Sheng Chen realized something, his face was slightly sunburned, and he twisted to the side, Fang Shanmu's intention to hint was obvious, it was to point at the riverside.

But after thinking about it, yes, Jiang Bian and Master Huo really have some similarities, saying that the people closest to her are not good, so let her either transform Fang Shanmu for her own happiness, or divorce Fang Shanmu.

Could it be that Gu Hao didn't persuade Fang Shanmu to divorce, and Fang Shanmu didn't encourage Gu Hao to change his wife? Sheng Chen couldn't figure it out, so he asked.

Fang Shanmu smiled slightly proudly: "You don't understand the truth, which means that your observation of life is not careful and rational enough." That's right, I didn't persuade Gu Hao to find another one, and Gu Hao didn't let me divorce, do you know why my buddies persuaded me to break up with my best friend?"

Sheng Chen shook his head, wanting to pretend to listen humbly, but felt that it was wrong, now she couldn't be soft, even if Fang Shanmu's words made some sense, she couldn't lose in momentum, so she coughed lightly: "You say, I'll listen." ”

Fang Shanmu secretly laughed at Sheng Chen's pretense, and he had to take a posture when his heart was weak, okay, by her, he looked ahead, Shimen was already looking at it from afar: "It's because when you women are together, you discuss more about family and marriage, but if there is a little trivial matter, you will confide in each other." Over time, you hear the other half of each other's mouths, all kinds of bad. Because women naturally like to complain, like to be picky, like to dislike and dissatisfied, in this way, all the girlfriends hear is the bad and shortcomings of their other half, and all your quarrels and disagreements, you will feel that the other half of the other party is not worthy of your scumbag, and will naturally persuade you to leave. ”

Sheng Chen was stunned for a moment, and when she thought about it, when she was with Jiangbian, when she talked about things at home, she would always find fault with Fang Shanmu. Sometimes although I know that he also has many advantages, when we talk about him, I want to count him down, and I don't know whether it is the deep love and hatred, or I want to show the intimacy between them by complaining? Although when complaining about each other, in fact, the heart is more sweet, tolerant and loving.

Anyway, Fang Shanmu was right, women did complain more to each other when chatting, and the result was that it eventually led to the collapse of their other half's image in the eyes of the other party. In the eyes of Jiangbian, Fang Shanmu is a domineering man who is arrogant and self-righteous, and Gu Hao in her eyes is not also a selfish, lustful and shameless villain who likes to drill camps and shoot horses? Why do women complain about their men while not letting them go, it is really contradictory.

So how do men evaluate each other's other half? Sheng Chen's curiosity grew.

"Between men, they rarely talk about their other half, and most of the time they talk about work and career. Even if they talk about it occasionally, they will praise their other half for how good they are and how good they are for themselves. And men are more rational and will start from practical problems, and the starting point is not what kind of woman you should find, but what kind of woman you have actually found, and how to achieve balance and harmony on the basis of the present. And men always think that they may not be able to find a better one after leaving their current other half. Women are different, women love fantasy, even if they are married, they will imagine that if they are separated from the present, they will definitely find a better one than what they are looking for, not from what kind ......of man they have actually found to solve the problems they encounter!

"Isn't it?" Although Sheng Chen also listened to Fang Shanmu's reasoning, he just didn't want to admit defeat, "You are not the only man in the world, even if you do have some advantages, there must be more and better men......

"Yes, there are a lot, there are many excellent men in the world, but the problem is ......" Fang Shanmu squinted his eyes and smiled, "First, you may not be able to meet a better man than the current one, and second, even if you do, the other party may not like you." Third, even if you hit the shocking shit luck and meet, and the other party happens to like you, you like him too, and then you are more fortunate to get married again, but after getting married, you return to the previous cycle of death, and you start complaining and picking again. ”

"No, I will cherish it more when I meet an excellent man, how can I complain? Sheng Chen pretended to smile easily.

"You had the same idea when you first met me. Fang Shanmu said meaningfully, and then stopped talking.

Sheng Chen was also silent.

Fang Shanmu's words are indeed right, when Fang Shanmu was chosen, she also felt that he was very good, and he was the one she was most satisfied with. When they are in love, they all feel that each other is perfect. After getting along for a long time, you will continue to discover each other's shortcomings and deficiencies. When you feel that you can accept each other's shortcomings and shortcomings, you can get married.

After getting married, bigger and more shortcomings will be revealed one after another, and then continue to run in. When the run-in is good, a compromise and balance will be reached. If the run-in is not good, there will be contradictions and disagreements, which will lead to divorce. There is not much difference between marriage and a company, both are joint-stock partnerships with unlimited care and limited liability.

