It's been almost a week since the start of the new semester. On Friday morning, I went to the elementary school for some business and went to Mr. Liu's by the way. To put it bluntly, the SARS holiday lasted for three months, and Mr. Liu was a little anxious when he first started working. I said, "Teacher Liu, I would like to ask the third grade children what they should pay attention to?"

"You're a middle school teacher who knows more than I do. ”

"Everywhere, middle school is full of big kids. ”

"Well, okay!" said Ms. Liu, "The third grade is a turning point in the difficulty of the child's curriculum, and it is also a turning point in the progress and retreat. Parents must hold on to their children. ”

"Third grade is so critical!" I said.

"Yes. This is my experience of more than twenty years. "Teacher Liu's words have the flavor of an expert, which makes me understand the reason for her anxiety.

After talking, after thinking about my son's learning strategy, I still made small changes in the original way, because it is dangerous for a person to easily leave his familiar environment.

After school at noon, I went to find my son to go home. As soon as I entered the elementary school gate, I saw him coming out of the small store with two bags of snacks. I was surprised. Since the incident at my son's first-grade Internet café, I have felt that he has not yet been able to manage his own money, so I have not let him manage his money anymore. In the second grade, he often asked adults to buy things, which I thought was very bad, so I stipulated that except in special circumstances, all purchases should be done on rest days, and at the same time I gave reasons. On the days of school, he can't have any money on him!

"Wang Xile," I shouted. When the eyes met, my son was surprised for a moment, and he immediately adjusted, hurriedly walked towards me, and said, "Dad, where is my mother?"

"Your mother has something to do, so she left early. ”

"Hurry back, grandma is still waiting for us to eat." The son said with one side of his face, as if staring at the way home.

On the way, the strangeness in my son's eyes never left my heart. Mistakes made by other people's children will definitely happen to their own children. I wanted to ask something, but I didn't know where to say it. When he threw the small grocery bag into the trash can, I said with a smile: "Wang Xile, your behavior is very good, I want to know where you got the money to buy things?"

"It was the remaining two yuan from buying 'King Kong' yesterday, and my mother said to give it to me. ”

I won't say anything, I know very well why he bought 'Transformers'.

After returning home and having dinner, Wang Xile went to bed for a lunch break after reciting ancient poems. I went to the bedroom and said to my wife, "That's weird!"

"What's the blame?" asked the wife.

"I saw Wang Xile shopping in elementary school. I felt that he had the smell of being a thief, and something ominous was piercing my heart. I wash things in the washroom and sometimes put change on the table, have you cleaned up?"

"Speaking of money, I also want to ask, have you ever taken money in the coin pocket on the outside of my bag?"

"Nope. ”

"It's broken. I thought you took the money. In the past three months, I have lost money in my bag. ”

"This money must have been stolen by Wang Xile. I said.

"Didn't you say that your son has good qualities?" said the wife.

"I mean, he's got some good qualities that are in the process of being formed. I said.

"We have to put our change everywhere, we have to pack up the money, and don't let the child have the problem of stealing money. The wife said.

"Don't be like this, the family is still like that. I said.

"Do you have something wrong with your head? You don't care if your child steals money, you still have to create conditions for him!?" said the wife.

"I ask you about bank deposit insurance, or home insurance?" I said.

"Isn't this a cold man? What do I do?" said his wife.

"You're an accountant, and I don't mean anything cold, I'll let you answer this question. I said.

"Bancassurance. It's a question that no fool would ask. The wife said angrily.

"Then how can the bank be robbed?" I said.

"We talk about children stealing money, how can we get involved in robbing the bank?" said the wife.

"Now the children are stealing the family's bank, and when they are older, they will rob the country's bank. I said.

"You're right, old man. Then hurry up and don't let him steal!" said his wife.

