Switching to Xia Chen's perfectionism channel, such a flaw should not exist. She chose to escape, she chose to give up studying. But she has to admit that books are her life companions, her spiritual world, and those days surrounded by books make her feel happy. She likes to go to physical bookstores to buy books, but when she sees the books that have been brought home, she becomes afraid. Buying books for the sake of buying books, buying books for knowledge, buying books for comforting herself? She didn't know. All she could do was mechanically buy one new book after another. When she was forced to choose a major in literature, this feeling of being out of place with her surroundings became even more obvious. She once again remembered He Ze's words, reading is a lifelong career. Xia Chen, who had been ignorant for half his life, seemed to have suddenly opened his mind and understood He Ze's words. That sentence does not mean that people's hobby of reading can last a lifetime, nor does it say that a hobby of reading can achieve a career, that sentence is really the best blessing for Xia Chen. If you can make reading a lifelong career, then it doesn't matter when you start reading, it doesn't matter when you can calm down to read, and it doesn't matter when you can understand books. Especially for Xia Chen, who only succeeds overnight and only seeks success in doing things, this sentence is more like a gentle expectation and promise, telling Xia Chen with the tolerance and understanding of adults that it doesn't matter. Xia Chen finally solved the mystery of childhood when he became an adult.

Even though there are so many things in the world that don't matter, so many kinds of sorry, Xia Chen has never felt that he should have such words. She defaults to being strong, able to withstand wind, frost, rain and snow, and is invincible. In the past, she didn't know how many sorry and okay she had said, so sincere and humble, sincere and emotional. But first of all, she should say sorry to herself, because she missed out on her best time and didn't get into the right environment at the right time. After that, she should also say to herself that it doesn't matter, not everything she can do alone, and cooperation and seeking help from relatives and friends are also appropriate ways to solve problems. She knew many years ago how bright sorry and okay were, but it wasn't until that day that she had the courage to embrace the warmth and kindness in those two sentences.

My teacher always demanded my work with his strictest requirements.

I'm really going to hit it again and again.

But now I think he's right.

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This year I finally have the ability to get mixed in.

Go and see all kinds of different people.

Fall in love with people and all kinds of bonds between people.

That's great.

We must start from respecting people, caring for people, observing people, and adapting to people.

Xia Chen could understand what Xia Wu said, but she still knew that she couldn't do it. Once you get close to Xia Chen, you can't help but devour people's hearts, and you can't help but narrow the distance just when you are far away from Xia Chen. Xia Wu patted Xia Chen's back, "Let's go, go eat McDonald's." ”

McDonald's has always been Summer's secret garden. There's nothing that a custard burger can't solve. In the past, they all came secretly behind Xia Wu's back, but this time they appeared in the restaurant with Xia Wu, Xia Chen felt weird.

Xia Chen: "How do you know?"

Xia Wu: "Your brother said that." ”

Xia Chen: "Is there a cure for this disease?"

Xia Wu: "Isn't this taking you to treat?"

Xia Chen: "Why don't you get drunk and relieve a thousand sorrows?"

Xia Wu: "That's impossible, don't get a drop of wine, it's not good." Especially if your health is not good. Xia Chen felt that he couldn't cry in McDonald's anymore, and it was shameful enough to cry at KFC last time.

Xia Wu: "If you can't do it, you can't do it, but don't be angry anymore." ”

Emotional experts on the Internet always like to attribute the root cause of a person's problems to the family of origin. The family of origin is healthy and healthy, and this person may also be shaped by acquired conditions and the expectations of the family are completely different. Human development is a process influenced by a combination of conditions. The main body of this process is the human being, and the different choices of individuals play an irreversible role in this process. Such a complex reality, thinking of gently and skillfully covering the past with the residual influence of the original family is too cruel to the original family. Xia Chen is the only one in Xia Chen's house who walks with her backlight, how can it be said that her family taught her to do this. Xia Chen's name on the family tree is "Xia Muguang". But Muguang didn't have the courage to stand in the sun openly, so he chose to avoid the light and took the initiative to hide in a hidden shadowy place.

Xia Chen has always felt that there is a gap between herself and her parents, but she forgets that this gap is made by herself, and if she turns around in time, she can always see her parents who have stopped and waited for her. There are no parents who really don't love their children, and those who are not conspicuous enough and panicked and rough love just show that parents should practice more and be more considerate as children. Each other is not skilled enough in loving each other. Xia Chen, who was used to rebellion, couldn't directly bury his head in the arms of his parents, so he could only slowly turn around, reverse the direction, and try to gradually understand and integrate into the family.

Xia Chen, who had a preliminary reconciliation with his family, suddenly figured out one of his complexes. When she wrote, the female protagonist could live without the male protagonist, but she couldn't live without her own children. Some readers have questioned: "The heroine has worked hard enough to live alone, why do you have to carry a burden?" When I mentioned it for the first time, Xia Chen didn't think so, and after this reader mentioned it many times, Xia Chen also began to be confused, yes, isn't it much more difficult to take care of a child than to live on your own? Then why do I insist on writing about a child. Even watching variety shows, Xia Chen also tends to watch shows with children as the protagonists, and the younger the better. Now that she has figured it out, she likes to write about children, and the setting of this child is also a burden to the plot, so it is better to delete it. She only sees the time to play with children, but not the hard work of raising children, all because she sees herself as one of the children. She sees children as her companions, and in a sense children are her essence. The only reason why she has to write about children is because she can't substitute herself into her own male and female protagonists, so she can only add to the text from the perspective of children's ontology.

"Chenchen, are you in a good mood lately?" Xia Chen really didn't expect Xia Wu's first sentence to ask her if she was in a good mood. "It's ok. Xia Chen recalled that this word had not appeared in the conversation between himself and his father for a long time. rummaged through the chat history, except for the transfer, which is a regular greeting for the New Year. The meaning of the word mood was too heavy, she didn't dare to ask her father, and his father didn't take the initiative to mention it.

Xia Wu taught Xia Chen to be strong enough since he was a child, and he also knew how to withdraw at the right time.