The child's third grade has changed so much. From the second week of school, he would often watch the adults play chess on the side of the road between the primary and secondary schools after school.

After school at noon that day, we went home and passed by the elementary school, and my wife called Wang Xile out from the chess beach. "The heart is dead," said his wife, "and what you are not allowed to do, you will do with all your heart, and what you are being asked to do, you can push and hide, and hurry home for dinner, and your grandparents are still waiting." ”

We were a family of three, two bikes, and walked smoothly forward.

"Old man, yesterday Teacher Liu told me that as long as you grasp it well, Wang Xile is fully capable of becoming the first in the class. The wife said.

"Look!" I said.

"Dad, do you know what I'm thinking?" the son asked suddenly.

"I want to play. ”

"Not true. I'm thinking about the teacher. ”

"What do you want to be a teacher, what do you want to be a teacher?" I said in amazement.

"Teachers aren't always good. ”

"Where did you hear that?"

"I didn't hear it, I saw it with my own eyes. ”

"What did you see, where did you see it?"

"On the chess beach. ”

"What do you see?"

"I saw my middle school teacher swearing. ”

What my son said must be true, but how can I explain it for him?

"Joy, it's normal for individual teachers to swear. ”

"How can a teacher swear?"

"You watch TV a lot, are there traitors in TV dramas?"

"Yes. ”

"By the way, the teacher also has traitors. Should the little doll steal?"

"No, it shouldn't. ”

"Some little dolls steal. A little doll who steals something is a traitor. Among the children who came to our house with you to play were traitors who stole our money. The son's face turned unnatural, "You have to find out who is a traitor among your children," I said, "what do you think of swearing at the teacher now?"

"It's normal to have traitors among teachers. ”

"Yes. In the world, knowledge is one thing, morality is another. People with a lot of knowledge sometimes not only have bad morals, but also steal things, turning themselves into bad people. ”

After my son listened to my words, Cui led his mother to pedal the car quickly and walked ahead alone. I wondered for myself, how did the teacher swear things get involved in stealing......

In the third week of school, this week was also a happy week for my son, because this week he received three manuscript bills of 30 yuan, 20 yuan, and 5 yuan, which made him very happy. He told me that even the teachers said he was too good.

"No, some teachers have never fought for a manuscript fee in their lives. You have such a big success at such a young age, and Dad thinks you are really good. "I praised the child for days.

Every time he came to the manuscript fee, he would buy delicious food, half of it with his friends, and half of it would be given to the teacher. The diary, which earned 30 yuan for manuscript fees, was adopted by both the lower and upper editions of the magazine "Phonics and Reading", and this article basically represents the overall style of his son's composition. It reads:

Once when I came home from school, Liu Lei and I were walking on the road and saw the manhole cover on the side of the road somehow opened. I thought: somebody will fall and get hurt. So we both pulled the manhole cover together. When the two of us were standing on the manhole cover and were proud, we only heard the sound of "bang" under the manhole cover, which scared Liu Lei to sit down all of a sudden. We hurriedly used our strength to pull the manhole cover open again, only to see an uncle emerge from it. We quickly explained, "I'm sorry. Just now I was afraid that someone would accidentally fall down, please forgive me. The uncle said, "What you have done is a good deed, and you are a good Young Pioneer who thinks about others." However, it is better to observe before doing anything in the future, so that it will be better. We both blushed, grinned, and ran forward.

Through this incident, I understood: just because it is a good deed, you can't ignore it. Learn to observe and think, otherwise, sometimes good things can turn into bad things.

The third grade is the beginning of the throbbing of life, and everything about the child becomes drifting. At the beginning of the school year, I found that my son stole money, and I didn't know how to solve it, and I received the manuscript bill one after another in the third week, and I flew into the sky with joy, and then on Monday of the fourth week, he came to the middle school after school at noon and said:

"Dad, I got into a fight in gym class today. "My son seems to have fought some kind of battle, and he is very energetic.

My heart trembled. Fighting is the only way for children to progress, and now it develops into fighting, if there is no correct analysis of good and evil, normal values, fighting is likely to lead people to hell.

"Why did you fight, and with whom?" I said, standing up from my desk, with a serious expression.

