In mid-June, my son told me that he had finished all his homework during the SARS holiday. I made an Amitabha gesture with my hands crossed in front of my chest and said, "That's amazing! But Dad wanted to know what to do with the one-hour study rule a day after you finish your homework. ”

There was silence.

I saw that my son had a difficult face, and I knew that he finished his homework so quickly because he didn't write homework in the future, and he focused so much on studying for an hour in order to play. I said in a consultative tone, "Joy, how to arrange that hour of study, can I tell you?"

"Okay. ”

I thought about it for a while, and thought to myself: people's destiny should depend on hard work, if a goal is achieved but can not enjoy the fruits of success, then people no longer work hard for the goal, not the iron law of human nature transferred by human will. It should be admitted that at this age, play is everything in life for children, and they must find a balance between play and learning at all times, and the proposal of new learning tasks must not be higher than the requirements of homework.

I glanced at my son, who was happy to finish his homework and worried about his new study tasks. In order to appropriately propose a new study task for my son, I said, "Joy, tell me why you finished your homework so quickly?"

"Now there are a lot of children outside, and I can find someone to play in the morning and afternoon, so I want to finish my homework early and play conveniently. ”

"But the one-hour study system is used to exercise self-control, and it is also long-term. ”

"Then hold on!" He whispered.

In his tone, the son revealed a hundred reluctances.

"Joy, I want to learn to complete these three tasks in the next hour: 1. Sing a song aloud, 2. Understand a problem in "Happy Math", and 3. Find a question that interests me from "Tell me, why" and tell it to Dad. The completion of these three tasks counts as the completion of the one-hour learning task. ”

"Really. ”

"Really," I said, "it's hot now, and I'm going to take you to the pool at noon to learn how to swim, and I hope you'll learn it soon, because the earth is a water polo." “

"Dad, let's go swim today, let's go swim. ”

The son's wit exploded. He took my hand and danced, his innocent smile on his face, showing the nature of human beings who are naturally athletic.

At one o'clock in the afternoon, the scorching sun was in the sky, the scorching sun was shining white, and the earth was like a fire. My son and I walked quickly to the pool, not far from home. A hundred meters away from the pool, his son screamed in surprise, "Great, there are so many little dolls!" and he ran forward. I strode forward and shouted:

"Slow down. ”

By the time I got into the pool, my son had already undressed and rushed to the children's pool. His body was beautiful in the sunlight. The son enters the water aggressively, causing a group of children in the pool to scream in denunciation. The sound startled the snoozing flowers on the wall, and they looked at the pool with red faces, and were covered in the splashing curtains.

I stood by the pool and watched for a moment. My son is much stronger than last year. Last year, I stood in the shallow pool, trembling and shuddering, but this year I got out of the water and had a sense of intimacy with the water. said that he was taking his son to learn to swim, but in fact, he was purely watching him and other children play in the water. There is choking in the water, but there is no danger in the shallow water. Whenever it happens to choke on water, I would say that if it's in a juvenile pool, or a little deeper, you'll drown.

Choking on water, the son felt what it meant to be "drowned" by water from the degree of discomfort in his body, and realized what it meant to "die". He accepted the advice of the adults, and said several times that if I didn't get the approval of the adults, I would never go to the juvenile pool, let alone the adult pool. ”

I swam with my son for two weeks, and he didn't have much interest in learning to swim formally, so he liked to wrench with the children in groups to make each other bad, but I saw that he was swimming in the water, and he had the ability to be safe and free in the shallow water, and he had a sense of safety in life and death, so I didn't go to the pool with him.