Fourth grade life began. In the first few days of school, Wang Xile took the initiative to learn. On that day, I opened his composition and saw that the first essay was written in the new semester plan that I would surpass Bai Yufei to become the new king of learning in the new semester. I said:

"Joy, I don't go to school to learn more than others, I don't know how many times I've said that. If you study with an attitude that surpasses others, after a long time, there will be conflicts between classmates and classmates, teachers and teachers for rankings, mutual jealousy, and the contradictions caused by the competition for fame and fortune are irreconcilable.

If anyone has the idea of learning in order to be superior to others, all learning activities are automatically isolated from social life. One day, once your test score drops, you will feel anxious and want to outperform others. If people do not surpass others through temporary efforts, their confidence in learning will be greatly reduced, and they will have the idea of following the crowd, and sometimes they will even give up studying.

The reason why Dad said that is because I have seen this kind of thing too much. So, whoever has associated learning with 'surpassing others' since childhood has injected failure into himself from the very beginning, unless you are a special person with a special intellect. Even if you have special talents and you can get extremely high grades, you may not succeed in life. At present, all parts of the country vigorously report and reward the top students in the college entrance examination every year, and it is obvious that there is a rather bad motive in this kind of thing, because the whole country has never heard that the thing that moved China was done by the top student in the college entrance examination, and our propaganda has gone in the wrong direction.

Learning behavior is a human instinct, which everyone is born with, but this instinct is strong for some people and weak for others, except for about 5% of people with special talents, 95% of people do not need to study so hard. However, even learning cannot reach that level, so going to school is mainly through a balanced educational activity, so that people's instinct to survive is strengthened, if the education method is unbalanced, people's learning instinct to survive will automatically disappear. Joy, you are very energetic to study now, but I will tell you clearly: Dad doesn't want you to study in order to maintain your class ranking, I only hope that you can pay attention to the lectures in class, and after school, you can strictly implement your plan, and do whatever you want to do after completing the plan. ”

"It's okay to play games. Wang Xile's eyebrows were raised, his suitable black hair was like a smooth wheat field, his eyes did not blink at all, and his expression told me that what he was thinking about was not at all on the same channel as the point of view I wanted to educate.

On the Friday afternoon of the first week of school, Wang Xile showed me a 20 yuan manuscript fee slip, which was the result of his essay "Growing Wisdom from Garlic Sprouts" published in Wisdom Spring. Wang Xile said with a smile: "I didn't expect that the simple recording process of planting garlic seedlings for 32 days could be published! It seems that everything in the world can create wealth." ”

"It seems that everything in the world can create wealth," I was happy with Wang Xile's words. In the past, the child was taught that "fractions are everything", and through the publication of this article, he no longer believes in fractions.

People, once they understand their limitations, will make better use of their abilities. This is the law of nature. When a person with self-control understands that learning is an integral part of life and has a specific role, life will teach him how to create his own life with a solid, moderate and alert attitude. If the child lives in such an atmosphere, he will only face up to learning without complaining about learning, so as to develop his habit of moderation, clean up unnecessary actions, and move in moderation towards the happiness, freedom and success that will inevitably come in the future. Once the child understands his own limitations, he will inevitably develop into a person with self-correction ability, which is the foundation of guiding the child to integrate into the real life of society, so that the child can actively maintain a good relationship with the people around him. This phenomenon is everywhere in the natural world, and I believe that Wang Xile's way of life in harmony with nature will naturally become a person with the ability to correct himself in the future.