On Tuesday afternoon in the first week of April, my son's class held an ancient poetry memorization contest that required parents to participate, and I learned that he was the host when I arrived at the venue. The son presided over well and was very generous. At the end of the performance, the students were divided into six groups to compete, and Wang Xile was in the fifth group. In this kind of dynamic activity, Wang Xile's ingenuity in playing suddenly showed eye-catching. At the end of the competition, their group won 21 small red flowers, and Wang Xile won 12 alone. Not only did he win the championship in the group, but he also won the first place in the individual. When the son returned to the group with the prize, everyone gathered around him to hold their prizes, and they were all happy that they had such good teammates. I'm happier than they are.

My son's performance made me feel like an electric wave was vibrating in my heart. My intuition tells me that my son's future will not be bad.

After the competition, my son picked up the prize and ran to middle school to report to his mother. I was puzzled by the question of "why didn't my son tell his parents when he was the host".

After a while, I went back to middle school and entered my wife's finance room, where I saw my son sitting in front of the computer and playing a game. "Wang Jianhua, look at your son, as soon as he entered the office, he put the prize in my hand and said, Mom, I am the first place, and then drove me off the computer, as if the prize was won for me. The wife said with mixed feelings, "I offered him money to buy ice cream, but he refused." Ask her about the game, he sat there without saying a word, I think the game is addictive, it is not good to study, what can I do in the future!"

"It's not that the study is bad, it's the ranking is not good. Originally, you were worried about taking the test for 60 or 70 points, but now you are still worried about staying at 80 or 90 points. Don't forget that he is a seven-year-old child, he has unlimited energy, and playing is definitely the most important thing for his son right now. What adults think is appropriate can be a disaster for children. Everyone has an upward heart. As long as the child has self-control and conscience in the future, progress will be natural. On the one hand, we need to believe in our children, and on the other hand, we need to be prepared for a lot of headaches. This is the principle of education and the law of life. In the Internet era, there is no need for network products to edify children's brains, and when they grow up, they must be the ones who are hurt. Let him play, and I'll solve the game problem. "As soon as I said that, my son was playing more energetically.

"People say that if you are loose or not tight, there is no discipline, the child will definitely not be afraid of you in the future, and there will be no rules when he grows up, and he can't manage it. "It's no wonder that my wife wants to say something but can't say it clearly, because my children's education is random, and I know very well what my wife wants to say. Because now the number of children who can't be controlled by middle schools is increasing significantly.

"The father is the godfather of the child's life. Everything a father has a subtle effect on his children, which cannot be compared with any book. Therefore, when I get along with my children, I try to be reasonable, humorous, and relaxed. Let the child feel the little warmth that his father once poured into him in his life. These actions will make Wang Xile believe in his father, which will lead to worship and responsibility for the family, and Wang Xile will pass on this advantage to his descendants in the future, and this is how the century-old family has prospered. ”

"As soon as you say something, it becomes a mess. It's outrageous that the son is not well educated now and still thinks about his offspring. The wife touched her son's head and went out.

"Joy, why didn't you tell us when you were the host today?" I asked.

"The teacher said that the students couldn't draw," the son said, "What does the host say, it's not an exam." ”

I saw that my son didn't want to talk to me, so I got up and went back to my office.

In the evening, I asked my son to read "Unexpected Brutality". He said, "Dad, is there a regression in my homework?"

"It's not. It's normal for job quality to be repetitive. ”

"Then why read it?"

"Remember last Sunday when you stepped on the sand and crawled?"

"Yes. ”

"You think of you as a Japanese, and you think of the anti-Japanese fighters as little creatures who have been trampled to death by you. I said.

After reading it, the son said, "Dad, I was really wrong. ”

"It's good to know what's wrong. "This idea came to me as soon as I entered the house.

In the past few days, my son has the right to freedom, and every day he has to go to the building community to play for a while, and then hurry home, finish dinner, finish his homework, review the things he has memorized, and go out to play, and go home to sleep at ten o'clock in the evening. Although he was sleepy, his face was full of joy, and every time I smelled the fragrance he brought back from the pine forest at night in the office compound, I would ask him who he was playing with, and he always replied that he was playing with those big dolls of Li and Zhang. I made it clear to my son that there were two characteristics in those children. One needs to be learned, and the other is not needed by you. The first is that these children do not like to learn, and this characteristic cannot be learned; the second is that these children are very clever, righteous, and love to help others, and they have a lot of fun playing with them, and this characteristic needs to be learned.

