Strange to say, after the game entered the child's life, although the way of adult supervision has changed and is not so tight, but the regular homework has become more visible. In this way, we decided to take advantage of the "Golden Week" to go back to my wife's hometown. Since it was school time as soon as I got back, I asked my son to make a homework plan. It was a trip that was memorable from start to finish, and I think what happened on this trip can only happen to someone like me who treats children, and it's hard to talk about other people's families.

The next day, when the sun pressed over the morning glow, and the sunlight shone through the gaps in the vines and vines in the yard and shone on the window to refract the beautiful aura of Daodao, his wife pointed down with a snow-white slender hand, "Wang Jianhua, after so many years, today's strong labor has finally come in handy, saving you from having nowhere to lead your son to run around all day and night, and carry the two big bags on the ground." "My wife said it was light, but I had a hard time mentioning it, but fortunately the bus stop was less than ten minutes away from home.

Those who love each other are happy when they walk there. Wang Xile carried his small schoolbag on his back, and after a while, he helped me unfortunately, and he couldn't persuade me.

When I arrived at the bus station, my son came to the car and greeted me through the window. When I put my luggage and got on the train, the noise of the station left me. As the buildings, lanes, and fields moved backwards, it didn't take long for the muffled sound of the car to become a lullaby, and the son's eyelids fought up and down, and the original imagined excitement did not appear, and it seems that many scenes in the movie are fictional and do not conform to the child's physiological reality.

After more than 160 kilometers of driving, my wife woke me up and said, "Helan Mountain has arrived, call my son up to see the mountain." ”

The weather in the mountains is changeable. At first, the road into the mountain was gentle, and the sun was straight and a little baked. There are no clouds in the sky. Entering the mountain, the sky was still blue and calm, but the wind was rushing overhead. It felt a little cold in the car. The further we went, the more beautiful the mountains became, and my son and I followed the car to look at the peaks and valleys covered by dense grass on the mountain. The car was winding around in the mountains, and the sun was playing hide and seek with us. "Joy, is the view in the mountains beautiful?" I asked.

"Beauty," said the son, "Dad, how do you see that there is such a long earthen wall on the mountain?"

"That's not an earthen wall. It's the Great Wall. ”

"Liar. The Great Wall is beautiful and there are photos in the book. ”

"The Great Wall in the book is a high-level Great Wall, called the Badaling Great Wall. It can run chariots on it, and the army can fight. ”

"Then on this Great Wall, one can't run a car, and the other can't stand people, what's the use?"

"Can the horse get over?"

"No, you can't. ”

"In ancient times, it was mainly cavalry that fought here. Do you think the Great Wall of Earth is useful?"

"Yes, very useful, I can't jump over it. There are such scenes in the game. "My son had an association.

When I arrived in Yinchuan and got on the train, my son and I played poker, and after playing for a while, he couldn't sit still and walked around in the carriage. It's a great opportunity to hone your guts. The train leaves Linhe and runs for more than an hour to Baotou. "Joy, do you dare to go to the last carriage?" I said, "if you dare, I'll buy you something to eat." ”

The son stood there frowning and shrugging, with some reason in his mouth. Obviously, in the face of so many strangers, he didn't have the guts.

"Joy, you see not far behind. "We stuck our heads out of the window and counted, and there were five cars behind us.

"Joy, you are a brave man, and it is strange that you dare not walk so many carriages during the day. I said with encouragement.

"What if the bad guys take me away?"

"The train doesn't stop for an hour, and the five carriages are only more than 100 meters, and if you don't come back in 20 minutes, Dad will report to the police uncle to catch the bad guys. ”

Two or three minutes later, the son timidly walked backwards amid the sound of encouragement. It was the first time he had left his parents and walked into a completely unfamiliar environment, where there was no one he knew, no one he knew, no environment he knew.

