It's November, and a few autumn rains have fallen, and the weather has completely cooled. Jolene put on her coat and thought to herself that she was going to knit a scarf for her kobold.

Up to now, the three children of the Qiao family are happier left.

At the beginning of November, my mother came to Beijing for a two-day meeting, and the night before she left Beijing, she went to the hotel to sleep with her mother. That night, my mother suddenly cried.

"Linlin, am I really not a good mother?"

"Who said that, I'm going with him!"

Ms. Li, who has always been strong, rarely has such a fragile time, even menopause can't become like this! Jolene was frightened, and if she listened carefully, it wasn't a big deal. It's that my brother fell out of love, but he didn't tell his family.

My brother didn't contact home for another week, and my parents thought he was going to charge again, and they were very worried. Mom called his comrade-in-arms named Lao Feng, and then he realized that Qiao Nan's mood was not right, because he was punished for drinking, I don't know if something happened at home?

The old couple was startled, Li Lanzhi hurriedly called Huang Jinzi, and then realized that her son had fallen out of love.

(Actually, I was dumped.) ）

You see, to put it bluntly, it's a matter of falling out of love, but it took such a big circle to know. Although boys rarely tell their families about these things, Qiao Nan doesn't even want to tell his family a simple sentence of "I broke up with the object".

Huang Jinzi didn't want to make a fuss too ugly, so he said earnestly to Li Lanzhi: "Teacher Li, Qiao Nan really tried his best to treat this relationship. But the two of us are really not a good fit, and there is no way around it. ”

Li Lanzhi called his son in a hurry, on the one hand, to comfort him and ask him not to do anything that violated discipline because he was depressed, and on the other hand, he wanted to persuade him to take the initiative again, Huang Jinzi was very affectionate to him, and it would definitely not be so easy to let him go.

As a result, after she said for a long time, her son replied with a smile: "Mom, don't worry about me, I'm fine!"

Just this incident made Mr. Li, who was in menopause, collapse all of a sudden.

In his distant childhood, after being beaten by his father, he did not hesitate to go to her to complain about his grievances, but after entering high school, to be exact, after learning the secret of his biological mother, he never relied on himself so much again.

Whenever asked, his answer was always a few words, which is good, don't worry, nothing is wrong.

When he was a freshman in high school, he once helped Xu Wei cheat, causing an uproar in the whole school. After returning home that time, he was really beaten half to death by his father. Li Lanzhi knew that he had many grievances, and he was not to blame for cheating, but he was silent, did not justify, and in the face of her concern, he stubbornly chose to remain silent. It wasn't until Qiao Lu came home from self-study at night that he shed tears in front of his sister. The kind of grievance that was about to vomit blood, but he didn't say anything, made Li Lanzhi feel a burst of angina when he thought about it.

Later, he went to military school, and he was determined to serve in the special forces, and every choice made his home look like a battlefield filled with gunpowder. Li Lanzhi really thought about him and wanted to find a way out for him, but he didn't appreciate it at all. As Huang Jinzi said, he almost never lost his temper, but he never compromised.

After learning that their son was out of love, the old couple stayed up all night. Li Lanzhi asked: "When I was a child, Qiao Nan dismantled the radio at home, and you beat him. But I still haven't figured out why he did that. You know what?"

Lao Qiao pillowed his arm and shook his head: "I was angry at the time, and I thought he was naughty!"

"When he helped Xu Wei cheat, he was really wronged. You didn't feel sorry for you when you were so ruthless, and you didn't ask him what was going on?"

"Woo...... How could he not feel distressed? At that time, he didn't want to hit him, he insisted that he was right. I was angry, and I couldn't hold back. He thinks he's talking about righteousness, but in our opinion, it's black and white!"

"That's not supposed to hit him like that, he's in high school, he's a big kid, he has self-esteem. ”

Lao Qiao didn't answer, he should be turning over the river and the sea in his heart!

When the sky was bright, Li Lanzhi turned over the old accounts again: "Before he went to college, he finally installed the lid of the cauldron, but you can do it, just because he called up an adult channel, he kicked him in front of so many people...... If you treat him with half the patience you have with your daughter, he won't be like this!"

Old Qiao said stiffly: "...... Ahem: How can a boy be raised like a girl? If you don't beat it, you might go astray. ”

"You can't think like that! When he played games in college, I always felt that it wasn't that simple. You didn't even ask, and scolded him with a face. I thought, I'm glad he's not at home, or you're going to hit someone again. ”

"I don't think he would do anything like that for no reason, but even if I asked, would he tell me?"

This is a vicious circle that cannot be unraveled. If the son doesn't say it→ Lao Tzu doesn→'t know that when Lao Tzu gets angry, his son doesn't say it→ Lao Tzu can't bear it, and finally puts his anger into beating and scolding. And just like that, a new cycle begins.

However, did all the children be reluctant to speak from the beginning? Old Joe thought about it, and it wasn't like that. But when my son was a child, I was tortured by life and lost patience, and the higher I expected my son, the more I couldn't tolerate his mistakes. In other words, from the very beginning, I did not listen to him well.