Children are born with a strong sense of perception. My son knew right away that I was serious about the matter, and I didn't mean to joke at all. He said solemnly: "I fought with He Peng." I have a point. In physical education class and football, I was the forward of our team, and He Peng was the back of that team. I took the ball to the goal, and He Peng kicked me in the chest without kicking the ball. The physical education teacher also said that I was reasonable, and in the end, all of our classmates went to Teacher Liu to testify to me that He Peng was not good at playing football and kicked me. Teacher Liu criticized He Peng. Daddy, I'm right in this fight, you always say to me, 'If anyone doesn't offend me, I won't offend, but if anyone offends me, I will offend.' The more the son spoke, the more energetic he became, and he danced with his hands.

"That's right. I angrily reprimanded, "You are a scoundrel and a bully, and you are taking advantage of your body and many friends to bully your classmates." ”。

I know that at this time, my son had a misunderstanding. I then gave him some big things. My son stood across from me. From the look in his eyes, I felt that my son's brain was empty.

"You father and son are going to be on duty at the school!" my wife came into my office and urged us to go home.

The sun's rays streamed in through the door that his wife had pushed open, reflecting a soft glow from the ground. This synergy seems to have given his son great courage, and time and space have returned to him. He glanced at his mother and said, "The teacher said that I was right, and the whole class testified to me that He Peng kicked me, and I was right." ”

"Why are you messing with your son again?" said the wife, puzzled.

"Wang Xile, I have explained the reason to you, that is, you are wrong. I looked at the tears on my son's face, his legs seemed to be shaking with anger, and I said, "You think about it and go to apologize to He Peng in the afternoon." ”

"Let me apologize to He Peng! He did something wrong, he should apologize to me! I am right, I will not apologize to him. The son walked out indignantly.

"Joy, don't be angry, what's wrong?" said his wife, who chased him out and put her arm around him, "tell my mother what's going on, and let me judge you." ”

My son has had a good ability to speak since he was a child. This is the strongest side of his life that God has given him. The ability to speak was the focus of his education. After a while, the son persuaded his wife with his lip service, "Wang Jianhua, things are very simple, and I understand that my son is indeed right." What would it be like if a child was deceived and didn't even dare to return it? Don't you always pay special attention to cultivating your son's bravery? What is going on?" said the wife, puzzled.

"You don't understand, the more you talk about it, the farther away it is from the actual situation. I looked at my son next to me and smiled awkwardly and said, "This is a challenge by Wang Xile to his father, let me think about how Wang Xile was wrong." ”

"No matter what you think, I'm not wrong, the whole class has testified to me!" The son's tone was very different from before after receiving his mother's support.

The sun happily watched jokes in the sky. I was silent, thinking about it and realizing that what I had just said to the child had no effect at all. When my son saw that I was wilting, he laughed triumphantly at his mother, and said to me angrily, "Daddy, ride quickly." Criticizing people is so energetic, why is it boring to ride a bike. ”

This matter is difficult to do, and the son believes that this fight is an act of justice. On the way, my brain was running at high speed, that is, there was no excitement, no irritability, and when I got home, a clear train of thought came out. During my lunch break, I said:

"Joy, Dad will tell you a story about the red and black gourd babies who outwitted the 'Peace Star'. ”

"Speak quickly. The son said excitedly. Because of Huluwa and Peace Star, they are both people and things in popular cartoons.

I preached, "One day the sun suddenly disappeared. People are so anxious that they don't know what to do when they see the crops in the fields dying. Only the Peace Star in the mountains can save the sun. But who goes? The brothers of the red gourd baby in the yang world said that it is the responsibility of the red gourd baby to fill the earth with sunshine, and they want to go to the mountains to find the peace star to recall the sun. ”

This incident made the black gourd baby brothers in the netherworld hear it. They understand that they must not let the red gourd baby find the Peace Star, otherwise they will not have a good life. They also went deep into the mountains.

Seven days and forty-nine days, the red gourd baby and the black gourd baby led the little brothers, and at the same time found the Peace Star at the top of the deep mountain, but there was only a single-plank bridge leading to the Peace Star. The black gourd baby said: "Red gourd baby, we are inseparable, and today we will have a duel to decide whether the world is light or dark." The place here is small, and we stipulate that the little gourd baby can only be an audience, and is not allowed to meddle in our affairs, and whoever interferes will lose. ’

'Okay. Red Gourd said.