After his son finished his homework, he had to run out at night in order to play. It's definitely not good for his learning and physical development, but it's a child's arrangement, and I can't deny it lightly. Because children have an innate gift for recognizing mistakes and identifying new actions.

In the blink of an eye, Friday was a big drink with colleagues in the evening. I was asleep on Saturday morning, and suddenly someone slapped me on the face and startled, "Oh! it turned out to be joy," and I fixed my mind and looked out the window, the sun was already very clear, and it was almost nine o'clock. I said, "Joy, I usually sleep lazily on my days off, what are you doing this early today?"

"Daddy, get up," my son said, lifting my quilt and taking my arm, "or those three pits of Suoyang will be dug up by someone else." ”

My son's words shocked me. This shows that once a person has a mind and a goal, all weaknesses will be overcome by themselves. My son doesn't sleep anymore, what else do I have to say? As soon as I got up, I realized that I drank too much wine yesterday, and I really couldn't get up. At this time, for the first time in my body, I truly realized what it means to say "the heart is more than enough but the strength is insufficient". I said:

"Joy, you wash your face and brush your teeth first. I'm up when you've washed up. ”

As soon as my son left, there was silence in my ears, and a sudden feeling of comfort rushed through my whole body, reaching my limbs. My hand reaching for my clothes was pulled back. "Why haven't you gotten up yet," my son rushed to me again after cleaning up, and his gasp went straight to my face, but he ran away again, and I closed my eyes and wondered. I was stuffy, and a string of cold water fell on my face, which was unbearable, and I sat up. The son stepped aside and smiled, as if he felt a great honor.

"Get up. Lao Tzu can't lose to his son. I said.

"Success, success, mother's method really works!" the son shouted happily.

My heart twitched. Oh my God, you have joined forces to fix me, and I am still in the dark about the truth of the matter. No one wants to sleep in. I pulled my wife out of bed.

"Wang Xile, you sold your mother as soon as you succeeded," the wife smiled and hugged the child.

When I got out of bed, I felt dizzy and nauseated, and I ate a few bites of breakfast and immediately threw it up. In the morning light, the son himself prepared the things needed to dig Suoyang, and his wife watched us go away with melancholy eyes. On the way, I met a few people who rode motorcycles to dig up Suoyang. "Dad, do you think they're going to poach our Suoyang?" asked the son uneasily.

"No, it won't. ”

"Why?"

"It's very difficult to find Suoyang when it doesn't grow. ”

"How can you find it?"

"It's the experience of the past," I said, "that everything in the world has its own characteristics, and as long as you taste its characteristics, the difficult things will be easy." ”

In April, the sun rises in the east and looks red, but the morning breeze is cool on the face. The spring rain a few days ago hazy the endless wilderness with a kind of vitality, and the moisture in the air made the face moist, and when I touched nothing, I felt that there was everything.

On the way, people on motorcycles to dig Suoyang passed by us from time to time. The son said worriedly: "Dad, let you ride a motorcycle, I don't know what you think! ”

"They didn't dig Suoyang, they dug Cistanche. ”

"How do you know?"

"Because Cistanche shows up in April, and Suoyang doesn't show up until May. ”

"What is Cistanche?"

"It's a kind of precious Chinese herb, it's very expensive, people call it desert ginseng. ”

"Let's dig Cistanche too. ”

"Cistanche is hard to find. Dad has only encountered a few seedlings in so many years. I said, "Let's go to Huxi next week and look for it." ”

"Good. The son replied.

I usually think it's easy to walk, but today's physical condition has changed, and everything feels like a breeze. I'm very slow. "Dad, why are you so slow?" said the son eagerly, "and the motorcycle rider is gone." ”

"Joy, can you lead Dad to dig Suoyang today?"

"I'm not going to look for it. ”

"It's not for you to find. I mean, you led me to the place where we dug up Suoyang last time?"

"Yes. Simple. ”

The sun was half high and hot, and from time to time there was life passing over the field. But my eyes were glazed and my energy was low, my eyes followed my son's back wheels, my legs were mechanically pedaling, and my brain seemed to sink into a kind of nothingness. In the past, I drank too much wine, and I was scolded by my wife, and I slept all day with a dead face, but I have never been like today. The erosion of alcohol on the human body is really terrible. I slapped my face a few times with my hand. "Dad, what are you doing?" asked the son.

"Dad is admitting his mistake. ”

"What did you do wrong?"

