Grandma gave birth to a total of four children, and Dad is the eldest, and everything in the family will be in his hands first. He went to join the army after graduating from junior high school, and it is said that before joining the army, he was a typical child of someone else's family. It's not that he's good at studying, but he's good-looking, diligent and sensible, and he writes well. Everyone went to watch the once-in-a-time Ba Ba movie, and he stayed at home alone to pull the palm mat. When he was about to be discharged from the army, his grandparents borrowed money to buy a Phoenix brand bicycle, took the train, reversed the bus, and carried it to the troops in the mountains. So, my father's job was settled and he was assigned to the town's medicinal herb company.

My grandmother's father was born in a Jiangnan family, and was appointed to Citibank in the United States during the Republic of China, and moved to Chengdu with his family for work. He was exiled to the countryside during a certain movement, so his grandmother changed from a young lady to a village teacher, and was introduced to marry his grandfather, who worked in a state unit. My grandparents wanted a son, and after giving birth to four daughters, they finally got their wish. Mother Xing 3 is the most beautiful of the four sisters. Although the five children are the most favored by their grandparents, they are also treated equally in their studies, and each child has obtained a high school diploma. My mother's abacus is first-class in the city, and the speed of counting money is fast enough, and after the assessment, she was assigned to work in the bank.

At that time, most people still attached more importance to the right person. But on the contrary, Mom and Dad, who have many gaps, overcame many difficulties and finally came together.

Their acquaintance stemmed from an uncle who showed a movie in the town's cinema, and was nicknamed "Qiu Movie". After his father worked, he began to make friends, whether good or bad, as long as he could talk to him, he was his friend, including this "Qiu Movie". This Uncle Qiu is my mother's neighbor and happens to be my mother's classmate. It may be that one day on a whim, my mother, who felt that she was as beautiful as a flower, happened to be a match for my handsome and dashing father, so she became a matchmaker and introduced the two to each other.

The first date was, of course, watching a movie, and I can almost imagine what they were dating at the time. Although my father had many friends, he didn't talk much, and my mother had a strict upbringing and would not take the initiative to speak, so the two of them watched the whole movie in almost silence. Speaking of which, I have to admire this "Qiu Movie", and later under his arrangement, and played the role of "light bulb" many times, Mom and Dad finally confirmed the relationship.

Mom seems to be very interested in Dad's life, going up to the mountains to hunt birds, going down to the river to fish, and a bunch of interesting friends, all of which have a great attraction for her. If there is anything that attracts her about Dad himself, it is nothing more than the word "righteousness". The experience in the army taught my father to smoke and drink, and it also gave my father a lot of brotherhood. Even if he comes out of the army, no matter who the people around him are in trouble, as long as he knows him, he will help. Call him kind, but it's not, if someone bullies his friend, he will be more ruthless than anyone else.

At that time, I don't know if my father was in love, anyway, my mother's emotional experience was limited to a few letters with the soldier brother in the army, and then the reply was confiscated by my grandmother, and there was no follow-up.

Of course, this relationship was carried out in secret, because the grandparents would never agree to marry the most outstanding-looking daughter to a young man born in the countryside. Perhaps the cultural people of that era were originally self-assured, although they had begun to pay attention to the equality of everyone, but there were still many people who were highly educated and looked down on the mud legs in the countryside, including grandparents.

Paper can't contain the fire, and finally one day, my mother still went out in a high-profile manner, and my grandparents discovered this relationship, so I started a cliché plot of beating mandarin ducks. Of course, the more powerful thing about culture than a stick is the mouth, and they began to use their feelings to understand reason, and found many lobbyists in an attempt to convince their mother to end the relationship.

They thought that their mother's tearful silence was an expression of agreement with the end of the relationship. But a few days later, my mother was still going out frequently, and they started the second strategy. When my mother commutes to and from work, there will be someone with her, and when she is on vacation, she is locked in her room and not allowed to go out. However, there was a "traitor" in the family, and that was my uncle who had collected more postcards with his classmates. On a very ordinary Saturday, my uncle was tempted by a "huge amount of money" of five yuan and unlocked the door that trapped my mother.

I don't know if he was beaten later, anyway, he must have collected more postcards than others.

My mother didn't come back after this time, and cooked the raw rice into cooked rice.

The grandparents are very simple people, and they think that since the girl is with our boy, we should at least be polite for a few times, so they carry a big bag and go to the door to propose their relatives.

At that time, my grandparents were already prejudiced against rural people, not to mention the family that "kidnapped" his daughter. So the nose was not the nose, and the eyes were not eyes, and he pointed out the door and said, "We don't want it, girl, since she is willing to follow you, let us go with her and what you have brought!"

Maybe my grandparents just wanted my mother to experience rural life at that time, her work was still in the county, and she would go back and forth every day, and she would not be able to stand the hardships in less than a month, so she ran back.

But they underestimated their mother's persistence in this relationship. Early in the morning, my dad would ride my bike to my mom and go back to work. After work in the afternoon, I waited at the bus station again, rain or shine.

My grandparents waited and waited, and finally three months later, I waited for the news of my mother's pregnancy.

My grandfather likes to drink, and if he drinks too much, he will scold others, and he will catch anyone and scold whom. On the day he knew that his mother was pregnant, he scolded everyone who was afraid to come out of the atmosphere at home, including his grandmother.

The grandparents came to the door again, and said with a smile: "Seeing that the girl is about to show her belly, the in-laws have set a date, and we must be lively!" Grandpa didn't bombard people out this time, only took off his glasses and wiped them, and said slowly: "If you want to be lively, you should be lively yourself, we won't go." ”

Sure enough, at the wedding, none of my mother's family attended. She took me and married herself like this!

The time after marriage may be happy or unhappy.

Dad, as before, is still very playful, and has no awareness of being married, and his friends are important in everything. Grandma told him many times, but he promised well, turned around and went out again.

Mom is still running back and forth as before, the only thing that has changed is that Dad picks her up less and less, even though she has a big belly.

And so in the spring of '90, I was born!