Fang Shanmu glanced at Sheng Chen, and saw that her eyebrows and eyes were lowered, and she seemed to be incompatible with the surrounding environment, and couldn't help but sigh in her heart, time will change a lot, the Sheng Chen people of the year were radiant before and after, and it was impossible to be low-key, but now she has reined in her edge, silent as a distant mountain and as quiet as autumn water, indicating that she no longer needs to be the focus of everyone, and it is enough to calm her mood.

A person who is full of heart and confident does not need too many words to make himself quiet in the hustle and bustle.

Fang Shanmu smiled slightly, Sheng Chen neither revealed the gaffe of their relationship crisis in front of people, nor did he show off their happiness, but just calmly cooperated with his performance, completely taking a back seat. Unlike when he was in college, Sheng Chen was the complete protagonist, and he was just a supporting role with gains and losses.

"In my opinion, love is divided into three stages......" Fang Shanmu glanced at Meng Wei again, and saw that he was also very calm, without the slightest sense of excitement, thinking that he had really reached a certain age, everything that should have been experienced, and life entered a flat period, "The first stage is the impulsive period, that is, the age when love begins to open, the essence of love is the secretion of hormones and instinctive needs, and it is the physiological behavior of organisms given to us by genes." ”

"You talk about love so badly, Sheng Chen took a fancy to you back then, was he blind? Zheng Yuandong was amused by Fang Shanmu's words, and asked half-provocatively and half-jokingly, "Sheng Chen, can you really bear it?" Fang Shanmu said that the physiological behavior of pursuing you back then was not because of love at all. ”

Sheng Chen raised his eyes slightly and smiled indifferently: "He can say anything, if he thinks so, we women will think the same way." The physiological behavior of living beings is the same, and it is not only for men. How men treat women, women give back to men, and the world is so fair. ”

Sheng Chen's words were impeccable and soft, although they were not aggressive and sharp, but they also made people speechless, Meng Wei's eyes jumped a few times, and he smiled quietly: "Shanmu and Sheng Chen are really husband and wife, one deep, the other shallow, and many seemingly unsolvable problems in life are solved in one or two sentences." Yamaki, you continue. ”

Fang Shanmu heard the ridicule in Meng Wei's words, ignored it, and nodded: "It's not that a family doesn't enter the door, I have a tacit understanding with Sheng Chen for so many years, I'm afraid none of you can compare." Anyway, there were three pairs in our class back then, and how many pairs have survived now?"

"It's just you and Sheng Chen. Zheng Yuandong flipped through his mobile phone, "You and Sheng Chen, Liu Jun and Ma Ying, Yu Sheng and Lin Wenwen, among the three pairs, Liu Jun and Ma Ying divorced after the fifth year of marriage, for unknown reasons." Yu Sheng and Lin Wenwen divorced in the third year after going abroad, saying that it was for the green card. As a result, after the divorce, Yu Sheng regretted not remarrying, so angry that Lin Wenwen scolded him for being ungrateful. Now you are the only lucky ones in the end, and if you are also gone, I will never believe in love again. ”

"It's not that you don't believe in love, it's love that doesn't believe in you, right?" Sheng Chen suddenly smiled, "You are now a serious diamond king, and your lack of marriage is not a reason for ability, but a matter of attitude." Say, how many girlfriends have you talked to?"

"I haven't figured out what love is until now, don't interrupt, listen to what the three stages of love are after listening to Yamaki, I want to learn and learn. Zheng Yuandong pulled back the topic and nodded at Meng Wei, "Come, Yamaki said, let's continue drinking." ”

Fang Shanmu also accompanied a cup before saying: "The second stage is the trade-off period. After the further physical and psychological maturity of men and women, the expectation of love is no longer based on the genetic inheritance instinct of biology, but has the consideration of marriage attached. The transition from pure love to a marriage with social attributes will weigh the pros and cons. For example, whether the other party's personality is suitable for long-term relationship, whether the family is equivalent to one's own conditions, whether the other party's relatives and friends will become a help or drag on the marriage, and so on. However, during the trade-off period, because they are not yet 30 years old, they still consider love more, and the additional conditions only account for 40% or even lower. ”

Zheng Yuandong understood something: "Your first stage of love is campus love, and the second stage of love is social love that has just entered the early stage of society, so what is the third stage of love?"