"Knowing that drinking alcohol is not good for people's health, they still drink so much, and it hurts that the physical strength of camping is so poor today. ”

"It's fine. You can get there even if you ride slower. A touching smile flashed across his son's face. I thought to myself, "My son is understanding." ”

After five kilometers of riding, I regained some strength, and I said, "Joy, Daddy is energetic, speed up." The son's calm face showed joy, but instead of speeding up, he leaned over and said:

"Dad, talk about Sui and Tang. ”

…… When I reached the eight-kilometer lower intersection, I deliberately continued to ride forward. "Dad, I got off the road from this intersection last time. My son hurriedly shouted to me. "Joy, you have great eyesight. "I happily complimented my son.

After getting off the junction, we came to the sand beam and put our bikes away, and we entered the desert. I was top-heavy, and my legs trembled from time to time as I walked on the sand beams. I asked, "Joy, did you bring water?"

"I brought a bag of chocolates for you to replenish my strength." ”

My son's words were like the fragrance of spring, blowing into my heart. The son does have filial piety. For a child with such thoughts, the study score should not be a reason to blame him. If you insist on doing this, you will lose a lot because of a small one.

As he walked, his son fixed his figure on the sand beam, "Dad, where was the place where Suoyang was dug last time?" he asked.

"What feels simple will change in practice!" I said, "Do you think the eight-kilometer lower junction is easy to find?"

"Yes. But once you enter the desert, you can't find anything. ”

"To find a place in the desert, you have to rely on a reference. ”

"What do you mean by a reference?"

"This is middle school physics knowledge to teach you the theory you don't understand, and you will understand it when you talk about it in practical things. Is there a few trees in front of the railway, that is the reference we are looking for, without this reference, it is not easy for Dad to find the place where he dug Suoyang last time. We should have gone to the left of the reference, but now we have gone to the right, in the opposite direction. ”

"I've searched left and right. I want to find the footprints from last time, and I can find the place by following the footprints, but why can't I find the footprints?" said the son, "I walked from this sand beam last time. ”

"Joy, you are too smart. I kissed my son's forehead, thinking that he still had such a specific idea in mind.

"Joy, your ideas are good but unrealistic. Footprints in the desert usually disappear in three or four days when there is no wind, which is a characteristic of the desert, and there was a light rain two days ago. ”

We adjusted the direction. After walking for a while, I got tired and sat down under a holly tree to rest. The son went under the tree to play. After a while, there was a bird's cry in front of the holly woods, and the son felt that he had seen this scene, so he climbed out from under the trees and said, "Dad, I remember that there is a sand road not far in front of the holly woods. ”

"Exactly. I said, "Joy, you have a great ability to change directions." ”

"Let's go. The son ran forward, but came back after a few steps, only to see him go under the holly tree and pick up the small plastic bags he had just eaten snacks one by one, stuff them into his trouser pocket, and say, "Don't pollute the environment." ”

I looked at my son's back, and I was convinced that there was nothing more than experience in the best education in the world.

The goal is clear, and the son becomes the leader. "Sand road, sand road. My son stood on the sand slope in front of me and shouted, "Daddy, Sand Road." ”。 We came to the desert where the vegetation was overgrown, and from here we could see the distant view of the sand road, all the way to the other side of the desert. "Lock the male head. The son said.

"Where did it come from?" I asked deliberately.

"This is the last time I pitched here. ”

"You have a good memory. You're sure to find the three pits that lock the sun. I said

The sons stood there, and everything was quiet and they could hear each other's heartbeats. Then he went to look for Suoyang, and after looking for a while, he found nothing. I told him to think about what else I could do. After a while, he said, "Dad, you led me to the place where Suoyang was dug last time, and it will be easy to find." ”

I led my son to the place where he had dug last time, and he looked around and didn't say a word. Suddenly, he ran towards the shining sun, "Daddy, come on, this stick was inserted last time, although the pile of sandbags is gone, but the mark is still there." As he spoke, the son leaned over and scraped the sand with his hands, and in a short time the lock was gouged out. Although my son's excited shouts kept faintly disappearing, they opened up a vast educational world for me.

The son found a second marker, but the third mark was not found with great difficulty. At this time, I have dug out the first two pits of Suoyang, and when I saw so many Suoyang, my son's heart was full of energy. I said, "Joy, this is not the way to find it, but we are going to use the method of reference." ”

"No trees here?"

"The reference is alive and changes with the place. I said, "Let's go, let's go up the sand slope." ”

In order to give my son a preliminary idea of what the desert was like, I went up the sand slope to the west with him. Because staying away from something not only makes people see the whole picture more clearly, but also gives people a unique vision of things.

