Cheating Zhang Baotong 2018.8.2

Everyone has only one piece of truth in their hearts, and if this piece of truth is given to others, it is impossible to give it to you. I've heard many people say that women are easy to be true when they cheat, so it's hard to get their hearts when they cheat. And most of the men cheat for sex, and it is easy to withdraw afterwards. This is a completely self-defeating statement. A man can have many women in his heart, and he will keep every woman he has ever loved in his heart and treat it as a woman in his life. Besides, what man and woman don't have true feelings? If he doesn't have true feelings, why take such a risk? You can see that a man's wife and lover are fighting in the street, will he help his wife or his lover? Most of the time he will help his lover. For many men, the wife is no longer the lover of his heart, just a woman who has no love but can't live together. Maybe you've heard of the three major dreams of middle-aged men: to get promoted, get rich, and die for their wives. From this sentence, you can see the middle-aged man's Yanfu mentality of wanting to abandon the yellow-faced woman and find a young and beautiful woman. Of course, this is just a state of mind, not a reality, and men in reality are still in love with their families. It's a sense of responsibility, and men are very responsible. Without this sense of responsibility, I am afraid that many marriages would have dissolved long ago. Even if a man doesn't like his wife anymore, he has to think about and be responsible for this family, because this is his one-third of an acre of self-reserved land. Sometimes they want to change reality, but often that reality is beyond their means. When their marriage is in crisis, they are eager to spit out the old and embrace the new. We can see that many men will be eager to renew their wives for half a year or even three months after their deaths, and happily marry the new couple back home. It can be seen that men's desire for new people far exceeds the nostalgia for old people.

There is a phenomenon that you may have noticed that the cheating women are mostly those who are gorgeous and have a coquettish temperament, but the cheating men are mostly the kind of handsome, free and shrewd men. Because such women and men are themselves the dream lovers that men and women dream of. But no, the Matthew effect is to make the strong stronger, the weak weaker, the rich richer, and the poor poorer. If you understand the Matthew effect, you should know how much burden and trouble it will add to your care if you find a young, beautiful, gentle and lovely woman, and how much worry it will bring to you if you find a handsome and energetic man. But human society is like this, full of contradictions between right and wrong, giving you a bright red rose will also give you a thorn.

The phenomenon of cheating often occurs, and cheating men and women often show some flaws and clues. For example, if the husband and wife quarrel endlessly, they will divorce if they open their mouths, they will no longer care about each other, they will reject each other and keep their distance, and they will be passive in their lives. In fact, these phenomena should be more obvious precursors and signals, perhaps because we usually don't take each other very seriously and in our eyes, so we can be described as turning a blind eye to these things. If you turn a blind eye to these things, then you may be unaware of your spouse's cheating. Therefore, once the cheating is revealed, it is almost in the middle or advanced stage of cancer, and it is very difficult to treat.

You can see this kind of thing as a disaster when the sky falls, or you can see it as a trivial matter of a cold and fever. If you look at it as a catastrophe in which the heavens fall, it is an unforgivable event. You have to think of it as a trivial matter of a cold and fever, and you can ignore it completely. In fact, it is neither a catastrophe of the collapse of the sky, nor a trivial matter of a cold and fever. There is no need to panic or take it lightly. It is necessary to find out the cause, formulate measures, and solve the problem effectively and effectively.

Cheating isn't really scary, and many of us or our spouses have cheated on us. But his or her infidelity is so calm that you never feel it or realize it. Because you don't feel and realize, you never suspect that he or she has cheated. Cheating is sometimes not terrible, what is terrible is the revelation of the derailment incident. Otherwise, for many men and women, it is not the cheating itself that is feared, but the revelation of the infidelity. Because people understand the truth that "paper can't hold fire". Once the cheating is exposed, it will cause many effects, it will make people change their perception of your loyalty, trust and quality, and it will make you feel like you are wearing a cross, ruined and humiliated for life. The female teacher I mentioned earlier who was transferred to Xi'an from the railway line was beaten by the wife of the section chief, which made her reputation stink, which led to her husband divorcing her, and she is still living celibate. In all divorce cases, divorce due to infidelity is not uncommon.

Since we know that many men and women cheat without causing obvious harm to their families and marriages, we should know that cheating can only cause obvious harm if it is silent. This harm is not limited to the cheater himself, but to both the cheater and their spouses. This is a major event related to the reputation and relationship of the four people or the four families. Therefore, it is important not to expose the cheater to the public or catch the cheater in bed. This is the most destructive way to both sides and to the family and marriage. I have heard that many spouses of cheaters use extreme methods such as stalking, taking pictures, recording or checking mobile phones and computers to obtain evidence, and even stop the mistresses on the street, tear off their dresses, and beat them in public. Far from saving the marriage, this will run afoul of the law and hasten the dissolution of the marriage.

We should understand that our own dignity is not to be offended, and the dignity of others is not to be offended. You can't ignore the dignity and dignity of the other person just because he or she is at fault. Marriage and family bind husband and wife and family together, and the relationship between them is one of loss and glory. We have ruined the reputation of others, and with it our own reputation has been lost. Everyone knows how to repay kindness with virtue and revenge, and the way you treat cheating will always be duly rewarded. Don't think that cheating is the responsibility and fault of one person, sometimes one person's infidelity, the main responsibility lies with the other person. For example, a woman's sexual frigidity, infirmity, illness, or certain habits that make men uncomfortable. There are also men's injuries, bad habits, and uncomfortable behaviors. In the face of cheating, it is a common failure of love and marriage between two people. Therefore, both sides should review each other. If a person puts the blame entirely on another person, it shows that he or she is not sincere about improving marriage and love.

Women are sensual creatures, always longing for the nourishment of love and the care of their lovers. When she does not receive the love and attachment of her lover, she will turn her feelings to other men who care and love her. Men are like this, they also need the warmth and love of women, and if you can't give him your warmth and love, he will also go out to find other women. Therefore, no matter what the reason is, even if the husband and wife are separated, they should always keep in touch with each other, and don't just be busy with work and ignore the emotional exchange between the two parties.

Avoiding infidelity is not a one-person affair, but a shared responsibility of both husband and wife. Avoiding infidelity is about prevention, which is an indispensable art for marriage and love. Both men and women should remember that an affair is a selfish and indulgent act that betrays marriage and is spurned and condemned. The cost of cheating can also be very high, with serious consequences for marriage and love. Once you cheat, your heart will be filled with fear and shame, and you will be seen as a person who does not follow women's morals but is morally corrupt.