"You know that there is a problem, now the most important thing is not to solve the problem of the son stealing money, but to solve the problem of why he wants to steal money, we can clean up all the money in the family in a few minutes, but it has not eliminated the son's heart to steal money! As the saying goes, it is difficult to prevent thieves in the house, if we always prevent the child from stealing money, it is to force him to be a thief everywhere, where the money is put in the original place, as long as this problem is regarded as the most important thing at the moment. I said

"Neuropathy. The wife said, "But your foolish methods always work, and I want to believe you again." ”

"During this time, my son will definitely steal money, you don't think it's such a thing, just tell me about the situation, please. With a harmonious family environment and appropriate guidance strategies, it is not difficult to solve the problem of children stealing money. I said.

"Husband, if someone else's child steals money, and the adults are so anxious that they beat and scold the money, but you let him continue to steal, you can tell me anything, can you talk about it? I can't think of this reason?"

"On the flip side, the child stealing money is an improvement, indicating that he has developed a great desire in his heart. And desire will make the child learn to use his brain and think about how to realize that desire, which is a normal thing in the child's growth, and it is not that he has become a vice. At this time, the son is going through a chaos, he needs help, he needs psychological intervention, and when the chaos is over, something new will be produced, which is the way of heaven. In China, the average family is very strict with the behavior of children stealing money, and there is a lot of new and new faces, and the past is a one-size-fits-all frame, but the result is that there are more times when it is futile and useless. You've been working in secondary school for so many years, so I think you've seen a lot of money-related things like stealing money and collecting protection money, right?"

"Yes. ”

"For our son's theft of money, we must not scold him, prevent and nag him, we need to think about it and find an appropriate way to let him understand money, establish a good view of money, and the problem of stealing money will be solved. ”

"Husband, I don't understand what you're saying! Can you make it more plain? ”

"I mean: you take care of the money, in fact, it is the adults who use force to isolate the child from the past life, and invisibly fix the child in the position of the thief, and his normal state of mind will be separated from the family, which is to deal with the problem of the child's growth as a criminal problem. ”

On the way to work at noon, I whispered: "Wang Xile, come to my father after school in the afternoon, I have something to tell you." ”

After school in the afternoon, my son came into my office and said, "Dad, you went to work at noon and said that you had something to do with me after school in the afternoon, what's the matter?"

"It's a big deal. I said solemnly.

"What?"

"Our family has lost money!" my son's face turned unnatural as soon as I said this. I paused and continued, "Joy, you're not going to take it, are you?"

The caring questioning made the son regain his composure. The evil force in his body quickly gave him courage, as if it was dishonorable to admit his mistakes.

"Dad, I didn't take it, how could I take it!" he clenched his fists and swung up and down his waist, confessing to himself, as if the loss of money had nothing to do with him.

"You won't take it, Dad understands you," I said, staring at my son, "but our family's money is indeed less, some of the ancient texts you have memorized are based on people and things, you learn to observe that person is credible, that person is not credible, I hope you can put an end to the loss of money at home as soon as possible." ”

"I will," said the son.

The son tried his best to hide his pride, after all, this important event passed so easily.

There is no one in the world who can live without the environment, and the same is true for children, in this era of advocating money, in the face of the temptation of money, the son's young heart is also confused.

On Saturday, at about five o'clock in the afternoon, my son and a few classmates were about to go out after playing games, and I walked to the living room decoration box to see that the one yuan I had deliberately put was gone. I looked around to make sure the money didn't fall to the ground, and then my son turned around and said, "Dad, I'm going to play in the building with my classmates, and we'll have dinner at my aunt's house." With that, he pushed the cart out.

"You come back," I said.

"Is there something?" the son asked.

"Joy, our family has lost money again!"

I yelled at my son for playing games with the kids, they were so uninteresting that they took the money after playing. After finishing speaking, I stood by the bookshelf and took out "Portraits" and said that the knowledge in this book should not be read in vain. I saw that my son was even more flustered, so I patted him on the shoulder and said:

"Books can't be read in vain, let alone read into the dog's belly, go, play!"

The son is a little lost, especially in front of children. I stared at him, got in the car, and set off. It was time for him to leave the house for a while, and the longer that dollar remained with him, the greater the evil power would be.