There was silence on the sand beams. I pointed to the largest white thorn pier in the middle of the sand road and said, "We will divide this place into four sides: south, east, west, and northwest with the largest white thorn pier as the center. The first two pits are on the south side of the Great White Thorn, about fifteen meters away from it. The third pit we are looking for is to the southeast, fifty meters from the Great White Thorn. It took me a lot of effort to get my son to understand the relationship between things. He smiled and ran down the sand beam to find the marker he had inserted last time.

There are so many locks here. We dug up most of the bags. "It's time to go home," I said, carrying my bag.

"Dad, if you don't have good physical strength, I'll help you get a shovel. ”

Shovels are nothing for adults, but a challenge for first-graders. It was already very difficult for my son to carry it for about a few hundred meters. I said, "Joy, give the spade to Daddy, Daddy is much better." ”

"It's okay, I'll be able to hold on for a while. He said stubbornly.

After walking more than fifty meters, his face looked purple and red in the sunlight, but he didn't bite a word. I forcibly took the shovel. He said, "Joy, you know how to help adults at such a young age, and when you grow up, you will definitely be able to help your family and the country." ”

"Dad, you take the bag of food out of the lock pouch and let me carry it. ”

…… We each picked up what we had to carry, and we continued to move forward one after the other......

Carrying Suoyang to the intersection of alkali field, it was already past one o'clock at noon, and I was about to turn around, "Third brother, third brother, what are you doing?" Someone shouted to me on the cold drink beach on the side of the road. I looked at it and it turned out to be my aunt and brother.

"We went digging Suoyang. ”

"The bag is full of Suoyang?"

"Yes. ”

"So much digging!" he said in amazement, "early in the morning, five of us buddies went out to dig Suoyang, and we didn't dig a single seedling." ”

"You take some of my Suoyang and each of them back. As soon as I said this, the somber atmosphere on the cold drink beach next to me became lively. "This is my third brother," my aunt and brother introduced me to his buddies.

"Your Suoyang solves our urgent needs. They said, "Come, let's have a few drinks together." “。

"Third brother, why don't you ride a motorcycle when the road is so far?"

"The main thing is to train the children. I said, "The limbs are not diligent, the five meridians are stagnant, and the six pulses are difficult to pass, which is extremely detrimental to the child's future growth." ”

"Nowadays, everyone sends their children to study classes, and if they send them slowly, they are afraid that it will affect their children's future development. My brothers and their wives also went to study with their children. There are no more people like you who specialize in taking children out to play. ”

"I have my understanding of the growth of children. But children who study every day, don't dare to say it, and in the end, they will definitely have problems with their personality and be depressed for a lifetime. ”

……

"Dad, we finally dug up Suoyang, and gave so many people at once!" said the son on the road with a pout.

"Uncle sent you a drink, are you happy?"

"Happy. ”

"What will happen to those uncles who get the lock sun that they haven't dug up for a day?"

"I'm definitely very pleased. ”

"Yes. Their mood is the same as when you find Suoyang. If they go back empty-handed, what will happen to the children at home?"

"I'm not happy. ”

"Give us some Suoyang, and we'll turn one joy into many joys, right?"

"Yes. A smile bloomed on his son's face.

When he got home, his son ate something and went out to play, which was the wildness of his son's tentative attempt at freedom. In the evening, he called his family and said that it was Saturday anyway, so he simply didn't even go home, and he wanted to sleep with his brother at his aunt's house. I didn't come back until 11 o'clock on Sunday night. As soon as he entered the house, he hurried to do his homework.

"Wang Jianhua, your good son is going to school tomorrow, and he hasn't written his homework yet!" The nameless fire in my heart went straight up, and I suppressed my voice and said, "Why did you come back so late to do your homework?"

"This is my plan. ”

My son's words reminded me that freedom was on his side. I used all my strength to suppress the fire.

My son can still hold on for more than ten minutes before he writes his homework, but after eleven twenty, his head is like a chicken pecking rice and becomes expressionless, and he mutters from time to time. After a while, I crawled on the desk and fell asleep. "Done, go to bed. "I woke him up. He said he hadn't finished it and started writing again. After writing for a while, I fell asleep again, and I screamed again, writing intermittently until one o'clock in the night, and then he said that the homework was finished.

The next day, the son didn't want to get up. "Twenty minutes left, you want to sleep, I'll go and ask you for leave. I said angrily. I saw my son jump to the ground. "Look at the good son you have educated, how heroic you are, it's okay to sleep without taking off your clothes, and you don't even take off your shoes!"