That day, a group of our friends went to Huxi Spring to play, and when we got home, I said, "Joy, can you write down what you are happy about today and read it to your father in the evening?" ”

I've always done this for my son's essays. I think that now that Wang Xile's learning has improved a lot, he will definitely be more active.

"I don't write, I don't write. The son groaned in pain.

"Why don't you write it?"

"If you don't write, if you don't write, you don't write, and I don't write what I think I want to do anymore." His shouts smacked of madness.

Oh my God, what's going on! My mind went blank. My son squatted on the ground and cried out, and I thought that something must have hurt his feelings about writing a good essay, and I had better get him to show his attitude through conversation. In this way, the problem may be solved invisibly, and if you face the difficult problem too directly, it is easy to push yourself into a dilemma. I said:

"Winning or losing is a common thing. You're a man, you've got the courage to challenge difficulties, what's the big deal that can make you sad like this. ”

I spoke to my son and his mood improved. He rose from the ground and raised two large, watery eyes to stare at me. I was in high spirits, and my son had never taken the initiative to stand up in such a thing in the past. This strengthened my confidence in talking.

"Joy, you have improved a lot, today Dad saw you stand up from your unsatisfactory cry for the first time, I admire your courage, and what is the difficulty in your heart compared to this courage. Can you tell Dad about what is on your mind, and let's find a way to overcome it together. ”

"Dad, that's right," the son plucked up his courage several times, "and the teacher said that I didn't think I could be 'cow' when I published some articles, and he said that my writing was not my real level." My classmates also said that my essay was corrected well by my middle school teacher, not that I wrote it well. ”

My son finished his sentence with a desolate look that broke my heart. The awkward scene made me stay there, and I didn't know what to say for a while. Instinctively, I stepped forward and gently stroked the child's head with my hand. I said:

"Joy, you go to the back room to find some children's magazines, if the children's articles on it don't have a tutor, it's Daddy's fault for you to revise the article, if there is a tutor, it's your own fault. ”

The son wiped away his tears and went to the back room to look for magazines. It's an important time to affirm yourself. I'm also kind of ridiculous, and subconsciously said the trick of finding magazines. After a while, the son came out of the back room with more than a dozen magazines. I took it and put it on the desk, and said, "Joy, look carefully and see if Daddy is wrong or you are wrong." ”

I explained it bluntly, and then I opened the magazines one by one and said, "Is there a tutor for this one?"

"Yes. ”

"What about this one?"

"Yes. ”

We read 20 or 30 essays in a row and had tutors, which made my son's pain much less. I then turned on the stereo and let him listen to a Mongolian song "Father", which had a lyric to the effect that my father lifted me on horseback, and the horseback became the cradle of my growth. After listening to the song, I said, "Joy, is this a song of the Han people or a song of the Mongols?"

"The song of the Mongols. ”

"Who is the best among the Mongols?"

"Genghis Khan. ”

"Tell me the story of Genghis Khan. ”

The son finished telling the story. I said, "Genghis Khan's father also quickly helped him on horseback, taught him many things, and fulfilled his great ambition in life. Can you say that Genghis Khan is not a hero, and has the ability to climb on horseback and do it himself, without relying on the help of others?"

"Not true. ”

"Why?"

"Everyone needs help. None of us can do anything while we play. ”

"Yes. There is no one in the world who can do it alone, but why can't you do it when it comes to your essay, so difficult that you don't need a tutor?"

"But the teacher said that my composition was not my real level, and I would write it myself if I had the ability. ”

"Whose idea is in your composition?"

"My own. ”

"I often tell you that the limitations of teachers' knowledge are becoming more and more at the moment, because there are many things that are quickly eliminated in social development. On the other hand, if you are depressed when you see someone saying that you have a problem, you will become a lifeless child within three years, and you will be useless. You should help the teacher to get to know you better. ”

"What skills do I have to help the teacher?"

"Dad doesn't know either, but your insights into playing games are much more advanced than Dad's, and I think there should be something to help the teacher. ”

"Dad, I see. ”

My son recovered emotionally, and he finished his essay and ran out to play, while my mind was in a mess.

For more than three years, I have focused on supporting my son to have confidence in himself with the things of life, which requires great courage, and the words of some teachers have made the child feel bad about it, and I feel a cruelty that has never been like this in my heart.

In the evening, the son returned. I said, "Joy, if you feel sad in this school, then Dad will change you to another school." ”

"No, no, I'm not going to change schools. The son said in horror.

"You don't change schools, but your essay with the most potential for development has been rejected by others, which is very detrimental to your progress. ”

"Nope. I will never transfer schools. ”

"Why?"

"I can't bear my good friends. ”

"You can make friends at other schools. ”

"But we can't make that kind of feeling! ”

"Dad gave you three days to consider the idea of transferring to another school, and in the end you decide what to do. ”

I was so distraught that I didn't want to do anything. I made a phone call to a friend who had been hired to Dacheng City. A friend said: "Before I arrived in the big city, I was very satisfied with the school's facilities and philosophy, but after two years, I was full of disappointment. Nowadays, children in big cities are no better than children in other places. The advanced concept of running a school in a prestigious school is nothing more than a play on words. The principal often said that 'we are a model school, and we must use the college entrance examination to prove to the society the level of our bright school, and the ferocity of its score is unimaginable to me before.' In the face of the scores, the teachers are about to become neurotic, although the income is higher, but a large number of make-up classes make the heart empty, making people feel that they are a donkey grinding for the principal!"

I hung up the phone with my friends, looked up at the sky, and knew in my heart that under the same educational and cultural background, the situation of schools across the country is the same. Whether it is a prestigious school or a school in a remote agricultural and pastoral area, everyone lives in an inspirational story of being admitted to Tsinghua University. So transferring a child to a school is an escape, and the escape will not solve anything. In the face of society, the power of the individual is insignificant, just like the cistanche under the pit in the west of the lake, no one knows. In the face of life, the strength of the individual is strong, just like the cistanche in the underground pit in Huxi, as long as it manages its own small environment, it will bear fruitful fruits. I will continue to cheer for my children so that they can actively integrate into their lives from reality, so as to open up a path to their ideals.