Today, Friday, the weather is exceptionally nice, no wind, quite warm, like sometimes autumn skies. In the early winter, there was such a good weather in energy conservation, and a few of our friends felt that we should celebrate and enjoy the "autumn" in winter. I went to my wife's office and told her that she wasn't going home for dinner today, and my wife said that she was going out to eat too, and it was business.

I had no choice but to take my son on it. A colleague at the restaurant asked, "Wang Xile, how are you studying?"

"Uncle, I don't study well. The son said shyly.

"Who says it's bad, Chinese and mathematics are above 80 points, and all of them are excellent. "I don't care what others think, I try my best to cheer for my son in front of everyone.

After a while, the son was full. "Eat enough to play. I whispered.

Since the son left the table, the tavern and outside the tavern were filled with the sound of brisk footsteps and the whispering of children running around. "Whose child is this?" called the waiter.

"My family's. "I hurried over.

"It's hot stuff everywhere right now. It's scary for a child to run like this. The waiter said.

I convinced my son to sit down again, "It's not interesting, it's not interesting." His thin voice sounded like a moan. Finally, he asked anxiously, "Dad, how long will it take for you to finish drinking?"

"About half past ten. ”

The son looked up at his watch and it was not yet eight o'clock. He put his arm around my neck, gently pointed it to my ear, and said, "Dad, I want to go home." ”

"Dad and Uncle haven't finished eating yet, it's so dark, what's going on for you?"

"I'm going back alone, and it's not far away. The son said nonchalantly.

"You're not afraid?"

"What's there to be afraid of. ”

Regardless of whether I agreed or not, my son picked up his schoolbag and went home. After a while, a friend suddenly asked me what about Wang Xile. "Home. I said.

"Alone?" the colleague opened his mouth.

"Yes. ”

"My son is in his third year of junior high school, and he doesn't even dare to go out of the house when it's dark. It's unbelievable that your son is so young and dares to come home alone. ”

"It's nothing. Children are timid, mainly because when they were young, adults used ghost stories to form a fear of darkness in children's hearts in order to coax children. As soon as you come into contact with darkness, you will have the incarnation of a ghost in your heart. I said.

"When I was a kid, I did tell a lot of ghost stories to my kids. My friend said pertinently.

"I mainly told Wang Xile 'Chinese and Foreign Mythological Stories', which are full of wisdom, courage and unity, and I especially encouraged Wang Xile to participate in outdoor activities, and gradually became more and more courageous. ”

The friend nodded and said, "Although my son is quite tall but too wilted, he used to think that as long as he studies well, he doesn't have to worry about anything else, but now it seems that there is indeed a problem with this idea." ”

The weather in early winter can change, and the wind is blowing today after yesterday when it was fine. As soon as I woke up in the morning, Bacon's "On Habits and Education" couldn't help but toss in my head. I wanted to wake up my son for a while, but I didn't want to, but when I hesitated, my son ran over by himself and urged, "Dad, it's half past six, why don't you get up?"

"It's Saturday, so you can sleep in. ”

"Didn't you say that you should develop the habit of going to bed early and waking up early?" my son's words embarrassed me. He said, "Daddy, didn't you think about drinking too much yesterday?"

"It's not. I said, "Daddy gets up and goes for a walk, and you have to sleep." ”

"Why?" asked the son earnestly.

"Dad doesn't know either, but you'll have to sleep on your day off. Don't ask, go to sleep, get up at ten o'clock. I said in a commanding tone.

The son jumped upward, turned and ran. I thought he had gone to bed, but he brought me a glass of water and said, "Dad, you drank yesterday, and this is the boiled water I gave you cold." ”

The love contained in a calf licking affection changed the appearance of every cell of me like a bullet in an instant. I rejoice in the new circumstances that my son has created for the family, and it also increases my responsibility to raise my young life. I hurriedly said:

"Thank you, thank you!

My son went to bed and slept in. It was the first time he had slept in school and hadn't gotten up until eleven o'clock.

"Do you have a nervous problem, you can't be strict all of a sudden, and you are lazy all of a sudden, and you can't sleep when you sleep. The wife said puzzled.

"The habit of diligence is not formed by getting up early every day, and the habit of studying is not formed by studying every day. Habit is a philosophy, a spiritual thing, a kind of inner strength, once generated, it will automatically produce diligence and effort for the goal of recognition, and does not need to be forced by others. I hurriedly explained, for fear that I would scold my wife again if I was half a beat slower.

"What are you talking about? I don't understand. But I know that sleeping lazily does not create the habit of waking up early, and that if you don't study consistently, you will not develop a study habit since ancient times. The wife's voice was even more sonorous.

"The good habits of adults are formed through the tempering of life, but it is extremely unscientific for us to directly use the system to demand children. ”

"Whose children don't get up early and study late to get a little bit of success, and you will learn the East and the West; today this theory, tomorrow that science. What are you willing to toss and toss, anyway, your Wang family is such a male grandson, who will not study well, be admitted to a good university, or find a good job in the future, and you will have good fruits to eat. I'm really full, and I have nothing to do. The wife said indignantly.

