In mid-November, the weather cooled. In the morning, my body was dragged by the hot quilt and refused to come out. "The stupid bird flies first, the stupid bird flies first. Thinking of this, I quickly sat up from the bed, got dressed, went to the living room, turned on the stereo, and the classic music such as "Destiny", "Ode to Happiness", "Morning Song" and "Swan Lake" made people enter another world.

Music is a combination of natural beauty and human beauty, as well as a language of emotions and moods. Music has a subtle special role in people's spiritual growth, and is especially conducive to the development of spiritual will. However, whether a person can feel and comprehend the language of music does not depend on how much musical knowledge and skills he has mastered, but whether he can read music from nature. Only those who read music from nature can gain strength and beauty from music.

"Dad, sign. My son came over with his homework book and said.

"Done with it?"

"It's over. ”

After signing, my son goes to school, and we go to work. When I came to the office, I went for a walk outside the campus after tidying up my housekeeping, which is also my daily habit. When I came back from a walk at eight o'clock, I was dumbfounded as soon as I entered my wife's office. I saw Wang Xile sitting there with his back to me writing, "Hmm, Xile, why are you here?" I asked in amazement.

The son jumped up from his chair like a frightened bird, the pencil in his hand fell to the ground, and two lines of tears poured down like a floodgate.

"You're embarrassed to ask, are you nervous? How do you check your son's homework? He didn't finish his homework. "The wife's emotions reached an extreme.

My heart was pounding. I think this kid is too bold, and it's hard to go on like this.

"You just went out in the morning, Teacher Liu called, I heard the situation in the past, it made me angry, I didn't say a word, I even got my schoolbag and son back in the class. If you don't want to miss it, forget it, you are his father, what do you think?" The wife finished her words in one breath with complaint, and even more with the "love" of hatred that iron is not steel.

Listening to my wife's counts, my heart pounded. The wife made the most terrible move to the child's self-esteem. It's really true to the word, unequivocally.

"Didn't you say you're done with your homework?" I asked solemnly.

"It's finished" the son's voice is barely audible.

"What's over. The teacher asked him to correct the mistakes, and he didn't change the one that the teacher had corrected. The wife said in a strange tone.

I was very strange and asked, "What do you mean that the teacher has not changed?"

"See for yourself. The wife looked unhappy.

After taking the homework book, I was amused by my son's unexpected correction method, and said, "Good Wang Xile, you have corrected the teacher without changing it, you will really steal the opportunity." ”

"Why did you change that?"

"The teacher has changed it, and I already know that it is correct, so I don't think I need to change it. The son said cautiously.

"This is not true. The main thing is not wanting to write something. I took his hand and said kindly, "It can't be like this anymore." ”

The son nodded vigorously.

"Now that I'm back, I'll make up my homework and study on my own to learn something in the morning. I touched his head and said.

The son breathed a sigh of relief and dried his tears. During the second period, my son came to my office with a book and a workbook and said that he had finished his homework and homework for the new class.

"I'm done with my homework for the new class?" I thought to myself, "if you have the ability, why don't you finish your homework at home?" ”

"Hmm"

"Let's go out and play. "After that, I continued to do my thing. But my son stood aside and didn't leave, and I said, "What else is the matter with you?"

He hesitated for a moment and said, "Dad, I'll discuss something with you." You certainly won't agree. ”

"What's the matter?"

"I want to play, play, play the computer game Red Alert. The son stammered tentatively.

"Why do you think I disagree?"

"I didn't finish my homework, I made a big mistake, how could you let me play!" The son said pitifully.

"Do you think Mom will agree?"

"Mom said son, dad cares, let me ask you. "My son gave me a pleading look.

"Joy, for playing, Daddy will always support you, including today's game. ”

"Dad, you agreed. The son's eyes lit up.

"Of course. But today you write so fast and so well, not because you mean it, but to play the game to please us. ”

"Dad, how do you know?"

"That's the power of knowledge. I said, "It's called psychological speculation." Dad made it clear to you that the idea of writing well in order to play games was wrong. You are a student, studying is your job, just like your parents and many uncles and aunts, you have to do your best to do your job well when you go to work, which is a responsibility. ”

My son nodded vigorously, anxious, and I saw that he was absent-minded and said "Go", and as soon as the words fell, he was gone......

After eating at noon, my son said, "Dad, why should I go back to work in the afternoon?

"What's embarrassing about the kids. The wife said.

"Everyone has self-esteem. A child's self-esteem needs to be cared for. I said unceremoniously.

