In terms of Haizhou customs, it is a very formal and grand thing.

Only between friends who have a very good relationship, or when they meet a junior who they like very much, will they recognize the next godfather, and after this godfather recognizes, it will basically last a lifetime.

Post-80s, After the post-90s grew up, the handling of this kind of godfather relationship is relatively casual, sometimes the child has not been born, he has already found a bunch of godfathers and godmothers, but, in Haizhou in the last century, it is very rare for a child to have several godfathers and godmothers, or an adult has several godsons or goddaughters, generally speaking, a child has only one godfather and godmother, and an elder has only one godson or goddaughter at most, and the older generation pays great attention to this relationship, to some extent, it is much more important than the godfather of the West.

Haizhou people re-promise, not only the relatives are very formal and valued, even if it is between friends, it is not casual to worship, not only the feelings should be in place, but also to re-promise, talk about the rules, if the brothers' parents and grandmothers die, according to the rules, the brothers should wear filial piety, but wear heavy filial piety, unlike more than ten years later, thirteen or fourteen-year-old children have dozens or hundreds of brothers, but worship at will, get along very casually, ten years later still keep in touch, it would be good to have one or two.

Li Mu and Li Ziwei called their mother when they went home together, and their mother and father didn't expect Li Mu to go home early, so they hurriedly started dinner, and after answering Li Mu's call, Li's mother suddenly became a little nervous and asked Li's father: "What do you say Ziwei is not happy to do?"

Dad Li said, "Probably not." ”

Mother Li said: "I don't know, it's just that I don't know the bottom of my heart, we have never recognized our goddaughters before, and we don't know what the rules are in Ziwei's hometown." ”

Dad Li smiled: "As long as the girl agrees, we will follow the rules of the family's house, and the girl may not dare to agree directly to this matter, and she will discuss it with her parents." ”

Mother Li nodded and said, "Ziwei's parents are very good people, and they are standard intellectuals at first glance, and they seem to be teachers, right?"

"Ziwei's mother is a teacher and has retired, and her father is an official of their local education bureau, but in the early years, it was the people's teacher who came, and later transferred to the education committee to work. ”

During the Chinese New Year, Li Ziwei, as Li Mu's personal assistant, has been following Li Mu, in order to reunite her with her family, Li Mu specially invited her parents to Haizhou for the New Year, Li's father and Li Ziwei's parents had a few days of contact, and they had a good impression of the two, and their impression of Li Ziwei was even better.

Li Ziwei was born in an intellectual family, and her parents were the last batch of college students who were admitted to university with real talent and real learning before the Cultural Revolution in the early years.

Mother Li smiled: "If Ziwei's parents also agree, our two families of six will find a time to have a meal together, and we will also have daughters in the future." ”

"It just so happens that they are all surnamed Li, and they are ...... like their daughters"

Mother Li nodded: "Yes, they are all from your old Li family." ”

Dad Li nodded and smiled, and said, "Before you didn't have a son, you dreamed of having a girl, if you were really a girl, I'm afraid it would be difficult to have the achievement of our son today!"

Mother Li shook her head and said: "If Xiao Mu is really a girl, I can't bear her to work so hard, go home after graduating from college to take the civil service exam, have a stable job, and don't marry far away, so that she can accompany us more." ”

After speaking, Li's mother said again: "Look at the present, your son has not graduated from college yet, and he runs all over the world all day long, and I am afraid that I will not be able to see him a few times a year in a few more years. ”

"You're right. Dad Li nodded and sighed: "In the future, I have to persuade my son to have more children!"

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Li Mu didn't tell Li Ziwei about her mother's desire to recognize her as her goddaughter, but she thought about it all the way in her heart.

In his previous life, Li Mu often listened to his mother sigh, envious of others who have daughters, especially envy that their daughters stay by their side, even if they are married, they can meet every day, and after having children, parents can also help take care of children every day, and the life of the old couple is also fulfilling.

Unlike her, her son is away all the year round, and he can go back three or twice a year, and each time it is only a few days, he comes in a hurry, he leaves in a hurry, and before he is a mother, his son leaves again.

The life in the previous life was not in such an order, and Li's mother really worked hard for most of her life, but when she was old, her son couldn't stay by her side, which was really sad for her.

At that time, whenever Li Mu heard that his mother had a fever and a cold, he felt very sorry in his heart, and he usually couldn't accompany him, and he had a headache and brain fever, and he couldn't go home to take care of it.

It is precisely because he has always known this regret in his mother's heart that Li Mu did not object to her wanting to recognize Li Ziwei as her daughter, on the contrary, deep in his heart, he was particularly supportive of this matter, and the only hope was that his parents treated Li Ziwei sincerely, and they could also get Li Ziwei's sincere feedback, in that case, it could be regarded as making up for a regret in his mother's heart.