"The third stage of love is the comparison period. Fang Shanmu saw that everyone was listening attentively, no one was talking to each other, and couldn't help but be secretly proud, for people now, career and family are a pair of wings, indispensable, and it also shows that many people can't figure out what love is in their lives, "Men and women who have not yet married after the age of 30 have lacked enough desire and expectation for love, and they just want to find a suitable person to marry directly." In fact, the true love I yearn for is not to love for the purpose of marriage, but to love the feelings that naturally marry in the depths. And directly holding a love for the purpose of marriage can easily turn love into a value exchange, and it will also lead to comparison. ”

"Men want women to be beautiful, young, and have a good figure, and women require men to have a house, a car, and a deposit, and love at this stage is endowed with too many social attributes and becomes a value exchange. Since it is a value exchange, just like shopping, it is necessary to shop around, and the comparison comes from this. Fang Shanmu shook his head and sighed, "Some people say that men are very single-minded and have always liked girls in their 20s. It is also said that women are more single-minded than men, regardless of age, and only like rich men. Women often complain that men like to objectify women, to be beautiful ......and have children, in fact, just like Sheng Chen said, how can not it be a woman to personify a man?

"I understand, after talking for a long time, in the end, love has to become a value exchange, Shan Mu, this is the concluding speech of your and Sheng Chen's married life for more than ten years?" Zheng Yuandong laughed, "This makes me desperate, will I really not be able to meet true love in the future?"

"I've always stuck to one point. Meng Wei coughed, for fear that others would not notice him, "A person's chances of getting rich in his life are limited, say three or four times, and similarly, the number of times he meets true love in his life is also limited. Now that we are middle-aged, according to the three stages that Yamaki said, love has reached the comparison period, and we can never go back to the past. ”

"Go, go, you can't meet true love because you're stupid, I'm sure I can still meet it, don't say bad things. Zheng Yuandong snorted Meng Wei unconvinced, and laughed again, "I have always wanted to make a statistic, that is, what is the divorce rate among the two people who fall in love and marry in college classmates? What is the divorce rate of those who meet at work after leaving the school gate? What is the divorce rate of blind date marriages? and then make a comparison, so that we can provide a reference data for older leftover men like us." ”

"What data do you want? You are beyond data. Sheng Chen teased Zheng Yuandong, "It's not that you can't find a girlfriend, it's that you're too picky." You have to understand that in the Far East, the perfect woman in your imagination does not exist, she is only a projection of the advantages corresponding to all your personal shortcomings. How can there be a partner in the world who embraces all your shortcomings, is good at all the things you are not good at, and is still beautiful and generous?

"There's something in the words, Sheng Chen!" Zheng Yuandong immediately caught something keenly, and threw a narrow smile at Fang Shanmu, "Say, Shanmu, did you do something hurtful to make Sheng Chen disappointed in you?" Don't be afraid, say it, we will make the decision for Sheng Chen." ”

Sheng Chen blinked his eyes and smiled mischievously: "No, no, you guys think too much, my relationship with Shan Mu is very stable, like a stone, steady, it will not fall, and there will be no possibility of falling apart." It's you, Monway, who tell you what marriage in the Far East really is, whether the perfect other half exists. ”

Meng Wei was named and smiled a little unexpectedly: "My view of love is relatively simple, I don't have high requirements, I don't want the other half to be perfect, as long as I reach half of the tacit understanding, it's enough." Where is there a perfect thing in life, because I am not perfect myself, and longing for perfection is asking for troubles. ”

"It's too frustrating to say, it's precisely because of imperfection that you pursue perfection, isn't it?" Zheng Yuandong raised his wine glass high, "Come, toast everyone." I didn't pretend, I really asked everyone for advice, what is love? Why do I no longer feel tempted since I left the campus? I won't hide it from you, I have been in love more than a dozen times before and after, either with the idea of coping with errands, or I really want to get married but find that I don't want to live with each other at all, or I don't feel it at all, what do you think I should do? It's not that I don't want to fall in love, it's not that I don't want to get married, but I just can't find the right person to love, Yamamu, is it really like Lao Meng said, the number of times I have been in love in my life has run out?"

Fang Shanmu laughed: "Even if there is really a limit on the number of times you can fall in love in your life, who knows how many times? Of course, there is also a possibility that you can't let go of someone in your heart, so you always feel that no one is as good as her. Tell me, who is she?"

As soon as he finished speaking, everyone's eyes looked towards Sheng Chen.

Sheng Chen waved his hand calmly: "Don't make trouble, it's definitely not me, I didn't start with Zheng Yuandong at all, at most, I just said a few more words and walked a few more steps than ordinary classmates." There is someone else in his heart that he can't let go, you can't guess who it is, let's set up an ambush first, don't blame me for not reminding you, she is also our classmate. ”