"Joy, Daddy will send you in a moment. I said calmly.

"Thank you Dad, thank you Dad. ”

Listening to my son's thanks, my heart was full of joy.

In recent years, under the requirements of the two basic standards, the school buildings are generally the most beautiful in that place, and the same is true of the Jilan Taigong Children's Primary School. It is located at the northern end of Jilantai Town, Alxa League, Inner Mongolia, and there is a middle school and a technical school behind it. The two two-storey teaching buildings of Jilantai Primary School are decorated with yellow decorative materials, which are boxy, simple and magnificent. The flat side of the building is inlaid with white tiles about one meter wide, and there is a red triangular marker in the middle, like a red sun waiting to break through.

The campus of Gilan Taigong Children's Primary School is lined with greenery and the architectural style is eye-catching. But along a 100-metre street just outside the school gate, hawkers can be seen everywhere, with passing vehicles kicking up a lot of dust and delivering food to the vendors. There are many students who stutter this string of incense and that spicy tang in the wind and dust. This will see the school as a lonely bunker, constantly under attack by various stakeholders.

Walking not far from the school gate, I saw a woman in her 30s scolding a little girl under the wall. The more she scolded, the more angry she became, and finally she started fighting. He kept saying: "Why did you only get 99 or 5 points, and how did you lose those 0 or 5 points? You can only score 100 points in the test if you are fed and dressed well one day, and you will only be able to make a difference in the future." Do you know?" the girl stood there honestly and rightfully with tears in her eyes. "Mom is also for your good, I didn't score 100 points since I was a child, and I grew up to suffer like my mother to earn money. The woman said emotionally.

Indeed, it has only been more than 20 years since the reform and opening up, and China's original value system has been beaten to pieces, and at a time when a new price and plant system has not yet been established, or it is impossible to have the opportunity to establish it at all, the road of industrialization that Europe and the United States have walked in the past two or three hundred years has been forcibly placed in front of us, becoming a practical problem that people cannot avoid, and a new law of life is forcing people to catch up. Whether rich, poor, or anyone else, every person's soul and body will be baptized most violently in this storm of life and death. China's fragile and complex society will become even more hectic. There is no other way for people to survive, but to actively respond to the battle in impetuousness to survive. The point is that the impetuosity of education will make some parents have a terrible feeling for their children, and he pins his dreams of life on his children. Most of these feelings are related to promotion and wealth in a materialistic society, and education has become the only hope for realizing their dreams, which leads them to have a special feeling for their children's test scores, making children become scapegoats for their parents' life regrets, and unsatisfactory punching buckets, which can only make society full of hatred in the end......

"Joy, do you know that girl?" I asked, gesturing.

"Recognize. She is Wang Huan of the first class. ”

"This child is going to be in trouble!" I sighed and walked forward, and when I saw my son standing still, I said, "Let's go." ”

"Dad, don't send me. I went to the classroom by myself. The son said suddenly

"Do you dare?"

"Dare. ”

"Excuse me?"

"Excuse me. ”

After saying that, the son ran into the campus.

When I got home in the afternoon, I asked my son why he didn't let me send it. He said: "Wang Huan was beaten with 99 or 5 points in the exam, and I feel that you are really my good father." ”

The son's tone was affectionate and gratifying. I said, "I wonder what you thought?"

"It's my fault for not completing my homework, but I'm so lucky compared to Wang Huan. That's why I won't let you send it. ”

This incident not only had a certain impact on my son, who behaved relatively smoothly in the following week, but also made me realize that my child's bravery comes from the trust of others.

On that day, I repeatedly read the article "On Habits and Education" by the famous British materialist philosopher and scientist Francis Bacon, in which I wrote: People's thoughts are mostly in accordance with their wishes, their speech and words are mostly in accordance with their knowledge and opinions from outside, but their behavior is in accordance with their daily habits. So Machiavelli said it well (though what he was saying was ugly), and that the strength of nature and the depth of words were moving, and that they were unreliable without the habit of reinforcements.

The supremacy of habit is everywhere seen in matters other than superstition, and its power is so strong, even in the midst of bloodshed. It is astonishing that people, after confessions, defenses, promises, exaggerations, continue to do their old habits as if they were inanimate idols, machines that are turned by the wheels of habit.

