, because the father has been working outside the home for a long time, the child is even very strange to the father. This can make children feel that they can't live without their mother, and it doesn't seem to matter if they have a father or not.

Not only children, but all people want to be loved by others in any given condition to meet their own expectations. And unconditional love should be the love that human beings crave the most. It won't be loved just because you have enough good and not loved if you don't have enough good. If that's the case, the kids will have a sense that if I'm not good enough, I'm going to lose that love. The result of this feeling often makes the child feel that he is not loved, but used.

The father is not the natural world of the child, he is the other extreme corresponding to the mother. What he shows his children is the world of ideas, the world of innovation, the world of law and order, the world of discipline, the world of travel and adventure. A father is the one who teaches his children, and he guides them on their way to the world. So, a father's love is conditional. His principle is "I love you because you have met my expectations, because you have fulfilled your duties, because you are the same as me." ”

In many children's impressions and perceptions, the father does not seem to ask much of them when they are not making mistakes, but when they do, the father will give them a stern lecture. Therefore, they were somewhat afraid of their father. And mothers tend to favor their children, even if they are at fault, they will be tolerant and defend their children. Therefore, make the child more attached to the desire for maternal love.

Whether it is conditional fatherly love or unconditional maternal love, there are positive and negative sides to children. The negative side is that paternal love has to be given what it deserves, and if it doesn't go as expected, it can be lost. His love is not beyond his control like a mother's love.

The essence of paternal love is that obedience becomes a virtue, disobedience is a fault, and its punishment is to abandon paternal love. The positives are equally important. Because His love is conditional, we have to make an effort to obtain it. As an incentive, we have to do something in order to gain his love. Father is more like a ship, taking us to understand the world, teaching us how to face the cruel world, solve the difficulties in front of us, and constantly struggle.

Mother's love makes us feel warm and kind, makes us feel happy and confident, but without father's love, once we walk out of the house, it will be difficult for us to adapt to the cruel and fierce social competition.

Sometimes, fatherly love and motherly love may not be the same for boys and girls. For girls, fathers are more likely to dote, while mothers may be more partial to boys. But in general, mother's love is kind and delicate, and father's love is deep and broad. Their love is as generous and deep as the sea, and they do their best together to raise and educate their children.

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