The morning is beautiful and the sun rises little by little, making the morning glow in the east gorgeous, and its beauty stretches out in the blue sky in all directions. I came to school with a basketball and just arrived on the basketball court, when I saw my son enter the gate of the middle school with his head drooping. When my son saw me, he came over and stood there without saying a word. It was just the two of us on the basketball court, breathing in my son's chest, red lips stirring but no sound. "What, you're doing meritorious service again?" I said, "Say, it's okay, the sky is falling and Dad is carrying it." ”

"Teacher Liu called you. The son lowered his head and whispered.

"Lift your head up," I said, "if there is a mistake, let's overcome it together, and don't hang our heads at every turn." Let's go, send the basketball back with Dad, and then let's go together to accept Mr. Liu's criticism. The son's melancholy face turned red. Probably ashamed.

I entered the elementary school gate. My son followed me and refused to walk quickly, his face was gloomy again, and he kept pinching the corners of his clothes with his hands, and his head drooped again. I said in a reassuring tone, "There must be a lot of problems in the school period. For example, if you did your homework last night, it means that there is something unreasonable about your plan. ”

As soon as she saw Teacher Liu, she angrily pointed to the homework book and counted her son down. This is talking about children, and it is clearly criticizing parents. Mr. Liu didn't know anything about Wang Xile's off-campus life. I thought: she didn't want to know. What else will test-oriented education have besides making teachers interested in students' test scores. Teacher Liu said angrily:

"Wang Xile's homework yesterday was ridiculously bad. Teacher Wang, look at it, don't say anything, and don't write a word in the back. I really don't know how Xu signed the family note on Wang Xile's homework book. He's only been in the first grade and he's got so many bad things that I'm losing faith in him. ”

"He's still a kid, I'm going to take care of it and I'll get better after a while. I forced a smile on my face.

"I also hope that parents can actively cooperate so that their children can improve. Teacher Liu said lightly.

In silence, the son's tears flowed down, "Wang Xile admits his mistakes, but he doesn't change them!" Unlike other children who make mistakes and say that they don't understand what is going on for a long time. Teacher Liu angrily told me.

When a child makes a mistake, he does not correct it because he does not yet have the mind to recognize and correct his mistakes, and most of the time admitting his mistakes to adults is just obeying the pressure. Crying like Wang Xile is obviously a means to protect himself. If such a young child can recognize mistakes, then the world's schools should also be eliminated. These are what I think in my heart, and how dare I say it.

"Teacher Wang, there is one thing I don't understand, every homework has your signature, and you can't find out if the writing is so bad?" asked Teacher Liu puzzled.

"Teacher Liu, to be honest, learning is a child's own business. Wang Xile's homework was never checked, but I just signed it. I believe that people are born with the heart to learn, and there will be a day when they will wake up. I said mildly.

Teacher Liu shook his head with a wry smile, and then asked Wang Xile to make up his homework before school in the afternoon and let him go back to class. "I've never heard of educating children in this way. Wang Xile is very clever, learning really shouldn't be like this. The class bell rang, and Teacher Liu hurriedly said a few words and hurried to class.

My son kept making up his homework at noon, and he didn't have time to talk to him, so he didn't have time until the evening. "Wang Xile, what do you think about this morning?" I asked constructively.

"I can't make a plan. Dad, you should make a study plan for me. ”

"Who said your plan didn't work. It's just a little bit of a mistake. Your plan is to balance learning and playing, how much you learn, how much you play, Dad doesn't know anything and can't make a plan for you, or you should think about how to improve your plan. ”

The son thought for a while and said, "Last week, there were two things that were the worst: one was that I didn't do my homework well, and the other was that I didn't want to get up when I went to school in the morning. The second point has never been done before. ”

I took out a book and pointed to a paragraph for my son to read. "A kid my age has to get ten hours of sleep a day. The son finished reading and said.

"What happens if you don't get enough sleep?" I asked.