As soon as Li Ziwei got home, she hurried to help in the kitchen, and took the initiative to snatch Dad Li's job, saying that she wouldn't let him work anymore, in her words: "I'll just be busy with my aunt about the kitchen, uncle, go and chat with Mr. Li." ”

Mother Li smiled: "Your uncle probably wants to go out to smoke a long time ago, he is addicted to smoking." ”

Li Ziwei said: "Although it is very difficult to quit smoking, my uncle usually has to smoke as little as possible, I will go back to a friend to bring you some nicotine gum, and when you want to smoke, you can chew two, it can reduce the intake of e-liquid." ”

Dad Li asked curiously, "There is still such a thing?"

Li Ziwei nodded and said: "It has been sold in the US market for a long time, it has passed the FDA certification, it is very safe, its principle is actually the same as people's dependence on tobacco, you are addicted to smoking, in fact, you are only addicted to nicotine, but there is no tobacco tar, and the body needs to ingest nicotine if you are addicted to smoking, nicotine gum is added with naturally extracted nicotine, but there is no smoke tar, so it is much healthier, after all, the most harmful thing in tobacco is the various elements and heavy metals in tobacco tar. ”

Saying that, Li Ziwei said again: "And that thing can reduce your dependence on cigarettes, while using it, you can reduce the amount of smoking, and after a period of time, you may be able to quit smoking completely." ”

When Mama Li heard this, she hurriedly said, "Listening to it is very reliable!" Lao Li, go back and ask Ziwei to buy you some for you to try." ”

Dad Li didn't refuse, and said with a smile: "If I can quit smoking without pain, I definitely have no opinion, in fact, I also want to quit, but after smoking for so many years, I can't quit all of a sudden." ”

Mother Li nodded and said with a smile: "Okay, I know what virtue you have, if you want to smoke it, go to the yard and smoke one." ”

Dad Li smiled: "Okay, then you guys are busy, I'll be lazy." ”

When Dad Li came out of the kitchen, Li Mu was checking his email through his laptop in the living room, Dad Li took out a cigarette from his pocket and said to Li Mu: "Son, go, go out and smoke a cigarette." ”

Because he knew that Li Mu smoked occasionally, Li's father would sometimes throw a cigarette for Li Mu, and the two of them would spray clouds and smoke together, but Li Mu's addiction to smoking was almost none, so he smoked much less than him.

Li Mu put down the computer and followed his father to the yard, the weather in Yanjing in April has begun to get warmer, the two sat down on the wooden bench next to the courtyard of the villa, Li Mu took out two cigarettes and handed one to Li Mu, Li Mu took the lighter from his father's hand, first helped his father light the cigarette, and then lit the one he was holding.

After taking two puffs of cigarettes, Dad Li pointed to a small vegetable patch that had been opened in the yard, and said proudly: "Look, you haven't farmed for 30 years, and it looks quite like it at first glance." ”

Li Mu looked helplessly at the few ridges of land that had opened out of the yard, and said with a smile: "At your age, is growing vegetables particularly rewarding?"

Dad Li smiled: "It's not just a sense of achievement, but also nostalgia and freedom." ”

Speaking, Dad Li sighed again: "When I was a child, I was not in such a mood for farming, I was lazy when I was a child, and your grandmother forced me to work in the field with a stick, at that time, in addition to going to school, I was doing farm work, so I never felt that farming was a kind of enjoyment, and every day I thought that I must find a way to get rid of the yellow earth, so after graduating from high school, I quickly took your grandfather's class to go to the mine, but this is hard for your uncle, I put your grandfather's work on the top, he can't read and read, so he can only farm in his hometown, sometimes think about it, I always feel sorry for him." ”

Li Mu nodded and said, "But you have been trying your best to help my uncle for so many years, and now he has a good life, and it will be better in the future." ”

Dad Li smiled slightly: "Yes, I'm much better now." ”

Speaking of this, Dad Li said: "Your uncle has just gotten rid of the yellow earth, I have been away from the yellow earth for 30 years, and now you let your uncle farm, he is afraid that he will be 10,000 unhappy, but what about me, I especially want to get an acre of three points of land to plant, and when those peppers, eggplants, and tomatoes grow, they are green and full of water, and I am happy when I look at them." Wait another ten or eight years, I will go with your mother to find a place where the seasons are like spring, build a private house, rent some fields, usually in addition to planting some vegetables, you can also grow some melons and fruits, depending on your future son and daughter, what they like to eat, I will plant whatever your mother and ......"

Li Mu suddenly had a thought, and said: "Dad, why don't I buy you a piece of land in the northern suburbs of Yanjing, find a good place by the mountains and rivers, buy a piece of land to build a villa, and then open a few acres of land, get an orchard, a greenhouse, and a flower house, and you can take your grandparents over in the future!"