If life is only as it is at first sight, the beauty at first sight is because you don't know each other, and you are full of expectations and fantasies about each other. Now she is a middle-aged woman who has been married for more than ten years and has been in love for nearly 20 years, and if there is a better fantasy of the next one, she is too naïve.

However, Fang Shanmu does have all kinds of shortcomings, as Jiang Bian said, Fang Shanmu's biggest problem is that he doesn't respect her enough, and he is too conceited! As a successful person, he believes too much in the additional aura brought by his success, thinking that as long as his career is successful, he is an all-rounder who will succeed in all aspects, which is actually a false empathy bias. Just like a successful entrepreneur, no matter how rich he is, no matter how social he is, in terms of creation, he is not as professional and advanced as a writer, and in singing, he is not as smart and profound as a singer, and the so-called art industry has a specialization.

However, after some successful people have achieved success in a certain aspect, they will involuntarily regard themselves as omniscient, and they will have a kind of self-confidence that magnifying their success in a certain field can cover all fields. Sheng Chen felt that Fang Shanmu had a similar problem for a while, not only thinking that her views on national and social events were not correct enough, but also thinking that she had no judgment at all about her children's schooling, and scoffed at her idea of sending her children to study abroad as soon as possible.

Why can't we send our children to study abroad at the middle and high school levels? Domestic education just can't catch up with foreign countries, and Fang Shanmu has never gone abroad, he is just a local old man, he just thinks that everything in China is better than abroad, and I don't know why he is so stubborn and arbitrary!

Of course, Sheng Chen also admits that with the development of the economy and the improvement of national strength, the country is catching up with and surpassing foreign countries in all aspects, but the problem is that some aspects cannot be achieved overnight, such as humanistic quality, such as education, such as legal awareness, and so on.

Sheng Chen believes in Jiangbian's words, let children go abroad early, in the most critical stage of their growth to receive Western-style advanced education and concepts, after returning to China, can be ahead of their peers, will become a leader among them. Fang Shanmu can not see the long-term, and because of his contempt for her and prejudice against the riverside, he does not let his son go abroad, and he always says that women are not rational enough, he is the most emotional one!

Sheng Chen thought a lot for a while, from the initial acquaintance with Fang Shanmu, to Fang Shanmu's gradual becoming arrogant, and then to the current cold war and inseparability, she also admitted that the current stalemate also had her reasons, if she softened and took a few steps back, he wouldn't worry too much about her. In general, he is a man who grasps the big and lets go of the small, adheres to principles in big things, does not give an inch, and never worries too much about small things. He only gives advice on the style of the sofa, the color of the curtains, and the style and layout of the furniture, and ultimately respects her preferences and choices.

No one is perfect, do you want to forgive him for losing it? Sheng Chen's mind suddenly fluctuated a few times, and he secretly glanced at Fang Shanmu, who was driving.

Fang Shanmu's expression was very focused when he was driving, his eyes looked resolutely ahead, his lips were pursed, and his hands grasped the steering wheel. When driving in the city, Fang Shanmu sometimes holds the steering wheel with one hand, but as soon as he gets on the highway, he will keep his hands on the steering wheel. He has said more than once that the speed on the highway is too fast, and in the event of an accident, only by holding the steering wheel with both hands can there be a glimmer of hope to ensure that the car does not lose control.

The life of the whole family is in his hands, and he cannot slack off.

In fact, he can really be regarded as a good man who is serious and responsible, Sheng Chen's mind was shaken again, and she tried to ease the antagonism between her and Fang Shanmu: "Jiangbian wants to establish a company and invite me to join, but I haven't thought about it yet, what do you think?"

"It's safer to learn to walk first and then run. Fang Shanmu glanced back at his son, who was still sleeping, and smiled, "How long have you been out to work?" I am not familiar with the rules of the workplace and the cruelty of the shopping mall, so I want to plunge into the sea of business to swim, choking on the water is still light, and drowning is also a high probability event. ”

Sheng Chen was displeased: "In your eyes, am I really so stupid?"

"Alas, why don't you understand?" Fang Shanmu sighed, pretending to be helpless, "What man doesn't think his daughter-in-law is stupid? The stupidity here is not really stupid, it is the psychology of worrying that his daughter-in-law will be deceived and doesn't want her to show up under care and love, it is protection, not disgust, do you understand?"

"I don't understand!" Sheng Chen's heart surged again, "If you have something to say, you can't say it clearly, you have to say it in reverse, which makes it easy for people to misunderstand." ”