We can also see the domination or tyranny of habit and see what is going on. Indians (and I'm talking about their philosophers) would lie quietly on a pile of wood and then fight to be burned with their husbands' bodies. In ancient times, the young men of Sparta used to be flogged on the altar of Diana without moving. I remember that in the early years of Queen Elizabeth in England, there was an Irish rebel who had been sentenced to death and petitioned the governor to be hanged with a payslip instead of a noose, because the previous rebels used to use the payslip as usual. In Russia, some monks would sit in a basin of water overnight to atone for their sins until they were frozen in ice. There are many examples of the power of habit in both the spiritual and physical aspects of man. Therefore, since habits are the master of life, people should strive for good habits. If a habit starts at an early age, it is the most perfect habit, which is certain, and this we call education. Education is actually a habit that begins at an early age. It is common to say that in speech, the tongue is softer and more active in childhood than in childhood, can learn all grammar and sounds, and the joints of the limbs are also more flexible, suitable for all kinds of competitions and sports. For it is true that older people are not as good as those who have been raised since childhood, except in some people who have always fixed their minds, but have opened their minds and are ready to be constantly improving, but this is very rare. But if the power of the individual habit is great, the power of the common habit of union is much greater. Because in such a place the example of others can be a lesson for me, the company of others can help me, the competition can stimulate me, and glory makes me proud, so the power of habit in such a place can be said to be at its highest peak. The reproduction of virtue by nature depends on an orderly and disciplined society; For the state and good government only nourish the virtues that have grown, and do not help the seeds of virtue.

In the course of studying the article, I kept saying that "the reproduction of virtue by nature depends on an orderly and disciplined society; For the state and good government only nourish the virtues that have grown, and do not help the seeds of virtue. I think about this sentence and keep asking: What kind of habit is the real habit? What is the essence of the habit? How is the habit cultivated? Take the cultivation of students' study habits as an example, from childhood to adulthood, the school has formulated so many strict learning systems for children, and the arrangements are full from morning to night, even on Sundays. However, many children who scored 100 points in the primary school exam, after entering middle school, began to "cleverly" resist learning, and by the time they graduated from junior high school, many of them became disgusted with students. This shows that we do not conform to the laws of learning and development in the way people cultivate study habits, and more frankly, we lack understanding of the deep-seated things of how to cultivate study habits.

So, what is the nature of habit in modern education? But I only understand that exam-oriented education advocates the cultivation of mechanical habits. It focuses on the causal relationship between institutions and skills, and sees the ready-made means in front of it as an expedient measure to cultivate students' habits and improve learning efficiency. Considering teaching skills as the essence of education, we focus on formulating rules and regulations for managing students, studying special teaching methods, and analyzing teaching materials. It ignores the development of human nature, and neglects to cultivate students' human habits from the real spiritual level and real life of children. The biggest feature of test-oriented education is that it decomposes things into fragmented and measurable parts as much as possible to achieve the education of students. Such education inevitably produces hypocrisy, and society must lack integrity. The biggest hidden danger of this kind of education is to suppress students' inner thoughts, creativity and innate and inexhaustible desire to learn, destroy students' self-transformation function, and finally directly lead to the disappearance of people's learning ability. And once this kind of skillful education produces a bad attitude, it will quickly lead to students' inner harm, and even the entire education system will have disastrous consequences.

It was another Friday, and I met Mr. Liu at work at noon, and I asked Wang Xile how he was doing this week. "Homework and correction can be completed on time, but if you don't write well, take the time to send it to the study class to practice. She said.

After listening to Mr. Liu's words, I looked at the sun hanging in the sky and became proud in my chest. I can't even explain how it feels. The son who feels that he is mischievous and poor in his studies will soon come out of the disadvantageous situation in his studies. "Mr. Wang, I'm here. "I snapped to my senses. Along the way, I didn't know what Mr. Liu said to me, and I was embarrassed to say goodbye to Mr. Liu.

In the afternoon extracurricular activities, I stood on the playground. "Daddy, Daddy," the son shouted as he ran in from the school gate. With his arms like a bird, a pair of bright eyes, and a mouth as red as a pomegranate, he showed the world his vigorous vitality. "I've got a little red flower. Daddy, I've got a little red flower!" said my son, who ran up to me and took my hand. Looking at my son's cheerful appearance, I hurriedly leaned down and kissed him on the forehead, saying, "Son, you are awesome!" Then he lifted him up and turned him in the opposite direction.

"Daddy, put me down, I need to go and tell Mommy. I'll have to go back to cleaning later. ”

My son turned around and ran, looking at his back, I put away my smile and thought to myself, "What's so rare about little red flowers, isn't there too many stickers in kindergarten?" It seems that our understanding of psychology is only superficial.