"I don't know. ”

"On the middle school basketball court, have you seen some high school students who love to play basketball but are not tall?"

"Yes. ”

"Do you want to know why they're so low?"

"Yes. ”

"They have always been the inevitable result of not getting enough sleep since childhood. Sleep is the first element of a child's growth. If you don't guarantee sleep, you're likely to be a sucker in the future. Now, what do you think about how to do your homework that night?"

"Alas, don't mention it. Originally, I thought that I would come back at eleven o'clock, and I could finish my homework in only 30 minutes ago, but I didn't expect that people couldn't sleep at all. ”

"Experience is the best teacher in life. Only experience can make you understand what things are all about. Some things are simple to think about, but complicated to do. Think about how you can improve your plan. ”

Finish your homework. The son said: "Dad, my new plan has three points: first, Monday to Thursday, go out to play for a while after eating in the afternoon, come back at 8 o'clock to do homework, go to bed at half past nine, get up at seven o'clock the next morning, and sleep for half an hour at noon, so that I can sleep ten hours a day." Second, get some more sleep on Saturdays and Sundays so that I don't become a. Third, don't do your homework on Friday night, go out and have fun, and complete your study tasks on Saturday morning, so that you can play for a day and a half on Sunday, and go home at 9 o'clock on Sunday night to take a shower and prepare for school the next day. How's that going for this plan?"

"It's good, learning and playing are taken care of, but reasonable and unreasonable need to be practiced in practice. Rejoicing, sticking to a plan, even a small plan is very, very hard. ”

In the first three days of the clear plan, my son did well, but by Thursday he couldn't do it, and after finishing his homework, he didn't want to sleep, so he had to go to the office compound to play for a while. I compromised and said, "Go home on time at ten o'clock." ”

"Okay. "Got on his bike and left.

It was ten o'clock, and there was no sign of my son. My mind is in a mess, my thoughts are incoherent, is this an indulgence of the child? How can the child be demanding of himself? Am I going in the wrong direction? I am ignorant of the problems in my head...... But I'm going to have to get to the bottom of it.

Human scars are the most palpable. When his son came back at eleven o'clock, he frowned and said timidly, "Dad, I was wrong. After saying that, he lowered his head.

"Rejoice, lift up your head. You're right. Implementing a plan is not an easy task. However, a man must try to live up to his promise and live up to what he has said, or the red-hot wire of the Japanese in 'Unexpected Brutality' will pass through your jaw. Now hurry up and go to bed. ”

The son went to bed and said happily, "Dad, how do you know the child's heart so well?"

"Does Dad read a lot?"

"Many. ”

"That's the value of learning. Studying allows you to learn a lot of skills to overcome difficulties. Learning and experience make Dad naturally know how to assemble a child into a good person. Your task now is to have fun, grow your body, and try to finish your homework as planned. These words made his son's heart fluctuate and he was excited.

Yes, many people study to give their children a better future, but they lose their children's present. This is actually an early ruin of the child's feelings of happiness.

I saw that my son was about to fall asleep and was about to get up and leave, when suddenly he opened his eyes and asked, "Dad, am I improving?"

"Yes! and it's huge. ”

"Why does the teacher say I'm getting worse and worse?"

"The teacher made you dizzy, and you couldn't take it seriously. "Actually, all I said was well-intentioned panic. Because "progress" is a big question of children's psychological self-affirmation, it is so difficult to answer this question well! I had an idea and said, "Joy, do you want to know how much progress you have?"

"Yes. ”

I found his diary from last semester and said, "Your diary for November 20, 2001 only has the word 'yo-yo', and you can count how many words there are in today's diary." ”

The son hurriedly got up, jumped out of bed, took out the diary from his schoolbag and counted it. "Dad, my diary entry today is 136 words. He said when he finished counting.

"After five months of hard work, your diary has grown from two words to 136 words, an improvement of 68 times, which is really huge. ”

My son picked up the diary and compared my handwriting.