"I know what kind of education can make my son affectionate and righteous. In the past, I trained students on sports teams, regardless of whether they studied well or badly, and what the current social outcome is. It is a testament to my ability to educate. ”

"I hope so, I hope so!" said his wife, speaking with great intensity.

As soon as the war at home stopped, the wind in the alley could be heard clearly. At half past eleven, my wife asked me to wake up my son and get ready for dinner. I walked into my son's bedroom, everything was quiet, my son's mouth was open in a deep sleep, and the peaceful appearance made my lips twitch, and I couldn't bear to scream.

"Are you up, what are you still rubbing?" the wife's cry woke up the son.

"Dad, what time is it?"

"It's half past eleven. Get up. ”

The son turned over, knelt down and crawled on the bed in the quilt, and his little buttocks lifted the quilt like a small hill. It took more than ten seconds before his hand stretched out the quilt, put it on the pillow and stretched it sweetly, "It's so comfortable, it's so comfortable!" After stretching, he poked his head out. Looking at the pearly glow on my son's cheeks, I realized how important getting enough sleep is for my child's health.

After lunch, I noticed that my son was more attentive when he was doing memory training, but he couldn't do his homework. One moment here, one moment there, hands often get things. I told him several times to no avail. The homework was not finished until more than three o'clock. At this time, the wind stopped, the sky became overcast, and the son picked up his butt and ran outside to play with the children. But he came back at five o'clock, "Why did you come back so early?" I asked curiously.

"It's boring, it's really boring, and I can't find a single child. The son said disappointedly.

Alas, the current variety of study classes makes it so difficult for a child who does not go to school to realize his dream of playing with children on his day off! I think my son is so pitiful, but don't make the child even more pitiful!

"You didn't really look for it. I asked knowingly.

"I didn't look for anything seriously, I even asked my classmate's mother. Ask one and say that you went to the study class, ask one and say that you went to the study class, and you said that I looked for it seriously. The son looked aggrieved.

I stepped forward and put my arm around the child's shoulders to comfort him. "Joy, why are your clothes wet?" I asked.

"It's raining outside. He said heartlessly.

I looked out. Light snow and drizzle are falling gently. The son's clothes didn't get wet inside, but the fire in the house was not strong. I asked my wife to change his clothes, but he refused and said dryly, "I still have to go out, I don't believe I can't find someone to play with." ”

"It's snowing outside, don't go. My wife and I tried to persuade in unison.

"I don't care, I have to find someone to play with today. The son said categorically.

God is so cruel to Chinese children.

"Come, Joy, Daddy to play with you. I said.

"It's not fun to play with adults. ”

I had an idea and said, "Adults can play with things, and there are also things that children like." ”

"What?"

"Playing poker. I said, "My lord plays poker in the senior center, and he plays for half a day, and sometimes he even forgets to go home for dinner." You think, how much fun it is to play poker. ”

"But I won't. ”

"Daddy taught you. You're smart and you can learn it. ”

"Then try it. ”

The two of us set up for battle. The wife came to cheer on her son. He learns quickly. After a while, I learned the game of "fighting for the top". We had a great time.

The next day was Sunday, and it was a crisp day. The blue sky and the beautiful sunshine don't make it feel like winter. At 10 o'clock in the morning, my son called outside as soon as he got up. He put down the phone and quickly went to the table to eat. I said, "How can you eat without washing your face or brushing your teeth?"

"Dad, don't be in a hurry, the study class ends at half past eleven, and I can't find anyone to play when I'm late. ”

Breakfast was still in his son's stomach, and he rode out of the alley on his small bicycle. Looking at his riding energy, I thought to myself: the current education is really full of disappointment for growing children.

The son was like an arrow that had been shot, but he was gone. It wasn't until around 5 o'clock in the afternoon that he learned from his aunt that Wang Xile was playing in a building community not far away.

"Hide and seek, hide and seek!" a group of children screamed, jumped, and slapped with joy. At this time, they are the happiest children in the world. My son is among them. Since half past six, parents have come over one after another, shouting: "So-and-so, stop playing, it's time to go home and study." So-and-so, don't play, it's time to go home......" The children who were playing were forcibly pulled back by their parents one by one. After a while, there was only one child left. I exclaimed, "King joy." ”

"Dad, why are you here?"

"I came to you to see if you were playing and didn't call you. I said, "The children have gone home, so you can go back to dinner." ”

"I thought I had dinner at my second father's house. The son said, "There is no one to play, so I have to go home." ”

In the era of learning, not allowing children to play has become a common phenomenon in Chinese society, especially the fact that parents and children play together has basically disappeared. But no matter what people think, it can't change the essence of play as the birthplace of family affection. A world without play is a world without mercy. This is an animality that does not depend on human will.