On August 15, 2015, at six o'clock in the afternoon, our family of three went to a college in Qingdao, Shandong Province to report for their children. As soon as I entered the campus gate, I saw Wang Xile greeting several students. When I went through the manual learning procedures, I asked him how he knew those people, and he said that he had contacted the e-sports partners he had brought with the school before the start of the school year, and there were many people, and everyone was planning how to get together.

We originally planned to stay in Qingdao with our child for two weeks to make his upcoming university life less lonely, but unexpectedly, on the afternoon when he first arrived at the school, he had a small gathering with a few gaming comrades, which made me deeply feel the power of the Internet.

Think about Wang Xile's three years of high school life, the united front formed by the school, teachers, and parents, and I don't know how many fierce battles there have been with the student group due to mobile phone problems. And now that I see a mobile phone, I can gather those distant, strange and familiar comrades-in-arms together for my convenience, which makes me feel that the criticism of students' use of mobile phones should not be limited to analyzing the aspects that have an impact on learning, and if only the deliberately selected facts are cited to answer the questions, this is far from enough to solve the problem, and even has the opposite effect. Because to do so will encourage people to deliberately omit other aspects of the truth, so that they will become more and more extreme, and at the end the educator will become a complete dictator.

In any case, the development of a capitalist society will only combine the development factors of one type or another in a potentially infinitely complex way, and only the incorrigible nerd will cite a single fact in order to force a solution to the unique and complex problems that are occurring at the moment. It's like the fight I participated in with Wang Xile and the school over a mobile phone problem. We have always used an idyllic small-scale peasant mentality to demand the complexity and changeability of the post-industrial era, which makes schools, teachers, and parents more and more angry when facing the problem of student development and education. In the Internet era, education needs to keep pace with the times and practice the balance of diversification and segmentation.

On the 10th day of my stay in Qingdao, I called and forcibly called Wang Xile over, and the family of three had a big meal, which was also the third time in these days that I had eaten with my children.

In this school, Wang Xile has a team of nearly 20 people who have met because of e-sports, and the school has been arranging different activities with them these days. I don't think Wang Xile feels lonely at all, so the trip that was originally at least two weeks has been greatly shortened.

Back in Gillantai, life still rotates at its normal pace. Fast forward to November, and from this month onwards, Wang Xile will represent the department in the school's debate competition, and he keeps calling us to tell us that the competition is fast. On that day, in the semi-finals, their team collapsed, and Wang Xile called to say that the judges had a tendency to be biased, and I immediately criticized him seriously.

"When the game enters the evenly matched stage, non-game factors such as body language, case quotes, and eyes of the players will cause subtle changes in the referee's psychology, causing some tendentious penalties. Faced with this situation, most people will say that the referee is biased or even a black whistle, but it is not.

It's human nature to have a desire. It's normal for someone to win and who loses, and the outcome often depends on whether a detail is handled appropriately in the last few seconds. I said.

"I just can't figure it out. University teachers should be fair and impartial. In the end, the opponents were stuck, and they were sentenced to win!?" said the son.

"If you can't figure it out, you can think slowly, there is a big mystery here. Once you figure it out, the road in life will be smooth. I said.

"Oh, I'll think about it more. The son said.

"You've been talking about the competition during this time, how are you studying, and can you pass the college transfer exam in the future?" I said.

"There are a lot of people who are better than me, and there is a lot of pressure to study, so I will try my best to do it. The son said.

When it comes to academics, Wang Xile's original cleverness disappears suddenly, but I'm used to it. As always, while actively encouraging him, he also points out the problems and hopes that he can do what he can do well, not only in terms of learning, but also in terms of esports level.

Ordinary days go by quickly. Before I knew it, it was mid-April 2016, and this was the second semester of Wang Xile's freshman year. At about eight o'clock that morning, Wang Xile called, and he told me something with a very complicated feeling. To put it simply, it went like this: that morning, the whole school was running morning exercises, and suddenly a female student from another department fell, kicked her hands and feet, and was unconscious. At that time, the students present were frightened, and the teachers present did not dare to approach. In the end, it was Wang Xile who ran over and called 120 for emergency services, and then called the director of political education. When I had done all this, I noticed that the playground was full of people who were doing morning exercises, standing there watching me. It took a while for the political education teacher to arrive, and it took a while for the ambulance to arrive, and it took more than an hour before and after, and then the female classmate was not saved.

This is the first time that Wang Xile has personally dealt with social emergencies, which has given him a more specific perception of the human situation in society from different angles, so he wrote an article afterwards that was forwarded by many classmates, which had an impact.

By the end of June, Wang Xile's junior college transfer exam did not enter the top few ranges, and he was very frustrated in the face of failure. That day, he told me that the last time he experienced saving people at school, he had a great impact on him, and he reflected on the teachers and students of the same level of school he had visited in the past year, and everyone seemed to have a strange taste in their personalities. Although he did not succeed in transferring to a junior college, his grades were still relatively high, and he reached the qualification to enter the self-examination undergraduate sequence of the School of Continuing Education of Shandong University.

