"Jiangbian, don't scold, reality is reality, not to be transferred by your will. All the old people who are looking for a daughter-in-law for their sons have only two starting points, one is childbearing, and the requirement for women to give birth is age. The second is to take care of the family, and the family is the premise of family stability. For you, the golden period of childbearing has passed, and it is impossible for the Gu family to take care of your family, because you are in business, why should they choose you? Yes, you are successful, you have money, but the more successful and rich you are, the more insecure they are, and what they want is a gentle and virtuous daughter-in-law, not a successful businesswoman!"

"Businesswomen can't meet their basic requirements for their daughters-in-law, no matter how good you are, you are not their target consumer group, and your excellence is worthless in their eyes. Just like you are always engaged in immigration and study abroad consulting, for some people who have immigrated, no matter how rich and high-end they are, but they are no longer your potential customers, you don't have to spend effort to maintain and operate, and you are the same ......for old men and old ladies."

"I'm not convinced, why should I be selected by them like a commodity and judged by them?"

"Because you go to a commodity distribution center, the so-called blind date is actually a kind of transaction, just a transaction that requires feelings and life bets. Meng Wei smiled, he liked Jiangbian's straightforward personality very much, "So I have always been against blind dates, the purpose of blind dates is too clear, the subtlety of feelings and the beauty and expectation of marriage, all of which were clearly marked at the beginning, this kind of marriage where both parties enter with social attributes and additional skills, how can it be happy and long-lasting?"

"The world is really unfair to women, especially to older divorced women!" "Jiangbian felt 10,000 points of critical blow.

"The world is not fair to anyone, and it is fair to everyone, don't always speak with emotions and gender bias. Riverside, if you still believe in love, don't deliberately look for the other half. If you just want to find someone to live with, whether you have real feelings or not, then you can go on a blind date or be introduced. I have always believed that true love comes before it comes without warning and without warning. ”

Sheng Chen sighed, Meng Wei has not changed, he is still the same as before, believing in fate and believing that everything is the best arrangement. It's good to have such a mentality, at least I'm happy.

For people nowadays, happiness and happiness are the greatest spiritual wealth, and the greatest material wealth is health.

After listening to Sheng Chen's experience in the blind date corner, Fang Shanmu and Zheng Yuandong looked at each other and smiled, and Jiangbian couldn't wait to complain again: "What kind of people are they, old and stubborn, old and old-fashioned, what era is it now, pick a daughter-in-law and still want to find a gentle and virtuous family to patronize the family, who still cares about the family of the current girls?"

"I have two questions, riverside. Fang Shanmu was very direct and sharp, "If you have a son and a daughter, what kind of daughter-in-law do you want your son to find, and what kind of husband do you want your daughter to marry?"

Jiang Bian didn't have time to think about it, and immediately said: "If you have a son, of course I hope that my son will find a virtuous and obedient daughter-in-law who can take care of the family." If she is a daughter, she will marry a husband who is good to her, writes her name and is obedient to her......"

Zheng Yuandong was stunned for a moment, and then laughed.

Everyone laughed together.

Jiangbe looked puzzled: "What are you laughing at?

"It's not funny, it's that people are selfish and think about things from their own standpoint. It is difficult for people who do not know how to empathize with each other to achieve great things. Sheng Chen has always known where the biggest problem in Jiangbian is, that is, she is completely self-centered, not caring about the feelings of others, if she is not born in a good family, she doesn't know how miserable she will be now.

But perhaps it was the lack of education in her family that caused her personality to be so distorted and deformed.

"Come, tea, tea. Fang Shanmu didn't bother to say more to Jiangbian, he has now figured out a truth, not everyone can continue to grow, there are always some people who stop at adulthood, and from then on stick to the knowledge system when he was in his 20s until the end of his life. As the saying goes, some people die at the age of 25 and are only buried at the age of 75.

"I haven't seen you for a long time, Far East, the newlywed life is good, right? From being single to getting married, have you adapted now?" Fang Shanmu smiled like a gray wolf, "You should communicate with Meng Wei more, he is also half an expert in marriage and love." ”

"you, curse me, don't I? I don't communicate with marriage losers, if I want to communicate, I have to communicate with you, you are a marriage expert, a professor of family life, and a life coach for the kindergarten of Friends of Elderly Women......" Zheng Yuandong laughed.

"No, no, no, you're wrong. Fang Shanmu joked to himself, "I am a fish that has slipped through the net of quality education, a permanent director of the Late Sleep Association, a champion of the couple's debate competition, a national first-class bar lifter, a national machismo image ambassador, a professional photographer of the Meitu App, a well-known expert in China, and a well-known representative of China's double standards......"