Twenty minutes later, my wife couldn't hold her breath and asked me to hurry to find my son. "Wang Xile is back," I said, pointing to the front door, "and when he comes, we'll cover his face with a newspaper to see if he can find him." ”

The son came over, looked at both ends, and walked over. We put down the newspaper and watched him slowly walk to the carriage in front of us. I stood up and walked over to stop him. He threw himself into my arms and said, "Daddy, I'm scared to death! ”

"You've walked by, how can you find it. ”

"It's gone. Why didn't I find out?!" He said with a glare.

"The carriages all look the same, and you can only find them by remembering the carriage number. I went back to my seat and said, "What do people do in school?"

"Learn knowledge and strive to get good grades. ”

"Not true. Learning knowledge is to prepare for learning to overcome difficulties and walk the world. You learned a lot of safety knowledge in school, and you won the second place in the safety knowledge competition. But you can't find your parents in these few carriages, which means that your learning of safety knowledge is useless. I said.

"Dad, how can I remember the seats in so many carriages?"

"Do you know the license plate number?"

"The train also has a license plate number! Where is it?"

"At both ends of the carriage. Daddy takes you to see it. ”

"We are car number six. ”

"Are you at the end of the road?"

"It's here. ”

"See what?"

"There was no one in the last car, it was bags and boxes and stuff. The door doesn't open, you can't get in. ”

"That's a postal car. You're such a brave guy. I said.

The beauty of success quickly spread throughout my son's body. He had the courage to walk back and forth in front of the many strangers in the carriage.

In the afternoon, it was time for the dining car to start eating. The atmosphere in the carriage was enthusiastic, and a few children in the adjacent seats went to the dining car with their parents to eat, and their sons were also going. I said, "You can go, but there is one condition." ”

"What conditions?"

"The last time the reconnaissance mission was completed very well, this time forward, the distance is farther, and I will go to dinner after reporting the reconnaissance situation. Do you dare to go?"

"Why don't you dare. ”

After a while, my son returned. He said, "Dad, there are a lot of people eating in the dining car, the carriage on the other side of the dining car can sleep, there are few people in the aisle, you can run, and there is no one in the last carriage, and you can still see the front of the car." ”

"Joy, you have done a brilliant reconnaissance mission. How could it be so fast?"

"The train only has a car number six, and as long as it's not car number six, I pass it quickly, so it's very fast. ”

"Clever. I said, "A car with no one is called a commuter car, and it is a place where the train staff rests." ”

"Dad, the front compartment can sleep, let's go there!"

"That's called a sleeper car, and we're called a hard-seat car. We had a short distance and there was no need to sit in a sleeper. What ticket to buy, what carriage to take, this is the rule, you can't sit indiscriminately. ”

"Understood. ”

The son and his wife went to dinner. An elder on the other side said to me, "Young man, your son is really bold. ”

When I heard this, I thanked him and thought to myself: Wang Xile has been criticized the most since he went to school, and his punishment is also a matter of convenience to his parents, so why hasn't he become less bold and has become more and more likeable? From a philosophical point of view, a person with a great spirit often has the ability to make profound things simple. So, what does Wang Xile's self-control and courage improve at the same time in the midst of setbacks? What supports him to face failure and develop with a positive attitude? What does it imply that he plays his game so fiercely and his learning steadily improves?

Change is the law of life. Where is the root of a child's change? When something reaches its peak, something new must take its place, and how does the child's inner thing take its place? Wang Xile is so easy to grow bold, what causes this change? What is its essence?

Since he was a child, the son has been circulating in school education, family education, play education, and field education, intentionally or unintentionally, and there is a relatively fixed cycle, and the rotation of the cycle is the only law for things to go to the next level. This is the core of the I Ching. Did Wang Xile inadvertently follow the science of cycles in his life, ensuring that he could get the necessary rest physically and mentally after failure, so that his confidence would have a chance to recover, and before the next failure came, the impact of the previous failure had been greatly reduced, and he had the energy to try and fail again and bear the failure?

