International Children's Day is approaching. That day, my son said, "Dad, the teacher said 'June 1st' and asked each student to make something to promote themselves, what should I do?"

As soon as I heard it, I was happy, and pointed to the self-propaganda column pressed down the glass plate of the desk and said: "What you did during the holiday is your best work to promote yourself, and it is estimated that there is no second student in the school who has such a brilliant record!"

"Definitely. The son said confidently.

At noon, the children went to school with the billboards of their published works. In the afternoon, he came home with a depressed expression and said, "Dad, the teacher said that I don't want these things, and the school wants all kinds of awards and other things that I have received since I went to school." ”

My son's words gave me a deep chill. When things like awards and honors determine the direction of school evaluation, the school's educational function will be weakened or even disappeared in the most ten years, because all the children's self-efforts except for scores will be regarded as useless. In the face of this confused situation, I should tell Wang Xile about the true judgment of the future, because he has begun to develop the mind to analyze life, and only by constantly strengthening the child's cognition of the reality of life can the spiritual confusion be fundamentally solved. Thinking of this, I said, "Joy, do you want to know why the teacher doesn't want this?"

"Yes. ”

"Because students' test scores are directly linked to the teacher's money, the teacher only acknowledges what is related to the score. ”

"I understand, I understand, I understand these things. ”

"Got what?"

"After I understand it, study hard and strive to get a good score in the exam so that the teacher will admit me. ”

"Joy, if you do that, you will fall into the quagmire of learning, and it will be difficult for you to gain spiritual strength in your heart, and it will be difficult to defeat strong opponents. Some of the students trained by Dad are national second-class athletes, and there are many of them who are particularly good at learning, and how to train students to be good at competing heroes and achieve deep knowledge in life. ”

"What do you mean by national second for athletes?" asked his son.

"The national second-level athlete is a national standard for the level of sports. ”

"How far is a national second-level athlete?" the son immediately asked about the project he was interested in.

"Six meters five. ”

After I finished speaking, Wang Xile's expression did not change. When I measured the distance with a ruler, he exclaimed, "Who can jump so far?!"

"Six of the students trained by my father jumped this far, and some of them were close to seven meters. ”

"Seven meters!" The son said in amazement.

"Good athletic performance is not what makes Dad feel successful, and during the training process, Dad only focuses on a big problem that is related to the life or failure of the person. ”

"What's the big deal?"

"Sportsmanship. ”

"What do you mean by sportsmanship?"

"Sportsmanship is the spirit of not being afraid of difficulties and congratulating your opponents. This spirit will keep you progressing forever. ”

"I don't understand. What does that mean?"

"For example, if someone beats you in the middle of playing, you can admit your defeat while still praising your opponent's skill for being better than you, and humbly learning from your opponent. ”

"It can't be. It's also too hard. When we play, whoever loses will immediately quarrel, and often want to beat up the opponent. I've been playing for so many years, and I've never seen a child admit that his skills are inferior to his opponent, and when he loses, he always finds fault with his opponent, and always finds reasons to say that his opponent is cheating. ”

"Joy and the courage to admit failure are the greatest courages in life. It doesn't matter what happens when you play, it's important to understand in your heart that running fast and jumping high is just a matter of physical strength, and sportsmanship is a kind of self-improvement and helping others to be strong, it is difficult to accumulate and has the power to change human nature. ”

During the conversation, the son's unpleasantness gradually disappeared.