Two days ago, I saw such a passage in the circle of friends:

Before we graduated, we were good friends who talked about everything, in the first year of graduation, we were friends who kept in touch often, in the second year after graduation, we were friends who kept in touch occasionally, in the third year after graduation, we were friends who didn't talk often, and now, we have become old friends who don't keep in touch. Didn't say goodbye, but we were really separated.

At those turning points in life, each of us seems to have experienced a boom and bust of friendship.

Anan was a buddy I met when I was taking the art exam, and we were training together in Beijing at that time, and the living expenses given by the family were often almost exhausted before the end of the month.

We were both very strong and refused to ask our family for money, and in the last few days of each month, we almost always bought a two-dollar bread, half a person and a half, and we spent most of the year together.

Later, Anan was admitted to university and went to New Zealand to study. At the beginning, I was still looking forward to going to New Zealand to find him, to see the sunrise there, to see the cityscape of Wellington, I installed various travel guide software on my mobile phone, but in the end, it didn't happen.

A few days ago, I suddenly wanted to know how he was doing, so I sent a WeChat message, but the message didn't go out because I received a red exclamation mark: the other party has turned on friend verification.

Cold and summer, our feelings are not consumed in the emotions of laughter and scolding, but they are blown away by the wind on the sea thousands of miles away. At that moment, I stared at the screen of my phone and sat there for a long time.

Later, I slowly figured it out, because of the distance in space, it has been difficult for us to intersect in life and work for so long, and I am no longer the first to confide in the interesting things and troubles in his life, we are easy to ignore the sadness hidden in each other's chat texts, and we can't see each other's busyness.

I thought we would be brothers for life, but we were defeated by distance and drifted away.

But the laughter and laughter in that time, the tears of joy after being moved, and the blurt out after being drunk are not just a scene, but life is like this.

My mother once asked me, "Every time you go back to your hometown, why do you rarely see Dongzi?"

After graduating from elementary school, I dropped out of school and went to work in a factory in the city. By the time I was in high school, he already had his own factory and a car. When I graduated from college, he bought the best house in the city and got married. And in my second year on the job, he already had a baby.

When I was an adult, I chatted with Dongzi, but because of my different experiences, I often didn't have a common topic, and the awkward silence always accounted for the majority. Now that I think about it, he and I haven't even had a drink.

When he got married, I went to help, and many of my childhood friends were there, but everyone only said a few polite words, and I felt out of place with my old friends.

World view, outlook on life, values, these three words read calmly and powerfully, but it is the difference in understanding of these three words that makes me and Dongzi have such a close distance from the end of the world.

Those days that cannot be seen are often counted in years. Everyone experiences their own ups and downs in this cycle, appreciates different scenery, and has different feelings and cognitions. It is these differences in understanding that make "we" different "you" and "me".

If the three views are different, we will be very tired. Dongzi and I have an unspeakable tacit understanding on this point, so we naturally withdrew from each other's circle of friends and did not disturb each other.

Some things seem to be accidental, but they are actually inevitable. Occasionally, we also need to tacitly let go of the previous story, so that the people in the relationship can be freed and the time and energy can be reclaimed and stored for the next more important person.

Maybe it's because we're separated by mountains and rivers and can't see each other, maybe it's because you don't understand my ideas anymore, and I don't want to echo your enthusiasm anymore, maybe it's because you're a bird and I'm a fish in the pond.

We said goodbye last time, but the next time it never came. There is no conflict, no estrangement, just the thread that implicates people between people, which is quietly broken.

I have to admit that friendship is really phased, life is a long road, and everyone can only accompany us for one ride.

Long Yingtai once wrote in the book: It is like a road from a wide plain into the forest, where companions can walk together, happily pushing forward and backward, and foaming with each other. Once in the forest, where the grass and thorns stand in the way, each man concentrates on his own path, looking for his own direction.

Those backs that are drifting away indicate that we are moving towards different stages of life, they may have a more important person to accompany them at this moment, and they must have new friends to discuss their feelings in life, and have more sharing and happiness.

Life is very long, we will always know strangers from acquaintance to acquaintance, although there may be separation, but there is no need to be afraid of this. When we get along, we get along well and make each other's lives fuller, so there will be no regrets after separation.

Even if we are separated, we will still sincerely bless each other. Because, we have been with each other for a while, and you are my most precious friend on that journey.

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