At the end of April, the north was green, and my home was as happy as nature. The son's learning situation is also like a green seedling, rushing up against the spring sun. At the same time, on the days when my son plans to play games, children keep coming to play with him, as if he is very popular.

It was a Wednesday, my wife and I were cooking dinner, "Uncle, is Wang Xile at home?" I saw that it was my son's classmate Liu Lei, "here", as soon as my words came out, I saw my son rushing out of the back room, "Liu Lei come in", Liu Lei didn't have time to move before his son pulled him away, and said, "Go, go to the back room." ”

My wife looked at me and said, "I'm here to play with the computer again." I laughed and said, "You don't want your child to bring other children to our house to play?"

"It's not that I don't want to. I've always felt that games are appendages in the world, and it's full of things that are worthless to learn, and it's chaotic, but you take it as a normal thing. However, my son has been playing games for a long time, and he has made progress in learning, and I have nothing to say about this. I always wonder how good it would be if he could devote his time to studying. The last time you said that I was disciplining my children with selfish intentions, I also admit in my heart that it will be harmful to use that method to manage children, because from the current middle school students, we can clearly see that kind of bad things, but it is difficult to get rid of the psychology of seizing the time to let children learn. ”

It is very difficult to weaken a psychosocial habit, and it takes a long process of knowledge and reconstruction. However, your psychology towards your children has changed, haven't you been angry with your children these days? ”

"Look at your big grin all day, your heart is quite fine. During this time, not only did I never get angry with my son, but I often laughed with him, and I felt a joy that I had never felt before. ”

"This is the real life, and it is also the most brilliant education. ”

"How can this be called education?"

"Life is a wordless book, the greatest knowledge in the world, and its knowledge can teach people to be brave, careful, and united. When we say that learning will be limited to books, this is a problem with the brains of adults. Book learning should be only one-fifth of what you learn. ”

"Why?"

"Book knowledge is a summary of the past, lacking the dynamic wisdom to deal with the real world," I said, "goodbye uncle and aunt." Liu Lei's words interrupted me, only to see him and his son run out. I wondered why I left within a few minutes of my arrival.

After a while, "Uncle, is Wang Xile at home?" I saw that it was Qi Peng and said, "Wang Xile and Liu Lei just went out, do you see if there is anything around the corner of the house." ”

This week, on the days when Wang Xile was playing with the computer, there were more and more children going in and out. I was silent, and the room seemed to be enchanted by a spell, and no one said a word. "It's time to eat," broke the silence when my wife looked at me and said, "what a fool again." ”

"I think about my son's problem. ”

"What's the problem?"

"Why are there so many children looking for Wang Xile during this time, there must be a problem here. ”

"That is, weird. The wife shook her head and said, "I don't know." ”

At this time, I saw my son and Qi Peng coming in from outside. Qi Peng's greeting of "Hello uncle" was not finished, and he was dragged to the back room by his son. "I'm dead on playing games," the wife said, setting the food on the table, and as soon as it was done, the son and the others came out of the back room. "Goodbye, uncle," Qi Peng said and ran away.

The son began to eat with a smile on his face. I wondered even more. I couldn't help but say, "Joy, I found that you are playing strange games during this time, and your classmates are like running a circus." ”

"Dad, do you know what Liu Lei and Qi Peng are doing?" The son's voice was soft, and there was a kind of pride in his eyes, obviously there was something he was more proud of outside the game.

"I'm looking for you to play a game. ”

"Nope. It's to watch the game. ”

"That's not right! I want to believe you when you say that Liu Lei came to watch the game, but Qi Peng, kill me, I don't believe it either. Qi Peng's uncle runs an Internet café, the last time you played with him in it, did you forget about being caught by me?"

"I'll never forget that. However, Qi Peng had already been strictly controlled by his father, and he couldn't play at all. ”

"I see. What's the matter with your friends coming to our house these days and leaving?"

"Gurgle, cluck, cluck," the son laughed. There seems to be a magic in the laughter, which makes people want to know the mystery inside. After his son finished laughing, his tone was full of sunshine and said, "Dad, this semester, the classmates in our class are all talking about playing games, and they all say that they are very good, and I know that they are bragging, except for a little game, they have never played anything else." I asked them about some of the tricks in the game, and they couldn't answer any of them. They asked me how I knew, and I said I was playing around at home, and the whole class of boys said that I didn't believe me for bragging, and they were testing me for the past few days to see if what I was saying was true. ”

His son's words marked a stage of development in the relationship between him and his friends. Fortunately, I talked to him about it, otherwise there would have been some misunderstanding. Proving to his peers that he is the beginning of the child's self-reliance and the beginning of the period of resistance, from then on the son will no longer listen to his parents and teachers, he will use his own thinking framework to start choosing things in life, and guide himself according to his acceptable cognition. In the days to come, children will contradict their parents and do bad things, which are an important part of children's spiritual development, and they are also the first preparation period for children to form self-control in the future. I have to be mentally prepared as early as possible, what happens to my child, and I must be prepared to fight a tough and protracted battle with a tolerant attitude as always.

"What if the students come to explore, what if the test is over, what's the problem?" I said.

"It's a big problem! No one will dare to say that I'm bragging, and I'll be majestic in front of my classmates. ”

My heart came alive. It is clear that in the future, the son will use the power of example to let the friends around him fight for the right to play from the parents. The law of life tells me: the day of Wang Xile and his friends is not far off.