The eldest brother of the red and black gourd baby fought in front of the single tree.

'Danger. The little red gourd baby saw that the eldest brother was forced to the edge of the cliff, and the situation was extremely critical, at this time the little red gourd baby ran out, and the little black gourd baby shouted loudly:

"Foul, foul, lazy, lazy! we won, we won!"

The little red gourd baby didn't care about this, and regardless of the danger, she ran across the single-plank bridge one by one, picked off the peace star and threw it into the air, the sun came out, and the energy of the black gourd baby disappeared suddenly. Joy, did you say that the little red gourd baby's actions were right?"

"Yes. ”

"Why is it right? The little red gourd baby has fouled!"

"If he doesn't foul, the earth is not saved. ”

"It shows that sometimes fouls are not wrong. Isn't that right?"

"Yes. ”

"Last week, we watched the German football league, and the number five centre-back was sent off with a red card, and not only did his father applaud him, but tens of thousands of spectators applauded him like a hero, why is that?"

"The time for the game was approaching, and he took the initiative to sacrifice himself at a critical moment to save the victory of the whole team. You told me that. ”

"You're talking about foul five, right?"

"Yes. ”

"What do you play football for?"

"To win.

"You're a striker, what are your main responsibilities?"

"Shoot the ball into the opponent's goal. ”

"What about the opposing defenders?"

"Find a way to keep the striker from shooting the ball in. ”

"Did you say He Peng was wrong?"

"That's right. But he can't kick people! We play football, not people!"

"Yes. Let's just say that He Peng didn't play football and kick people, at most it is a serious foul like No. 5, and he is doing his duty. Are you right?" my son stopped talking, and I continued, "If you take the ball and He Peng dodges when he sees difficulties, do you say He Peng is right?"

"Not true. If the defenders are like that, the team will cross, and what kind of game will it be?"

"He Peng defended with all his might, and there was a mistake in his movements, and he kicked you, was he a foul, or was he wrong?"

"It's a foul. There's nothing wrong with that. ”

"When you beat He Peng, did you think you were quite a hero?"

"Dad, how do you know?"

That's why people read. What do you say about heroes in the ancient books you memorize?"

"The essence of the grass is the hero, and the special group of the beast is the male. Therefore, the people's civil and military affairs are different, and they are named here, so they are smart and show their English, and their courage is called heroic, and this is also a general alias. If the score is corrected, then each of them shall be divided into two points, and one point shall be given to the other, and then it shall be completed. "The son memorized a paragraph.

"If you memorize text passages and knowledge symbols, what does it mean?"

"Meaning: Although the word 'hero' is combined into one, but the two words are different, as a component of human quality, 'Ying' focuses on people's wisdom and strategy, while 'Xiong' focuses on people's courage and courage. Both British and male timber are 'partial timber'. Ying and Xiong are interrelated, and the combination of the two can make a career happen. Only 'Ying' and no 'Xiong', there is no good plan, but there is no courage to make it a reality, lack of wisdom, courage is the head, at most a brave man. Moreover, the composition of the two, 'Ying' should be more than 'Xiong', Liu Bang and Ding Yu are also heroes, but the endings are very different, which can be seen!" This is how it is explained in ancient books.

"In practice, we should experience the artistic conception of the things in the book and guide our lives. Think about what a real hero is! Think about whether it is right or wrong to fight with He Peng?"

"I was wrong. The son said.

"You're right. I said.

"How can it be right!" said the son, puzzled.

"You don't have the ability to know what kind of fight is wrong, so you're right. If you have an argument with your classmates in the competition next time, and use violence to solve the problem, it will be wrong, go and apologize to He Peng in the afternoon, maybe you two are not good friends, but you are classmates!"

"He Peng is not in good health, I was too cruel to him. I must apologize to him in the afternoon. ”

After school in the afternoon, I asked my son if he apologized to He Peng, he said no, I asked him why, he said he was embarrassed, he wanted to open his mouth several times, but the words stopped when he came to his mouth, I said whether I need to compensate him to go with him, and my son refused me. In this way, it was not until the fourth day of the incident that my son finally made an apology and improved his bravery.