Waves, vibrations, and cycles play an important role in all aspects of nature, society, and personal life. These movements are usually natural and harmonious, never jumping from one extreme to the other, forming a steady rhythm up and down, back and forth, and coming and going. Now my son's school life is not balanced, but in an extremely irrational state of extreme pursuit of grades, and it is really hard to say what is working.

"Dad, eat fish. My son's sudden voice interrupted my thoughts.

"So big!"

"The good son you have cultivated, it is really a must to eat and order, what is expensive to eat, I fell in love with this big live fish at a glance, I said I couldn't eat it, he said you will help, help, this is the merit of the son," the wife said, "This fish is two catties!"

"Joy, the aunt who sells goods in the cart has just passed, you go and buy me a beer, and I will destroy this fish. The son took the money and ran forward.

At 10 o'clock in the evening, we stayed overnight in Hoh. The next morning, we entered the People's Park from the north gate. He hadn't gone far when a middle-aged man came over and said, "Comrade, can you please do me a favor?"

"Help what?"

"I'm a park ranger, my key is locked in the studio, I want you to let your kids get through the window, we've been trying for a while. Can you help?" said the park water manager anxiously.

"Yes. ”

"Thank you so much! I begged several parents but none of them agreed. ”

We turned right and walked about 100 meters to see a few people standing under the window of a house, hooking the key with a wire, but the key was too far away to hook it. "Quick, let this kid get in," the man under the window shot a hopeful look in his eyes.

With the cooperation of the two managers, the son finally climbed in through the only window above where he could enter. In order to express their gratitude, the staff gave Wang Xile a large drink, but he was very happy.

"Would you like to help others?" I asked after a few steps.

"Good. The son replied.

Transferred to the animal area, "hahaha" The son suddenly sat in the open space, came to a few martial arts exercises, and said that he drank too much and his stomach was a little uncomfortable, and he was doing exercises. I said it was fake, but he didn't believe it, he said that it was often shown on TV, how could it be fake! A person with high kung fu can force out the wine and can't get drunk at all, unlike his father, who has no kung fu and gets drunk when he drinks. Not only did my son not believe me, but he also classified me as someone who didn't know kung fu and got drunk when he drank. At this time, it was close to noon, the weather was hot, and after my son "haha" a few times in a row, his body was not too uncomfortable. He said, "Dad, my stomach is fine, is kung fu fake? I have been practicing kung fu for many years since kindergarten. ”

I smiled wryly, speechless......

After lunch, we took the shuttle bus, and at two o'clock we arrived at my wife's uncle's house, which was not far from Hoh. The son is a person who has been tempered in nature, and his popularity ability is quickly revealed. After a while, I was playing with a few children of similar size nearby.

In the evening, the adults chatted on the kang, and the son did his homework on the square table. "Wang Xile's study must be good. The eldest aunt said. My aunt is a primary school teacher with more than 20 years of teaching experience.

"No, I can't. The test results were very bad. The wife said.

"This kid has been playing all afternoon, and now so many people are laughing, and one person can sit down and do his homework, and I think this kid will be a piece of reading material in the future. The eldest aunt said.

"This boy is also very bold," said the uncle, "and when noon comes, he disappears in a blink of an eye, and when I go out he leads the neighbor's children to play with him." ”

In an unfamiliar environment, I saw my son's potential to be gregarious.

In the middle of the night, I heard my son's breathing sound a little abnormal. I asked, "Joy, what's wrong?"

"It's fine. ”

After a while, I felt that his voice was getting more and more wrong. There seemed to be something in his body urging him to turn his old time, but he really wanted to lie quietly on the kang and be quiet, so as not to affect the rest of adults. After a while, it seemed that something in his body made him gradually lose his resistance, and the churning sound became louder and louder. "Joy, what's wrong with you?" I pulled the lamp in the dark.

At first glance, Wang Xile had a painful expression on his face, but he still didn't want to cause trouble to the adults. "Dad, I'm fine. The son gritted his teeth and said.

