The first two weeks of school passed quickly. During this time, Wang Xile participated in sports training in middle school after school, and he felt that he had a taste for persistence.

On Friday night, no children came to my house to play games, and at 10 o'clock, Wang Xile turned off the computer and came to the living room, took the initiative to sit with me and talk about playing basketball, which was his first time. I said, "Joy, you've made a lot of progress in basketball. ”

"Of course. Wang Xile said proudly, "In the past, when you passed the ball to me, I never dared to throw, but now I dare to throw, and sometimes I can throw the ball in." ”

'It's an improvement to score goals, but it's a simple improvement. Scoring goals is the responsibility of the players, not the improvement that Dad said. ”

"And what kind of progress are you talking about?"

"Joy, what happens if you make a mistake in basketball before?"

"I would shout 'oops' in regret and look down and blame myself. This kind of thing you often talk about me in the game, and you still follow my example, and make everyone ridiculous. ”

"Has this happened in the past two weeks?"

"No more. ”

"Why?"

Now whenever I lose a basketball, I immediately think about defense. ”

"Joy, the progress that Dad is talking about is the progress from the time between offense and defense to 'zero'. Dad has played games for more than 20 years, even if the young players of our Chinese national team are now getting worse and worse in their awareness of switching from offense to defense, and when there is a foul on the field, they always have to look at the referee instead of doing the next action. This is a particularly bad habit for the game, and this habit that has been developed consciously and unconsciously since childhood is difficult to change for life. ”

"Why?"

"Because it's a neurofunctional habit, it's a fixed thing that is created in childhood. ”

Sports life has changed Wang Xile's personality. There, from time to time, he would be taught to "take what is in front of you seriously and summarize the techniques for success", of which Wang Xile's diary is the most illustrative:

Today, Dad went upstairs after the training assignment. The big brothers were all training seriously, and when I saw that there was no one to supervise, I couldn't bear to start the practice content randomly, and it only took a while to play football.

The soccer ball was a little bit off the wall, but the ball I kicked was weak. Dad came down from the upper floor and saw it, and he said sternly: "If you don't do things seriously, you won't be able to do anything in the future, and you will play 400 more times." "I thought: usually I damage things and lose money, Dad never gets angry, isn't this time just a broken ball, he just said it, I didn't expect Dad to stand there all the time and count the last one.

After the game, I hurried to think about the big brothers' game, but their excitement was over. Not only did I not play with them, but I also packed up my equipment together.

Looking at the big brothers happily discussing the winners and losers of the game, I complained about my father. In the end, I began to complain about myself, if I could be more serious and do what I could do well from the beginning, I would not be able to play the game, and then I realized that it was completely my fault today.

At this time at the beginning of the fourth grade, Wang Xile began to dare to say such things again about winning and losing, and it seemed that there was a kind of winning or losing things that were not always as energetic.

After we finished chatting about basketball, Wang Xile watched the TV series for a while, and he went to sleep in the bedroom when it was time to go to bed. But after a few minutes he came back and said, "Dad, I won't play games on Saturdays anymore." ”

I was taken aback. I don't think anyone doesn't let him play games, it's just that from the all-weather at the beginning, it has only dropped to three stars per issue now. A month ago, he was still playing with his classmates from time to time, and he had returned to an all-weather combat structure, so why did he suddenly propose that he would stop playing games on Saturdays?

I settled down and looked at Wang Xile's face, which was naturally ruddy, not like I had encountered something unpleasant. "Joy, why do you suddenly want to play games so much? Can you tell Dad what you really think?"

Wang Xile pondered for a while and said: "Actually, during the holidays, I felt that the game was not as fun as before, that is, I thought it was quite fun to catch up with my classmates." School started, all the students went to the intensive class, I played alone, more and more boring, especially on Saturday, I don't know what's wrong, I feel particularly boring to play, instead of playing a small game at home, it is better to go out camping or go to another place to play, so I decided not to play games on Saturday without a good game. ”

The child's heart is transparent and selfless, and everything in his life is a need for growth. And this kind of need to go through the reasonable guidance of life, so that the child can enter the track of progress.

I happily went up and hugged my son, kissed him on the forehead, and said, "Rejoice, you can do it." ”

Wang Xile went back to the bedroom.

I sat on the couch and for a while thought my son's behavior was a hallucination. For three years, I taught him everything he could play in order to get him out of his obsession with games, and I introduced sports into my son's life to boost his confidence in himself during the most difficult period of his studies. After three years of melee, although joy and pain coexist, because there is no excessive coercion, there is no confrontation, and as the years go by, the progress of the child begins to have a direction.