Lao Qiao had thought of this question for a long time, but in front of his wife, he still refused to let go: "Lao Tzu educates his son, which is justified." When he also becomes a father, he will understand this reason!"

Many people say that the conflict between father and son can only be completely reconciled after the son also becomes the father. Maybe there is some truth in this sentence, but Li Lanzhi thought again, the father and son reconciled, what about the son and his stepmother?

Teacher Li, who is in menopause, is very emotionally sensitive, thinking of this, he often hides his face and cries bitterly, but Lao Qiao can't persuade him. That night in Beijing, Li Lanzhi told Qiao Lin all this. She said: "When your brother couldn't speak, I was raising him, and the first time he called 'Mommy' was at me. I asked myself, I never thought of him as someone else's child, he was my own son. But after this incident, I realized that I knew too little about him, and he never took the initiative to tell me what was in his heart. ”

"That day, Cheng Lin's mother came to our store and told me that Cheng Lin's life in the United States was too hard, and when he heard his mother's voice, he couldn't help crying. You say, isn't that kid Chenglin strong? If he hadn't been strong, how could he have come to this point? But no matter how strong a child is, when he encounters setbacks, he will talk to his parents or cry in front of his parents, isn't this very normal? After your brother went to college, he must have suffered a lot. I have taught so many students, and he is not the only one who went to military school, and I am very distressed when those children come back to say all kinds of things, but did your brother tell his family? Your brother is very strong, but he is too strong, and I don't want him to be like that. If I were his real mother, would he still be like that?"

"In the past two days, I have remembered when he graduated. Even if he wants to serve in the most elite troops, then he has room to choose, why does he have to choose the southwest thousands of miles away from home? I understand now that he did it on purpose, so far away from home, he can stay away from your father and my stepmother. ”

"Alas, others seem to have nothing to say, you are sensible, filial, and never cause trouble. But now I also have a lump in my heart, and that is your brother. Your sister is a girl after all, and she is delicate, and she knows that I am worried about her, and she still tells us something. But what about your brother, I really can't do anything about him. I'd rather he wasn't so filial, and told me everything, that's a family!"

Jolene wiped away her mother's tears and said, "Mom, no one is perfect, and there are no perfect parents and children. You've really done a good enough job, it's my brother who has a knot in his heart. You're a ninety-nine-percent mother, he's a sixty-percent son, don't blame yourself. ”

Her daughter's words gave Li Lanzhi a great comfort, the child who used to make her the most anxious and angry, but in the end it was the most caring one. She stroked her little daughter's full forehead, full of love and guilt, and said silently in her heart: "Fortunately, there are still you." ”

Carrying the big bag given by her mother, Jolene returned to school. Thinking of her mother's grievances, she wanted to call and scold her brother. It happened that Xu Na came to her to get delicious food that day, Qiao Lin told her all these by the way, and finally said angrily: "My brother is really selfish, how can he hurt my mother's heart so much?"

Xu Na was stunned for a moment, and asked rhetorically, "Do you really think Brother Qiao Nan is selfish?"

"Huh?"

"I don't know, maybe I'm also a selfish person. Don't look at me as sisters to my mom, but I can't open up to her anymore. Especially when I went to her new home, when I faced my little sister, I felt alienated from her once I went, and I didn't want to say anything to her. ”

Xu Na continued to smile bitterly: "You see, when I have troubles, I tell you as soon as I do, and according to this, I am also a very selfish person to my parents." But what do I do, Jolene, I'm just insecure! I'm insecure with my biological parents, what do you want me to say to them?"

Qiao Lin said "I'm sorry" several times for her arbitrariness, but Xu Na coolly said she didn't care: "How can a carefree child like you know the emptiness in our hearts? I really don't blame you, I just envy you." ”

Qiao Lin was very glad that she had a chat with Xu Na that day, so she did not scold her brother hastily, but reflected deeply - does she know her brother very well? My brother has read so many books and is a reasonable person. If he didn't really have a hard time, how could he have done that?

Since she was a child, the question she was asked the most was "Are all your three children biological?" In Jolene's opinion, her parents treat the three children equally, and the three brothers and sisters are united and friendly, as for whether they are biological or not, she has never cared, because they have a better relationship than their biological relationship.

But it wasn't until she was twenty years old that Jolene took a serious look at the issue. She also figured out that the fundamental reason why she disdained this issue was not because they had a good relationship, but because she was the only child whose biological parents were around, and she didn't need to think about it at all.

Therefore, she never seriously thought about where her sister's intermittent depression came from, and why her brother took on everything alone, in the final analysis, because they did not have enough security in their hearts. Maybe in countless late nights, they will also fantasize about the scene of their biological parents being around, and they will bite the quilt and cry in a low voice.

The pain caused by the absence of her biological parents, Jolene had never experienced. Therefore, after some ideological struggle, she felt that she had no right to accuse her brother, and she felt annoyed that she had been heartless for so many years.

After thinking about it, she set up a QQ group and pulled her brothers and sisters in. She did not mention what her mother said, but objectively stated a fact: "My mother reacts very badly during menopause, she often cries, and her father can't persuade her." You say, 'What should I do?'