"You are now full-time, and going to the School of Continuing Education of Shandong University has become a different sequence, which will have a great impact on finding a job. Besides, it is very difficult to take the self-examination of a first-class university like Shandong University, and it is very problematic whether you can graduate in the future, so you should think about it carefully. I said positively and constructively.

"I think it's the most important thing to think about it, I think the environment has the greatest impact on people, anyway, instead of wasting time here, it's better to go to Shandong University, I know in my heart that self-examination is difficult, but difficulties are always overcome by people. The son said in a resolute tone.

"Since we went on a bicycle expedition to Xi'an at the age of 13, you have been in charge of your own problems, and your parents are just your growing counsel. Since you are up to your heart, then we support your decision. However, I still say that I should take responsibility for the consequences of my decisions. I said.

Wang Xile's decision is too big. However, if parents are busy making decisions for their children, it will break the wings of their children's growth, and even cause hatred in the future. Since the child has taken this dangerous step, we can only pray and do our best to help, hoping that he can walk the back road on his own, so for two years in a row our hearts have not been at peace.

Perhaps the environment has changed, or perhaps it has matured, by the end of 2017, Wang Xile passed all the exams in one go, and at the same time, this year, their esports team won the medal of the year competition for the first time. In the first half of 2018, in addition to studying, Wang Xile participated in the study of the car driver's license and passed it all at one time, and the coach happily praised him as one of the few most awesome students in the driving school after the electronic rod. After the National Day in October 2018, Wang Xile began interviewing for internships, and finally decided to work in an education group to improve academic qualifications and certification, and at the same time, their esports team won the medal of the year competition again.

At that time, I didn't understand it, because Wang Xile studied accounting, but after my son's explanation, I suddenly felt that his thinking has a certain rationality in the complex social background, which is no longer something that our generation can easily assign. Wang Xile's choice of his internship direction is mainly due to the following reasons:

First, the future of the industry and the expectation of making money.

Second, accounting is a major that I studied, but his social status is only 4 or 5,000 yuan per month, which cannot meet my expectations for consumption. If you want to make money in accounting majors, you must be admitted to the CPA exam, which requires a high level of mathematical ability, otherwise it is impossible to pass the exam. Even if you pass the exam, the number of high-paid accountants used by society is limited, and it depends on luck. The key problem is that there is no possibility of passing the test in mathematics at all.

Third, the internship direction I chose was not blind at all. This is what our partner who plays esports with suggested to me, and he has been doing it for some years and has made a lot of money, saying that I am very eloquent, and I should give it a try and challenge it, maybe I am a good fit for the job that requires communication.

Fourth, these friends who play e-sports together are very real.

Fifth, education is the eternal theme of human society, and this industry can only keep pace with the times and not be eliminated.

Reality also constantly verifies Wang Xile's judgment of himself. In November 2018, he officially interned, and then ranked second in performance, reaching the company's automatic regularization standard. As of November 2019, Wang Xile was promoted to supervisor, and his economic income was stable at more than 10,000 yuan, and there seemed to be a seamless link from student to work. Meanwhile, their esports team won a medal for the third time in the Tournament of the Year.

From the perspective of intellectual factors, from the level of 10 in the primary school class to the level of 20 in junior high school, and then to the absolute poor students with 350 to 400 points in high school, the trajectory is obviously declining; from the perspective of non-intellectual factors, the social practice of camping in primary school, to the construction of junior high school basketball team awareness, and then to the self-development in learning, self-discipline and enterprising during college and work, the level of e-sports also has the ability to win medals, and its trajectory is constantly rising.

In terms of intellectual factors, we have been influenced by various propaganda and invested a lot of money and energy, but as a result, the propaganda effect of "magic education" has not appeared in children. In terms of non-intellectual factors, we have been insisting on a certain situation for a long time, and various social practices make children's personalities appear socialized early.

After careful calculation, from the time he came into contact with the concept of quality education to Wang Xile's participation in the work today, the distortion of what the state, localities, and individuals have gained in the storm of educational reform can be said to be vivid. More than thirty years is enough time for people to understand what they did not understand in the past, and enough to change the nature of anything.

The past experiences of too many students continue to touch the nerves in the depths of the heart. Of course, the most direct is the experience of his son Wang Xile, who went to school alone from the age of 13 in 2008 until he fended for a living alone in Jinan, Shandong Province, in 2019, thousands of miles away from his parents and without a single relative. As Wang Xile's father, I really feel for his son's temperament of never giving up on himself. The formation of Wang Xile's temperament that is not afraid of difficulties is precisely created by those extensive social practices before the age of 12, and the temperament formed by non-knowledge is a spirit that goes deep into the bone marrow, the more frustrated the more courageous it becomes, and it will never fade.

At this time, an article in my mind that analyzes education from the perspective of capital, "criticism that is not criticism", came up spontaneously.