The education of life has given the son something internal. I thought about it for a moment and said, "What's okay, is it a bad stomach?"

"My stomach hurts, but I can hold on. The son said.

The grown-ups woke up. "Go to the hospital right away, go right away, go right away," the aunt and uncle said in a guilty tone. They are ready to go out with something. This is a rural area, and there are many inconveniences in the middle of the night, with black lights and blind fires. I said, "It's a little uncomfortable, and the heavy water in the mountains has caused physical discomfort, so it's okay, I can handle it." ”

I gave my son medicine and asked him to get into my bed, and then I used his labor acupoint to cover the Shenque acupoint, that is, to put the palm of my hand on the belly. Then teach him the abdominal exhalation. After a while, the stomach was not too uncomfortable, and the son slept peacefully.

The next day, when the child woke up, the aunt asked kindly, "Joy, is your stomach still uncomfortable, what do you want to eat?"

"It's not uncomfortable. I eat what adults eat. ”

"There are too few such children now, and I am not used to myself," said the eldest aunt, "and I am happy, my uncle and grandmother will make you steamed egg cakes." ”

"No, it's too much trouble. The wife said.

"No trouble, no trouble, joy this child is so likable. The eldest aunt said.

Two days later, we took a car to my wife's father's house in Baotou District, a small village with more than a dozen families. When we arrived at night, when we saw that the big daddy's house was tiled, it was the richest family in the village. It turned out that in addition to working in the field, Daddy also learned a welding craft.

That afternoon, I asked to go down to the field to do farm work, "Isn't this a joke! How can there be any reason to let the guests work?" "I'm just here to do farm work, and it's a pity that I can't do farm work. I pleaded.

In the end, Big Daddy gave in. He asked his eldest grandson to drive the donkey cart to take us to mow the grass, and after less than an hour, the nephew didn't want to do it, "a little is enough, let them mow it tomorrow," the nephew's tone carried an abhorrence for labor. I had no choice but to beckon Wang Xile to go back with me.

The next day, I cut two large carts of grass, and Wang Xile also played well. "Alas, there are not many children in the countryside who can work like this now!" he said with hope after drinking and chatting with his eldest father in the evening, "The eldest grandson studied well when he was a child, and the family didn't let him do anything, hoping that he could be admitted to university, and he didn't even get into high school last year." The little granddaughter is in the second year of junior high school this year, and she is one of the top three students, and we have created all the conditions, no matter how busy the work in the field is, it can't affect her studies, I hope she won't be like his brother. ”

Hearing this, I sighed: the eldest grandson has failed, but the parents hope that the younger grandson will succeed on the same path. What does this mean? When it comes to children's learning, whether in rural or urban areas, people always isolate it from their lives, what can this bring to society? Learning does not serve labor, does not serve life, can learning be called learning? I dare say that the future era of Chinese despising labor will not be too far away.

On the night of leaving, my aunt said to me, "In the past two days, after watching the joy dinner, no one cares and goes to do my homework by myself. Look at our dead girl, people don't rush to watch TV. ”

I smiled, but the smile was bitter.

On the day of the end of the trip, we departed from Uda in the evening, and due to the delay of the train on the way, the train arrived at Kelantai at 5 o'clock in the morning. It was too late and there was no train to pick up at the station, so a group of us had to walk home. Many children who are frightened at night either cry or lose their temper with adults along the way. Having children is much happier than Wang's. The son was on the road for nearly two kilometers, and he didn't get an adult to hug him, which made his fellow travelers envious. Some of them praised the king's joy and counted their children, but the children paid no attention to the adults.

When I got home, I said, "Joy, those children are crying, some of them are older than you, have you ever thought about making a fuss and letting the adults pick you up?"

"Nope. ”

"Why?"

"I don't know. But I think those kids are boring. The son said seriously.

"Particularly boring" is a manifestation of psychological maturity, and book knowledge will not bring this to children.