"Excellent, legendary. Meng Wei was also amused, "I used to be jealous of Yamaki, but now I still envy him." Not only is his family happy, but he also has a colorful life, and he has seen all kinds of life and love and hatred in the world, I don't know how many times more than us. ”

Sheng Chen was stunned: "Fang Shanmu, okay, are you so able to speak so well now?" Far East, you have been married for more than a year, the freshness should have passed a long time ago, and now you should have entered the second stage, the stage of quarreling and running-in, right?"

"The so-called freshness is actually to try new things with the old people, rather than repeating the old life with the new people......" Zheng Yuandong took a sip of tea, closed his eyes and tasted for a moment, "I and Zhizhi are not each other's newcomers, but old friends reunite, we now have freshness every day, because we have spent 20 years in different environments, the habits we have developed, the experience and knowledge, can bring us endless freshness, haha, envy you to death." ”

"Unlike you, Sheng Chen and Lao Fang, you have been together since college, you got married after graduation, the growth of love and career, never left each other's sight, your lives are completely intertwined and overlapped, where is there any novelty? After Zheng Yuandong finished speaking, he took two steps back, "Don't hit me, I'm telling the truth." You can't hurt a good person who dares to tell the truth. ”

To the surprise of several people, Fang Shanmu and Sheng Chen didn't even get angry when they said they were going to beat Zheng Yuandong, they both smiled quietly.

"You're right, Far East, the so-called novelty is actually trying new things with old people, rather than repeating the old life with new people, so if you go back to the topic of Gu Hao, a middle-aged man, if he doesn't really have no way, will not divorce easily, because he doesn't want to go through the old life of falling in love, getting married, quarreling, having children or even getting divorced again......"

"You want to say that I am again, right?" Jiang Bian didn't wait for Fang Shanmu to finish speaking, and he was about to have another attack.

Fang Shanmu laughed: "Don't worry, wait until I finish speaking." I've been wondering what the problem with my Sheng Chen is, and what is the solution. Although we are no longer in the Cold War, it seems that we have not yet fully found a way to get along in the future, and the words of Far East reminded me that she and I have been together for too long and can no longer provide each other with freshness, or rather, there is no pursuit of novelty in married life. It should be from the beginning of my child's junior high school, I am busy with work, Sheng Chen is busy with my son's studies and everything at home, we have to compromise with my son's studies all the time, whether it is travel, anniversaries, dinner days, etc., everything is not as important as my son's academic performance. ”

"But junior high school and high school are the most critical stage of children's learning, make-up classes, extracurricular classes, interest classes, etc., there are almost no holidays, plus I am busy with work, the originally limited time for the family to be together, all is the child's learning, over time, marriage has become a child-centered spinning top, spinning day after day, my communication with Sheng Chen, in addition to the child's learning is the state of the child, whether there is a sneaky game, whether there is early love, The exam went a few more places, and so on, and there was almost nothing left between us about ourselves. ”

"I'm not saying that it's wrong to care about children's studies, but I'm thinking that if all middle-aged couples reach a certain stage, the whole purpose of life is for the next generation, and they lose themselves, no longer manage their marriage, no longer maintain the freshness between the two, and forget all about the original intention of marriage, it is our own problem, and it has nothing to do with children. It is our own laziness that we feel that there is no need to work hard or maintain the marriage until now, which is actually a kind of sadness, irresponsibility for the marriage, and a disappointment that we no longer grow and progress. ”

"Every year, I see some news that middle-aged couples wait for the college entrance examination to divorce after the college entrance examination in order not to affect their children's college entrance examination. To put it bluntly, marriage is a joint-stock company, which requires continuous investment of energy and enthusiasm, uninterrupted hard management, and always maintains a childlike heart that respects each other and strives to grow up, and always treats itself as a child who is eager for new knowledge. ”

"Okay!" Zheng Yuandong was the first to applaud and applauded loudly, "In the end, it is an expert in marriage and love, this remark can be used as a textbook, thought-provoking, and it is worth thinking about all men and women who have a marriage crisis." ”

"It makes sense, Yamaki said it very profoundly, and he entered the wood for three points. It is because we ignore each other's feelings too much and put too much emphasis on our own efforts that leads to the dissolution of the marriage. In other words, we all think that we have matured because we have stopped growing up since we got married, but in fact, in our whole life, we live to learn from old age, as long as we stop moving forward, we will be surpassed by our peers and even by the younger generation...... "Meng Wei also agreed with Fang Shanmu's statement.