It's mid-to-late April. That day, my son took his notebook and waited to go to the intensive class. I said, "Joy, since you went to the intensive class, do you think you have improved or regressed?"

"Of course it progressed. That's what the teachers say. ”

"Why?"

"The homework has been regularized, the test scores have risen, and I can get 90 in Chinese and mathematics this month. ”

"But Dad thinks you've regressed, and it's bigger. ”

"Ahh The son's eyes widened and he was stunned for a moment, and said, "Why?"

"Joy, the current batch of junior high school students, when they first entered middle school, everyone had excellent grades, but after a semester, some children began to not hand in their homework. ”

"Dad, what does the matter of your middle school students have to do with my academic progress?" my son interrupted.

"Of course it does," I said, "and you have to grow up and go to middle school." Joy, you didn't go to the intensive class before, what is your attitude towards homework on your day off?"

"Hurry up and write, you can play when you're done. ”

"Did anyone ask you to do your homework?"

"Nope. That's what I'm supposed to do. ”

"But since taking the intensive study class, what is your attitude towards your homework on your days off?"

"Write quickly and seriously. ”

"That's where you are doing your homework in the intensive class. I mean, what's your attitude towards homework?"

"Dad, I don't understand what you mean?"

"Dad said you have a good taste and hope that you can tell your true feelings," I said, "In the past, although you made a lot of mistakes in writing homework on your days off, you were proactive, and now you don't want to write your homework at home if you don't go to the intensive class, and you only write when there is pressure from the outside world in the intensive class, do you think about this kind of thinking in recent times?"

"Dad, I didn't say you know, that's what I thought in my heart!"

At this time, when it was time to go to the intensive class, Wang Xile hurriedly picked up the homework book and left.

In the afternoon, my son came back from the intensive class and said when he entered the door: "Dad, my composition has improved a lot after I went to the intensive class." ”

"On what basis?" I said.

"In the past, when I wrote essays, the teacher would give me 8 or 90 points, but now I am at the level of 95 points plus more than 10 points, and the teacher keeps praising me for my good writing. ”

"Joy, that's exactly what I want to say to you. Judging from the scores, it is an improvement, but in fact, your essay has regressed a lot!" My son was stunned and looked at me stupidly, and I continued, "To be honest, my father has not been able to read the essay you wrote since I participated in the intensive class, let alone change it to submit." ”

"Why, why?" the son stammered.

"Because what you write is some dead things like flowers and trees, dig out your heart to find good words and sentences to organize the beginning, middle and end of the essay All the contents are one type, although they meet the teacher's evaluation standards, but there is no voice in your heart. Did you write essays during this time?"

"Nope. ”

"If you don't have a voice, what kind of essay do you write? Essay is like a person, essay is like a person, essay is used to express your feelings, if you don't write what is in your heart, your heart will 'die' sooner or later. Although other people's things need to be learned, you always put other people's good words and sentences into your essays, and such essays are recognized by the teacher, and Dad thinks that it is the worst essay in the world. ”

"Why?"

"Because your essay in April didn't seem like thinking, and lost your thinking about life, this is not what Dad is most worried about, what I'm worried about is: you are now in the intensive class to complete your homework, and when you grow up, when you reach middle school, when you have the ability to resist, the pressure of the intensive class can no longer suppress you, you will also be like some of the current middle school students from copying homework, after two or three years to completely give up learning, develop into a child who has no ability to learn, and finally finish college and become a person who does not dare to participate in social competition. If you only do what you should have done on your own initiative under the pressure of the intensive class, I think that in the future, no matter how good or bad your studies are, you will definitely lack social competitiveness. Learning is a very difficult thing, it is a responsibility and commitment to life, when you don't understand why you want to study, no one can have real motivation to learn, all compulsory learning is to prepare for the future to be bored with learning, but this is just my personal opinion. ”

Wang Xile stood there silently as if he was choosing something, and in order to encourage him to believe in himself, I said, "Xile, you will definitely be better than Dad in the future." ”

"Why?"

"When Dad was 20 years old, he only went as far as 100 kilometers from home, and when you were 10 years old, you traveled half of China; Dad didn't even know how to read articles when you were your age, and you earned manuscript fees, so you have done so much on your own! Come, Dad and you will make a column. ”

In order to let Wang Xile's son see his shining point, we made a video column, fixed his published articles on it and pressed them under the glass plate of the desk, and asked him to face his past successes every day before going to school, and silently recited a few "I can do it".