It's hot, and my son is playing harder. Although napping was part of his plan, it was difficult to do, and it didn't work much after a lot of talking. All the attempts in the first grade failed, and the second grade said many times but it didn't work. Now I have to find a way to let my son take a nap, otherwise his energy will be affected in the afternoon. I think that for a vigorous child like Wang Xile, we must grasp the things he cares about the most, and use a set of soft methods that are obedient to nature before accepting the concept of napping.

That day, before lunch was ready, I saw my son alone on the road next to his home, playing with relish. I walked over to watch, and my son was even more energetic. While he was having fun, his wife came over and shouted:

"It's time to eat. ”

I forcibly went home with my son in my arms. As soon as I entered the house, "Ouch, look at the making out of you!" While making a joke, the wife pinched her son's ear and said, "I don't wash my hands, and I want to run to the table again." ”

Eating, "Dad, after eating, will you see me jumping again?" I didn't expect my son to say this, my body couldn't help but tremble, I didn't want to go, but I said - okay. The son's eating speed immediately accelerated.

After eating, my wife wanted to take a nap with my son, but my son had to go out with me to dance the party. The wife rolled her eyes angrily and "scolded" us for being half a hanger.

Jumping square is a game I played very well when I was a child. I told my son that I could overcome him, but he did not show weakness at all and replied to me with the same words. Children are born with a strong desire to win. During the game, he rarely talked to me and focused on jumping squares. After about 20 minutes, we played two games and we were tied. I said, "Joy, are Daddy and you friends?"

"Dad is daddy, how can I be friends!? I can only be friends with my classmates. ”

"Do you know what the dictionary says about friends?"

"I don't know. ”

"A friend is someone who is friendly to each other. Are we friendly?"

"Friendly. ”

"Then we're friends. As for Dad, it's a title for blood relations. We are friends by blood. ”

"I see. ”

"Joy, would you like to help your friend in trouble?"

"Of course I do. ”

"Dad, this blood friend is tired of jumping the square and wants to ask you to go back and sleep for five minutes together, you will definitely agree, won't you?"

"This, this, this," the son said.

"I just said that I was willing to help my friends, but when it comes to reality, I can't do it. Talking doesn't count. I said.

"Just sleep. The son was extremely reluctant.

When I got home, my wife was already asleep. We went into my son's house, lay down on the bed, and I said, "Joy, do you remember what I said about the formation of those eggs on the basketball court in middle school?"

"Yes. ”

"Do you want to be a ball?"

"I don't want to. ”

"Then you have to get some sleep in the middle of the day. ”

"Why? I sleep long enough. ”

"If you don't take a nap, how can you have time?"

"I slept on Fridays and Saturdays long ago. I calculated. ”

"When it's hot, do you sweat a lot when you play?"

"Yes. ”

"Sweating is particularly physically exertional, and it can't be compensated for by sleeping lazily alone. If you don't sleep for a while at noon, it's not good for you to grow tall, and you need a reasonable rest to reach the ideal height of 1.83 meters, and you won't suffer anything in the future. ”

"That's right!"

"Joy, the days are long now, and you can sleep half an hour late at night, and take a nap at noon. I saw that my son was a little hesitant, and then said, "We will start with five minutes and work backwards little by little, and go to bed at ten o'clock in the evening, starting tonight." ”

"Dad, you don't have to sleep at noon on Saturdays and Sundays, do you?"

"Joy, your ability to catch on to the loopholes of adults shows that you are very good at thinking about problems. Okay, just do what you want. ”

The son stopped talking. The son got up and ran down the hallway and said, "Dad, it's been more than five minutes." ”

"It's hot today, and it's too short to go out to play now, so I'll lie down with my dad for a while, good friends love to help each other. I said.

My son was stunned and wanted to say something, but finally came back and lay down next to me. After a while, he fell asleep.

"Miracle, how can my son be willing to take a nap today!" When it was almost time to go to work, my wife woke up, and she came and said, "How did you put your son to sleep?"

"The child doesn't care. I used the methods of making friends, talking heart-to-heart, and reasoning to guide him to sleep by himself. "Back in the bedroom, I said to my wife.

"You really have a way to deal with children, if I would have been angry. ”

"Angry. Explain that you are not sincere with your child. ”

"Insincere! Take it out and compare it, who is not good for children in the heart. The wife said.

"Take it out! It is also selfish, not sincere. ”

"Why is it selfish?" my wife asked earnestly when I heard what I said.

"The sincere subconscious can change the course of things. A person with sincerity has a heart inside, and a firm virtue outside. A person with this quality is able to have an impact on the people around him, his words and actions come from the depths of his heart, he only cares about the rationality of things, so others will share his insights from the heart. You see, I never forced my son to do what I wanted, and the older he gets, the more willing he is to cooperate with me. As long as you can say the truth that he can accept, of course it is not a big truth, the big truth is a kind of deception, and behind that kind of big talk and empty talk is all hypocrisy and self-deception. Only the truth that comes from life will make people feel that your enthusiasm is with him and that it is pleasant to be with you, so the older my son is, the more willing he is to reason with me and act according to reason. ”

"It's really like eating without burning your teeth, and you are bragging about yourself in a different way, you seem to be really sincere. The wife said.

"Whether I'm sincere or not, it's always realistic that I'm getting farther and farther away from anger when it comes to my son's upbringing. Educating children to the point of being angry is a forcible occupation of the child's brain and heart, and as long as the child does not go along with the will of the adult, he will be angry. This kind of anger is actually a kind of evil, which is extremely detrimental to the growth of children, and in families who are often angry, children may become 'family bombs'. To be honest, being angry with a child is a mental illness. ”

"Hearing you say that, I really think it's selfish to be angry. I just think that as long as I am good to my children and love them, what I do is right. ”

"Many children are forced to rebel by letting this kind of love with mental illness lead them to rebellion. Educate your child that you have to be clear that a child is not a young child, he has the same complex needs for life as adults, and strictly speaking for the child's progress, he needs more for life than adults. ”

"Why?"

"Adults already have a relatively fixed view of hatred, and children have nothing, all of this must be practiced in order to grow effectively, and preaching has no substantive meaning. ”

"After you say this, I seem to understand the reason why I am prone to emotional confrontation with my children. The wife said, "It seems that the difficulty of educating children will continue to increase, although the material conditions will continue to increase, but now it is really light, and it is not enough, it is really annoying." Immediately afterwards, the wife said, "Hurry up, call the child, I'm going to be late for work." ”